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BlackStallion

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Diagnosed With Hsv 2 - I'm So Embarrassed
Posted: 03-30-04 02:43am

I have just been diagnosed with herpes 2 (genital). I was married for 7 years and that marriage didn't work out. I am now with a wonderful gentleman and I had to break the news to him. I have no idea how long i've had it and my ex-husband and I have been divorced for 1 1/2 years. I have been with my man for about a year now. I had not experienced any symptoms and he did not either. I went in for a pap smear and blood work and that's when they told me that I have herpes. My man went to the hospital and they told him that he was okay for now. Give or take two to three weeks to see if he has any symptoms.

My question is is that why did he not get it and I did. I know I probably contracted it through my past because I did catch my ex cheating on me, but that was over 4 years ago and I have never had any symptoms. Mynew man and I have had unprotected sex for over 8 months and he has no signs at all. He is very worried and so am i. Our relationship is over and I have no control over the situation. I love him with all my heart and he has totally shut me down. He hasn't called in over 2 days or come by. He told me that he needs time and space. Usually we talk everyday. This means to me that you are slowly but surely breaking the relationship off. It's not my fault and I can't explain that to him enough. Do I have a chance at love again or what Sad

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sammisa

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Re: Diagnosed With Hsv 2 - I'm So Embarrassed
Posted: 03-30-04 02:58am

Hey there, don't worry about it.. Lots of people have herpes. You have to use protection when you are broke out though. Maybe your ex was broke out when you two had sex, and that is how you received it. As long as you stay protected when you have a break out then he should be ok.. That is probably why he hasn't contracted herpes from you. And when and if you have a breakout, you will know. Lol.. So don't be worried about "how will I know if im broken out".. Ok??? Good luck to you. Just remember, its not the end of the world.. It could be much worse.. !! Sandi Laughing
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Sparkles412

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Joined: 03 Nov 2003
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Posted: 04-01-04 02:21am

Hang in there, I know its hard. I went through the same thing almost a year ago, except it was with warts. I got it from my boyfriend, who I am assuming got it from his ex. I have been with a few people, but I had never had unprotected sex before I was with my present boyfriend. Women are more prone to getting sexual diseases before men because well you know, we are more "open", thats what my doctor told me. You can carry the disease for a long time before having a break out. I noticed that I had them last year in february and then my boyfriend had a small break out. I haven't had any trace of them for a year, so I think I am over it. But I was so mad and hurt. But it was hard because my boyfriend felt really bad and I was mad at him, and he didn't have any idea that he had it, or that his ex had it. She cheated on him a few times so I wouldnt put it past her. But I felt so awful. I couldn't believe what was happening to me. Every time I had a pap smear I was tested and nothing ever showed up until last year. And then when my pap came back abnormal, they told me that there was a chance that I could get cervical cancer, and that really frightened me. I had to undergo a bunch of tests, have a bunch of blood taken, it was scary. For a while after that my paps kept coming back abnormal, but finally this year they have been fine, but I still have to go every 6 months to be tested.
Your boyfriend is not being very supportive and you need him the most right now. I understand how he feels, but he needs to understand how you are feeling right now too. This isn't easy for you, I know. I know exactly how you feel, having to deal with something like this, that you had no control over, it's devistating.
Keep up with your treatments. I don't know much about herpes, but hopefully if you take care of it, you can clear it up and keep it out of your system. I just want you to know that you are not alone!!
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