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Q: Frustrated

asked by: Town Home Girl on October 11th, 2007

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My husband and I just started ttc, but I'm already completely obsessed and wrapped up in it. I've taken 4, yes 4 pregnancy tests and I'm not due to start until the 14th. I haven't been charting my temp (I'm REALLY bad with that kind of thing and find it insatiably complicated), but I've been trying to calculate my ovulation dates based on my periods. We BDed about every other day beginning about 7 days before I was supposed to ovulate and following that date for about 4 days. I've been having weird abdominal sensations (kind of like butterflies), and some mild to moderate cramping for the past 2 weeks or so. My breasts are tender, but they usually are a pms symptom for me. I'm just so frustrated! I know that I don't really get to be, since this is our first time trying, but I was so hopeful and so excited. And when I think about af's arrival, I practically break into tears. I've been overly-emotional lately, which I thought could be a sign of pregnancy, but I'm starting to think it's just because I've been wanting this so badly. Also, for the past week or so, I've been feeling like AF was about to happen any second...rushing to the bathroom because I was sure it started. Any thoughts?

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Town Home Girl

replied on October 11th, 2007

New User

I should probably add that we've been "not being careful" for a few months now. After realizing that that wasn't working for us, we started really trying (tracking ovulation, etc).

*star*

replied on October 11th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

You can also track your cervical mucus. If you have egg white consistancy then you are at your most fertile time. Try to bd around that time.

Good Luck and tons of BABY DUST

RachieBaby82

replied on October 11th, 2007

Experienced User

Re: Frustrated

sarahgracesc wrote:

I totally understand your frustration! This was the first month trying for my fiance and I as well, and I was totally freaked out when, after we BD'd every night since my last period and I was having cramping along with sore breasts, dumb old af showed up yesterday. It's a frustrating process, for sure. So I'm definitely in the same boat as you...it totally sucks having to wait to test!
I keep reading and hearing from people that if you just try to relax and enjoy the process, your body is more apt to do it's job and make a baby. (Easy for them to say!) But, I figure it's worth a shot, so at this point, even though it's still always on my mind, I'm just going to hang in there and enjoy the ride. Good luck - lots of baby dust to you!! Smile

Town Home Girl

replied on October 11th, 2007

New User

Thank you! You too!

As for cervical mucus...thank you. I'll start keeping track of that.

shortgeek

replied on October 13th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

I try to pick up new hobbies during ttc. It helps distract me from the stress of figuring out when I'm going to ovulate and the two week wait.

Just curious, what are you doing to track ovulation?

After two cycles of bding mid-cycle, I started using opks. After two more cycles, I started temping. When I started temping, I started tracking on ff. It took a bit longer to figure out the cm and I still am not an expert on the cervical position. I haven't tried any of the ferning stuff.

Becky

replied on October 13th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

oh my god i know what you mean. we've only been ttc for a few days and it's always at the back of my mind Laughing

Town Home Girl

replied on October 13th, 2007

New User

shortgeek wrote:

I've just really been keeping track of my menstrual cycle...counting back 14 days, using ovulation calculators, etc. My period has been like clockwork for the past year, so I know that I'm extremely regular. I've pretty much been relying on ovulation calculators, and determining when my next period should start, and counting backward to find my most fertile days. Not very scientific, but I was hoping that it would work right away, and I wouldn't have to do much else. =) Guess I was wrong. I've *kind* of been paying attention to cm, but I find it very complicated. I have cm all the time - I never have a "dry time." It's been like that since I was 8. Because of this, and the fact that it's always about the same color and consistency, I find it very difficult to use that method. I don't know. I think next month I'll try opks.

moonshinemix

replied on October 13th, 2007

New User

I also went through a stage where I had to track my ovulation and temps for a long time... but frankly baby making becomes a job... there's no real passion "get-lost-in-each-other-real-hot-sex". This can take a toll on us women. It's not only your 'job' to check these things.
1.Try putting a pillow under your bum while being naughty (laying oin your back.)
2.Don't get up afterward... (I know it's messy, but these things are suppoesed to be messy)
3.Tell him to have a COLD shower Before... (this is 'tadpole' excercise)
4.When he goes to sleep at night... NO undies (the constriction adds to the no proper sperm production)
5.Keep track of your diet (for acid levels..., that kill off sprem)
6.Most importantly RELAX!
Try having an evening (or morning whichever the case may be) where you have a glass of wine... or more, relax, have sexy talk, flirty talk, let nature take it's course. Take it slow, don't rush it. Importantly, you have to be able to cm to 'suck in some sperm'.

moonshinemix

replied on October 13th, 2007

New User

Good luck and have fun trying!

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