Wet Dream.. Does It Mean Anything?? Posted: 10-13-07 11:23am
Am pregnant and happily married. .
the other night my husband wanted sex n i
said i wasnt feeling too good.. you know
being pregnant and all.. he said its fine
cos we both want this baby so much.
the next day he told something he found so
funny.. he said he had a wet dream and i
asked if he knew the grl he had sex with
in the dream.(just out of the blue) and he
laughed and said you wudnt belive it but
''''''' he said my best freinds name. he
could tell i wasnt too happy to hear that.
n then sat me down and told me it was just
hormones. and that hes never ever had
feelings for her so i shudnt worry as he
apparantly found it weird to have dreamt
her aswell.
since then i'v been so worried. do u think
maybe he does have something for her..? or
was it just that when guys have such
dreams they need an image n it just
happened to be her that night. i know my
freinds is beautiful. much much more than
me. n thast what worried me. should i be
worried. or trust him when he tells me he
loves me???
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-13-07 11:41am
As I replied to your PM, dreams mean
nothing! Trust your husband! He married
YOU.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 10-13-07 20:41pm
You are getting something deeper beyond
anything anybody on earth can really tell
you. Eiri is partially correct, or
partially wrong, nobody really can say
what dreams are. They could mean anything,
everything or nothing, psychologists and
scientists still do not know and quite
likely never find out. There are a whole
bunch of theories, ranging from Freud's
theory about dreams representing
psychological desires/ hidden urges that
we unconsciously/consciously wish for, to
arguments that dreams are physiological
and considered just a re-run of random
events (not necessarily past, but just
made up) pieced together by the brain for
who know what darn reason. Others say it
means nothing at all, the debates... are
endless. Well I'm surmising that telling
you Freud's theory may be of some alarm
for you, but it is just a theory,
particularly one coming from a guy who
also created the theory of Penis Envy
(that all women really desire a penis),
and theory called the Oedipus/Electra
Complex (where he [Freud] theorized that
all men really hate/are jealous of their
fathers and love their mothers in a sexual
way, and all women are jealous of their
mothers and desire their fathers in a
sexual way. Up to you if you want to
believe him, some of his theories are
plausible, others are just plain weird.
Brb and will edit with more, going home
right now
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-13-07 22:09pm
I'm a psych student. Freud knew nothing.
And dreams don't mean anything either.
I've dreamt of having sex with lots of
people, including relatives 8O! Doesn't
mean I actually want to.
He was just horny and she popped into his
head for some reason. No problem. Well I
can admit I would probably be alarmed just
like you would, there is no need.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-13-07 22:10pm
Sorry Mikolas if that seemed like I was
trying to blow off your post, I wasn't.
I'm sure all will find it quite
interesting.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 10-14-07 06:15am
Eh? Oh no miss, it certainly didn't seem
that way, I was just listing a range of
possibilities to show the ambiguity of
dreams based on what researchers said, I
don't know what dreams are myself so I
didn't really have a point or chose sides.
Haha, yea I wondered that myself... I
considered his little Oedipus complex and
I just wondered how anybody can come up
with that without having thought of doing
his own mama...
Psychology courses were fun, people told
me to go for it, but mehhhh.
I peeked in the women's chat and read
about your interest in philosophy and
mentioned Descartes. I'm taking my first
philosophy course right now and just went
over his views of Skepticism regarding the
external world. But I must say, I'm pretty
disappointed in philosophy. Everybody
swore I'd do awesome in that class, I've
been known to get high grades in essays
even if I had procrastinated the very last
moment vs some hard working people, and he
gives me a 78 on the first essay. I feel
like my prof has so far limited thinking,
his essay questions were strictly Q and A
even though he expected it to be a smooth
essay. I'm not too intuned on views of the
most renown philosophers, I'm definitely
not "scholarly" on that level, but I think
a lot and made up my own which turns out
those famous dudes have already thought it
up, boo.
But finishing on to what I was saying,
sorry I fell asleep at 10 and woke up at 7
right now cuz spent last last night
clubbing and was getting manhoed around
-_- But I learned the cha-cha! But I don't
like it, I'll stick with my salsa,
bachata, merengue for now.
I meant to finish off saying that its
pretty ironic how people work really, how
we look at one thing that somehow pertains
to us and our fears and its suddenly a big
deal, but when it doesn't, we don't notice
it quite so much. Like if he dreamed that
he killed hundreds of people and woke up
covered in sweat, I'd imagine their
counterparts going "its ok, calm down
::hug kiss:: its only a dream", but when
its "I dreamed that I killed you and the
family, or I cheated on you a dozen times"
then suddenly its not just a dream. Just a
thought =)
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Posted: 10-15-07 19:57pm
I really don't think you should worry.
I'd be very hurt over it as well, it's
normal to feel that way, but you can't
control dreams and if he tells you he
never even liked her, believe him. You
are MARRIED and pregnant with his child.
And don't talk about yourself that way,
like your friend is so much more good
looking than you, I'm sure your husband
thinks you are the most beautiful woman on
Earth, since you are his wife.
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ameee
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Posted: 10-16-07 17:21pm
thank you, this really does put my mind at
ease..
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Posted: 10-19-07 10:36am
i have sex dreams about people all the
time! people towards whom i have never had
any attraction whatsoever. some of them
are even my female friends lol. i wake up
feeling a little disturbed sometimes! but
i know for sure it doesn't mean i fancy
the person i dream about. i am happily
settled with my boyfriend. it shouldn't
be of any concern to you that your husband
had a sex dream about another woman. it
really doesnt mean anything! i do find it
strange that he told you about it though!
well at least he's honest!