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Q: Possibly Pregnant...and Don't Want to Be.

asked by: firebutterfly07 on October 14th, 2007

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Hey guys,
I'm new here on the forum and I really need some help here.

Normally I would be the greatest advocate for a child's right to live, but somehow in my own personal case, I can't let that happen.
I am terribly afraid that I might be pregnant, and I don't want this to be the case.
The guy I was involved with used me and then dropped me...and if it is true that I have his spawn within me...I will not carry it to term.

I hate saying all of this, but I do not want children...sadly enough. I've been too ill all my life for my body to handle the stress of a pregnancy. I may just be overeacting...but I'm going to get a pregnancy test tomorrow to make sure.
I'm horrified at the idea.

Is there a safe way to terminate a pregnancy without having to deal with a doctor...?
Are herbal abortives safe?
How much is it going to cost me to get a medical abortion...if I can take the pills?
How do I find a doctor that will actually do this for me without making a fuss??
My biggest problem right now is transportation...I'm living with a friend up in the mountains of North Carolina, and she's not the type that would understand an abortion...at all.
My car isn't working and it's going to be at least another month before it's fixed...I can't wait that long!!
Like I said in the beginning, I'm absolutely terrified of the prospect, because I have never wanted children.
I'm a career woman trying to finish college and have a life of my own...and I don't need this!
Some people may find all this disgusting..and really I'm disgusted with myself, but I'm willing to accept the consquences of my choices if I am pregnant and I terminate...
Someone please give me some guidance and help! I'm so scared...I never planned to be this kind of woman...or this kind of person.
Please help!

Replies(7)

love_pinkish

replied on October 14th, 2007

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Yes, you should 1st make sure that you are before driving yourself off the wall about it and you may not even be. You should also be more careful if you don't want children, like not having unprotected sex!

Tylanas

replied on October 14th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Re: Possibly Pregnant...and Don't Want to Be.

firebutterfly07 wrote:

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe you are a little more open to why this choice is so necessary?

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I hate saying all of this, but I do not want children...sadly enough. I've been too ill all my life for my body to handle the stress of a pregnancy. I may just be overeacting...but I'm going to get a pregnancy test tomorrow to make sure.
I'm horrified at the idea.

That's okay! It doesn't make you a bad person at ALL. Many women have no desire to have children. You clearly know your own body and your situation clearly enough that you don't want to risk anything, and I can't agree more with you.

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Is there a safe way to terminate a pregnancy without having to deal with a doctor...?
Are herbal abortives safe?

No. I would never suggest an herbal abortion. Doctors are not scary or evil, and they will not hurt you. You are choosing abortion for your health as you said, so please make the healthy choice and get it done the right way by a trained professional.

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How much is it going to cost me to get a medical abortion...if I can take the pills?

There are two kinds of abortions, but it sounds like you want to go the medical route. The pills are normally placed in the vagina against the cervix, so no swallowing needed!

I warn that a medical abortion may be very hard on your body. If you'd like to get it over quickly and relatively painlessly, I'd advise a surgical abortion.

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How do I find a doctor that will actually do this for me without making a fuss??

Easily! There are many places to call, and everything is always private 100%. I think some of the other ladies on here have sources on where to call depending on which state you're in.

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My biggest problem right now is transportation...I'm living with a friend up in the mountains of North Carolina, and she's not the type that would understand an abortion...at all.
My car isn't working and it's going to be at least another month before it's fixed...I can't wait that long!!
Like I said in the beginning, I'm absolutely terrified of the prospect, because I have never wanted children.

You could have her drop you downtown far away from the clinic and say you are going in for wisdom teeth or something, so you'll need a ride back afterwards obviously because you'll be woozy from the anesthesia (especially if you choose surgical). If you're choosing medical, same thing, get dropped off downtown, walk or ride the bus to the clinic, get what you need, and then go home with her. You could even spend an hour or two shopping as cover, since the actual aborting process doesn't start until you insert the pills at home.

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I'm a career woman trying to finish college and have a life of my own...and I don't need this!
Some people may find all this disgusting..and really I'm disgusted with myself, but I'm willing to accept the consquences of my choices if I am pregnant and I terminate...

We would never consider you disgusting! We are pro-choice on this part of the forum, and so we will do all we can to help you!

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Someone please give me some guidance and help! I'm so scared...I never planned to be this kind of woman...or this kind of person.
Please help!

Now that I'm done explaining all of that... Go Take A Test!!! Don't even worry about any of this until you know for sure!!

Tylanas

replied on October 14th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

itsme0606 wrote:

We don't know if she had unprotected sex. A condom, spermicide and any number of things could be involved. It doesn't matter, though. It's still her choice.

love_pinkish

replied on October 15th, 2007

Supporter

Eiri wrote:

itsme0606 wrote:

We don't know if she had unprotected sex. A condom, spermicide and any number of things could be involved. It doesn't matter, though. It's still her choice.

It's more like a suggestion. To anyone who doesn't want to have kids. They shouldn't have unprotected sex or should use some other form of BC. I wasn't saying that she did have unprotected sex.

Carifairy

replied on October 15th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I live in North carolina, and I am give rides to women that do not have transportation.

There is a wonderful clinic in ASHEVILLE called FEMCARE.

I would highly recommend surgical abortion. They give you IV SEDATION, and the staff is awesome!!

http://www.femcare-inc.com/

This is the website, it gives prices and info.

IF YOU NEED A RIDE, I will help you!!

PM me. I live in CHARLOTTE, and I have done this before.

Carifairy

replied on October 15th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

I have references, if you need them..

You are not a bad person AT ALL.

1 in 3 of all women will have at least one abortion in her lifetime, but she may not tell anyone.

You are a woman, you deserve happiness, success, and to live life with a career and 'home;ife' that you want.

I never want children, my husband and I are happy with just 'us', and I have had an abortion.

Carifairy

replied on October 16th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Oh yeah, my inbox was 100% full, you can me now if you need..I just realized it was full.

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