Hey im 18 now and ive had the same problem....I told my mom and she said she had the same problem and it wasnt until she got older till it changed. I no what you mean about people saying its mental reasons..i know i dont worry about my body and i just believe girls like me and you have to wait im afraid .

I am 20 and started having sex when i was 18. My first time it did hurt but after that there whas no feeling. i thought well maybe the first couple of times you can't feel it but then i noticed someting was just not right. After months later of not being able to feel anything i would just lay there and just let my boyfriend do whatever and then after he was done i would just role over and sometimes cry. Well obviously our relationship didn't work out b/c he just got tired of it. The second, third, fourth guy it was the same. Everytime i would tell them i just can't feel it they would say it was no problem but after a while they got tired of it too. now i'm with a guy that i really adore and love and very attracted to and i cannot feel anything with him. i'm at the point where i want to give up b/c i feel like i don't want to even have sex anymore b/c i feel used and i feel like no matter how much he says he cares and that it's ok he will soon get tired and find someone else who doesn't have this problem. i hate when doctors or other ppl say it's a mental thing b/c it is not. i can get aroused and i really want to but it just doesn't happen. it actually makes me depressed b/c i have to live with something that cannot be fixed.

So happy I'm not alone.
I'm 21 and began having sex at 14. Though I believe the reason I am numb to penatration is because I was molested by my uncle when I was 5.
I cannot orgasm from sex in ANY position. with or without lube, clitoral stimulation, oral, forplay...etc.
I can only orgasm by masterbating on my stomach, legs apart, right-hand fingers on my clit, left hand over my right. And ALOT of thrusting.
I believe sex therapy is in my future.

Im pretty sure it is not mental.

I am 22 and like someone mentioned before I was a virgin until I got married so I have no one else to compare to. I have been having sex for 1 1/2 years and I am bored too. I feel lots of pleasure outside but once my husband penetrates I feel no pleasure. I get orgasms really quick on the outside but nothing on the inside. We tried several different things like different positions, foreplay, etc... One thing that works for me but is harder for me to do is for him to rub my outside with his finger while he is inside. This is the only way that works for me so far but I want a better strategy. Does anyone know anything better? If we don't do it that way I feel no pleasure and some discomfort, and after a while it will start a sensation of numb or burning.

i have the same problem as all the rest of you we sould start a group and maybe we would get somewhere

why not try to check some sex video ?
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It's nice to know I'm not alone here. I am 39 years old and was once very sexual - like a guy. I had many partners throughout my life and always enjoyed sex. I used to be told by men that I exuded sexuality, I was at times told I was insatiable - yeah, I could never get enough. I loved to initiate sex and to drive men crazy. I craved it, used to masturbate all the time, and at times felt like I may even have a problem with it (possibly an addiction to it - or men). Basically, I was just full of lust. Constantly. If I wasn't getting it, I was fantasizing about it and masturbating. Until a couple years ago... when I began noticing that I didn't really have the urge to masturbate much anymore. And if I did, my orgasms weren't as intense. Then I stopped lusting after guys. Like if I saw a good looking guy, I'd just observe (like whatever) and move on. Where as in the past, if I saw a good looking guy, I might even approach him! Or at least give him a good look/lust. I am presently in a relationship with a man who is in his mid-20s - yes, he is in his prime. He is very smart, good-looking, and loving. For the most part, we get along quite well. And I am very attracted to him. However, I no longer have a sex drive and when we do have sex, I don't feel much pleasure. Penetration used to feel so good it gave me chills, now I feel nothing. I know it's not him, it's definitely me. It's like I'm an entirely different person than I used to be and it really freaks me out at times when I think about it too much. I feel like a part of me has died and it makes me depressed. My boyfriend has asked me why I never initiate sex (I try to as much as I can, just to please him but I'm really not very interested much of the time) and the worst part is that I just don't produce much lubrication anymore - which makes sex painful for me now (which is also why I don't want to initiate - now I'm also afraid of the pain). I have discussed some of this with my boyfriend and lucky for me, he is very understanding. But he doesn't realize the extent of my issue(s) - not that he should. When I had a voracious sex drive, I could have never understood this. I have talked to several doctors about this and they're just like - "well, you're getting older" or "I hear these complaints quite often" or "it's a mental issue" (which I know in my case it is definitely NOT - I have no hang ups about sex and I'm in a good relationship). But none offer any SOLUTION! What can I do about this? Just accept that a part of me is dead and will never come back? Not one doctor has offered me any good advice. I'm sad and at a loss... I feel like that sexy woman I once was is gone forever =...( I do not want to lose my boyfriend over this one day.