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Q: My Very Stict Diet Bothers Men

asked by: imsad on October 13th, 2007

New User

I eat a very strict diet which I have done for the past 10 years. I eat nothing w/ fat in it and it's the only way I can keep slim. I am a vegan also. I take vitamins/minerals (& omega 3's are my only source of fat, like 1 gram per day...it's the only fat the body needs). I am not anorexic or bulemic and I never will be. I have to eat every 3-4 hrs or else I will get dizzy. I never cheat, I haven't cheated in over 10 years. I have no desire to. It does not bother me one bit. I am 5'11" and a size 5-6 so I look pretty good. When I was in my early 20's I was too skinny & a size 4 and I recently put on 10 lbs on purpose & now I am just maintaining. I have tried to incorporate a tiny amount of fat in my diet like 6-7 grams of fat per day but then I start to gain weight. As soon as I take the fat back out, I lose the weight. It's like my body just stores any tiny amount of fat I eat. I also jog or walk at a fast pace 4 miles every morning. I am a fitness expert and very educated and certified in health/fitness/nutrition.
The problem is that every time i get into a relationship w/ a guy he can't stand the way I eat. He thinks it's weird which makes me feel bad, so then i just end the relationship since I can't even eat around him w/out feeling self conscious. Who wants to be around someone who thinks you are weird??!!! He SURE does love the way I look though!! I tell him I look this good for a reason, and I can't eat what I want and look the same. I love being slim and I feel great!! I am in good health too. I am a good person w/ a great sense of humor, caring & honest too. Why does the way I eat bother men so much? He wants me to cheat but I don't want to at all & I won't. I know what the results will be. I feel like I'm being penalized for eating healthy. More people should eat like I do but society does not practice that. How am I supposed to ever have a relationship w/ a guy & have him not think I am weird? I honeslty feel that is the ONLY reason I am not married yet. Are there any guys out there can enlighten me on this?

Replies(5)

WShep

replied on October 13th, 2007

Experienced User

I work for a Raw/vegan website and my boss is a Raw Author, currently speaking at the Raw Spirit festival in Sedona. Im glad you are getting some fat. You know how important it is to not overeat fruit and to get your good fats so I will hold off on preaching, although I would really want to see more nuts, coco oil ect in my body if i were you, but thats not why you are here.

Sometimes people are offended by the way others act because it makes them think about the things they do. Its like that for recovering alcoholics and such. You eating healthy in front of him may be causing him to reflect on his own life style and maybe he doesnt like that. Its kinda like a recovering alcoholic refraining from drinking around others who dont want to admit they have a problem. They tend to bash on the person in hopes of avoiding there own issues and reinforcing that they dont have a problem.

Just a suggestion, it does sound similar. I know that If I were in a relationship with you, I would support you to no end. Go to farmers markets, juice, read authors to educate myself on your practices...all that. My point? Keep on looking. Not every guy will feel that way, I sure as heck wouldnt.

WShep

replied on October 13th, 2007

Experienced User

Or move to CA and hang out with all us hippies!!!!!!

imsad

replied on October 13th, 2007

New User

to Wshep

Thanks for saying you would support me!! I know you said for me to eat more nuts and I am against coconut oil. I sware, the tiniest fat I eat gets stored in my body. I love being slim but in order to stay that way I have to do what works for me....trust me, I'm speaking from trial and error here. Thanks for the support. Very Happy

bibisim

replied on October 14th, 2007

Experienced User

Re: to Wshep

Hello,

I am glad to hear from a person without anorexia/bulimia. In this world to be so straight as u are is very rare and u sound great.

I am recovering by myself from binging eating disorder. and have anorexia bulimia behind my shoulders so I am not the one who can advice u. But my experience puts me in a position where I can judge about the reaction of men on different eating style.

I remember myself being anorexic. I ate no meat just yougurt and fruit and took no alcohol at all....so u can imagine how crazy my adorers Smile

got when they invited me. It was a problem for me too...an invitation to the pizeria was the drama for me.

I won a stipendium and studied abroad...the international students club organized domestic cuisine weekends, every foreighn student cooked, i could not attend the club and was deprived of many opportunities as u can imagine....

now when I am back to normal i injoy food, and u should see how my boyfirend loves to see me enjoying different things...eventhough i am vegeterian

just show men u enjoy life

viboy

replied on October 26th, 2007

New User

5 foot 11 and a size 5 - 6 sounds horrific, I'm sorry, does EVERYONE you know think you look great. Why can you only eat 5 -6 grams of fat? What's wrong with being a size 10? Have you had your bone mass analysed? Do you menstruate?
You sound healthy, but you also sound obsessed. How would you feel if you got ill and gained 14 pounds in 2 weeks while recovering (exageration). Would this make you panic and/or feel bad? When did you decide to eat this way, as it cant be a way of eating from birth?
Also, you say your body stores little fat but also that eating NO fat is the only way you can keep thin. This not does make sense.

Why are you posting on an ED forum instead of a relationships forum?

These questions arent intended to annoy you, but try to answer each one honestly. If you do and you are in perfect mental and physical health, then my answer is that someone who probably wont go out and enjoy drinks or a picnic or a nice restaurant or a family dinner with in-laws gets tiresome.

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