Do Other Depressed People Find It Hard to Be Around People Posted: 10-14-07 20:04pm
I'm depressed. I'm 21, I don't drink
alcohol so I don't join my friends in the
pubs, clubs etc. I don't mind being with
my friends but if I look outside and see
someone I don't know with them or just a
lot of people I won't go out. Or if
someone wants to meet up I can't do it.
Even picking up my bro from the pub I have
to be perfectly sure that no one else will
come in the car with him neither.
I get nervous, panic, angry when around
new people or a lot of people or just
won't notice there igsistance. I can't
even go for a meal with my family I don't
like being in public places much. Its one
of the main reasons why I'm unemployed and
currently doing nothing.
Which leads to more depression of feeling
useless, worthless, hopeless as I'm just
stuck being unhappy.
I'm also past caring to close ones, family
and friends which I don't know why.
I know I'm depressed but its not doing me
so good.
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FoodDRadio
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Posted: 10-15-07 00:30am
Personally...when im around other people,
i feel better, i dont think that
depression is the main cause of your fear
of people...its the result of it. you have
some sort of phobia, you should just talk
to a psychiatrist about it, im 100% sure
that when you get over that, you'll feel
better.
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JackJill
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Posted: 10-15-07 16:50pm
When my depression hits, I usually want to
isolate myself. But this makes the
situation worse. My psychologist told me
when that happens to force myself out. I
end up having a nice time anyways.
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AprilSailor
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Im like that Posted: 06-20-08 11:53am
I agree with you regarding the people
situations and fear of very public places.
I only like a small amount of people
around me and i forget about the things
but if its a large group with some people
i dont know it just does the opposite i
get lonely and depressed. I Think you
should ignore FoodDRadio's comment because
i dont have a 'phobia of people' and a
side effect of sever depression is the
dislike to socialise so its not uncommon
and your not alone there mate.
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 06-23-08 14:40pm
When you start not going anywhere, not
socializing, you begin to find it strange
when you do it again. Not drinking and so
on can only be excuses, have you seen it
that way?
I am an abstemic, but I do go bars and
pubs
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clarity2
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similar Posted: 06-25-08 09:55am
Yeah even though its really hard at first
you have to go out and socialize. I too
have the same feelings of panic attacks,
fearing i smell, or people are thinking
the worst of me. Try at first goin out
with a small group get comfortable around
them and then start allowing yourself to
go to more crowded places. Everyone has a
phobia or a poor self image of
themselves;just try and not let the
negative thoughts take over you when u are
out. Its so difficult i just turned 21
last year and I COULD NOT wait for it 3
years ago, but then depression hit me and
I cant even go out with my family for a
drink with out thinking a bad thought of
myself!! AHH!!
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 06-25-08 12:07pm
Well, first of all, all of you should feel
free to contact me by PM or via forum, as
I am a Moderator and am available
"outside".
Then, those are normal fears when we are
scared and feel bad about ourselves, but
they don't mean that we really are bad
people or something like that. We allhave
qualities and issues, good and bad things
- things to share, things to get from
others - it's part of our being.
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clarity2
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Posted: 06-26-08 10:19am
yeah defin i agree with v00d00cita, but
sometimes when ur anixety and depression
starts to take over all ur positive
thoughts its hard to think rationally like
that.
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 06-26-08 16:15pm
Sure
Don't let that be overwhelming, really!
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azbycx
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Posted: 07-09-08 04:20am
i can relate to not being comfortable in
social situations
i just don't like it
i would much rather be with one or two
people i know well
i don't like being around strangers,
especially crowds
not sure what it is really, i just get
really nervous
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 07-09-08 04:25am
That's not unusual, there's nothing wrong
with you, for sure
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HornyInsomniac
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Posted: 07-11-08 01:48am
i can relate 100%. at the worst period of
my depression, i became extremely
introverted, which is very unlike how i
used to be. i always wanted to be alone.
if my friends called me to do something, i
would always make up an excuse to not go
out. ive been on wellbutrin for a few
months now and it has helped
significantly, although i still have short
spurts of depression now and then. i am
still somewhat introverted though :/
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 08-01-08 17:27pm
I know what it's like. And though we tend
to turn into ourselves, we want to go out
and be cherished, but we are affraid.*
