My late father's older brother (Uncle Chas.) is a 78 year old widower with no children. He is quite wealthy having retired from a profitable law practice. He lives alone but some months ago he employed on a three-day-a-week basis, a 19 year old female university student as a housekeeper. She needs the salary to supplement her scholarship endowment. Last week during one of my regular but unannounced visits I found that she was also supplying extra, lets say, bedroom services to Uncle Chas.
After the inturruption we (three of us) sat around, at Chas's request, and discussed what was going on. He was not paying her extra for his extras nor did she require any. She was quite happy with the arrangements as:- a) she did not have time to devote to a relationship with her peer group, b) she avoided "one night stands" as being too risky. c) she could satisfy her sexuality as Chas (with the help of Viagra) would stay erect long enough for her to climax always once sometime twice. e) as she had more stamina and was more versatile she was the "active" partner. d) she had no desires of forming a deep relationship, it was just mutually sexual.
Chas. said that he was enjoying very much the attention of a young female and did not feel that he was taking advantage of her. She had introduced him to modern sexuality ("doggy" style, "Spanish" style also mutual oral) that he had never experienced during his single marriage.
He was dosing 100 mg. Valium three times a week and claimed minimum side effects.
Obviously he is infatuated with this attractive, well spoken, pleasant personality, young Lady.My worries are:-
a) she will eventually escalate thier relationship and become a "live-in" companion.
b) she will eventually divest him of his money.
c) if knowledge of this relationship became public he would loose a coniderable amount of respect he enjoys in the general and in his former business community.
Any one have any CONSTRUCTIVE thoughts?
I certainly hope you don't have a Gold digger. I never actually read/knew of such cases though I have heard bits and pieces.
Well from what I read, it seems that Chas, is very much enjoying himself. How long was he a widower by the way? He worked very hard throughout his life and must have been quite lonely being by himself for quite a time? Shouldn't he have something for himself? I'm not saying that makes this justified, but simply that what should matter most is that he is happy (emotionally) till when his time comes. Losing respect from the public... that is up to him, if he doesn't care, neither should you. He has retired and worked far too long and hard to be put down by the opinions of others. What is wrong with it if she escalates their relationship and get together, so long as she doesn't have other motives? If somehow, which I'm sure this has happened before, they care for each other enough to break through the age differences, congratulations to them? Let them be happy, as mean as this may sound, Chas has already exceeded the expected age of death in men, you do not know when his time will come.
As for if she is after his money... I don't have anything to say. All you have given me were seemingly positive points on her and there is no chance I'd ever meet her to find out what she is all about. So I couldn't possibly judge her and declare her a gold digger. Perhaps your family should find opportunities to get to know her (dinner conversations, etc) and see if she is really some malicious money succubus for yourself. Or find people who know her, does her parents know about this???