I have similar problems with my boyfriend, and I feel stupid sometimes. He's the only guy I've ever been with so I usually just assume its something I'm doing(or not doing) thats giving him problems. And I know what you mean about it taking so long that all your energy is gone. He tells me I'm doing everything right but it just takes him longer

sorry girls i dont have this problem

can he masturbate and finish?

Yeah, eventually I can get him to finish it just takes forever! I've never asked him if its like this when he masturbates... not really sure if I know how to ask that question either without it sounding bad

lol just say

"how long does it take you to cum when you whack it?!"

lol girlfreind you are great.

lol I'll try that one then!

hehe i asked travis that this morning and he looked at me like im crazy

Ask him about his masturbation like suggested, and also about his BC or pelvic muscles (usually called PC, but BC is more correct for males).

I can masturbate all day if I keep them relaxed, but if I clench them I will trigger ejaculation and orgasm in a short amount of time. Clenching early without strong stimulation may tire them out though and make it harder to do when it's needed though. If he doesn't know how his work, suggest strong and fast stimulation (if that's his thing) and after a bit of that, clenching the muscles and seeing if it leads to orgasm.

That and have him show you a few tricks. I really enjoy hand jobs, but without having a penis some women just don't know how to do it very well. Plus men are different, some may want lube, loose grip, tight grip, full stroke, tip massage, etc.

thanks healthysex, that was great.

Main thing, AceCandy, is don't let it go to your head...

I have the same problem with my wife, and I know it affects her when I can finish with my hand but not inside of her.

With the proliferation of porn on the internet today, there's a good chance that many men "are less ready to pop their rocks" because of their minds getting used to seeing SO MANY attractive females while masturbating. And as "the GirlFriend" said, he probably ejaculates much quicker when on the internet looking at porn. Or perhaps we guys just get used to our hands. There are SO many possible explanations...but I bet he tells you all the time that it is NOT your fault.

So go with the flow. Maybe introduce something extra erotic for him? You'll have to find out what works for him...my wife dons boots or slinky undies that are pulled down but not removed. Or she might finger her anus for me, and these things always help me. And don't be in competition with the porn...talk to him about it...men only use it to relieve sexual pressure, sometimes when we feel neglected by our women, but it NEVER compares to the real YOU.