really it depends on the serverity of his condition (if hes violent ect ect) ..if youve met him previous to his illness and not just talked to him on the net go for it if you 2 love each other. but schizos are known paranoid/delusional people so be prepared for whatever symptoms and situations his mind decides to have or create. ive lost alot of people, friends and relationships because of schizophrenia even before i was diagnosed.

so in short to answer your question, its probably not a very good idea to get involved with someone thousands of miles away who has a serious mental illness.. but hey some people find love in the strangest places. hope it all works out

-Rdm.

It is hard to divulge all personal information when you first meet someone. And be honest. If during your first conversation he told you he had a serious mental illness you probably would have stopped all contact with him, this is probably why he waited to tell you. To make your decision you need to know the severity of his symptoms. Most people with psychotic disorders are not violent or bad people. Symptoms can range in severity from being well controlled with medication and therapy, to long-term institutionalization. Find out more on how serious his illness is. Also, you mentioned that you "love and pity" him. Love cannot be based on pity and you must realize that while being in a relationship with him may improve both of your lives and be a source of happiness for both of you, that you cannot "fix" him and things will be very hard if you try to enter a romantic relationship with him if you approach it from from a patient/therapist viewpoint. I would not look at the actual illness as much as i would look at other aspects of his life. Can he hold down a job? Can he provide for himself? Does he have friends and family? These aspects of his life can probably give you better insight as to what kind of person he is.

Some people with schizophrenia manage to keep it treated, under control, and live a perfectly happy life. Find out more about his condition, his treatment, and see if you could handle it.

Did he say he's "skitzo" or has schizophrenia? There are other diseases that "skitzo" could be, in which case you would need to be aware of the differences.

Do you want to be with a man you pity?

Or, do you want to pity the man that you love?

I agree with psych nurse- don't let yourself be romantic with someone because you feel like you need to take care of them.

A real relationship is one in which both partners are caring for each other. While that is possible with him should his condition be kept under control- you need to think about the reasons you would want to be involved with him.

anyway i call my ex boyfriend he is schizophrenia we have broke up 5 times it wasnt me that what his ideal anyway me and cory try be back together and he tell me he love me alot and want to see me and we talk on the phone for hours good talk joking thing like that so how can i help my ex boyfriend his is schizophrenia how can i do and do u think it will help realationship for last ??

The only thing you can do to help him is to make sure he is getting the proper treatment for his illness and support him emotionally.

it's sort of the same thing with me.
Except my boyfriend and I have been dating for four years now and he told me six months into our relationship. He's in a whole other country as well and I've spent awhile trying to educate myself on his psychological issues. Now he wants to visit this summer and I would love nothing more than that. I know I can handle his episodes. I just don't know what to do really. He doesn't take his pills ever and I read once that new surroundings can be overwhelming for a schizophrenic so they shouldn't travel alone. He is traveling alone to see me and I don't want to put him in danger. What do I do if he has an episode while he visits? I just want to be prepared as best I can to take care of the guy I love.

if you love him practise telepathy with him and tell him nobody can feel his feelings he just needs to think about them then others can understand. We're alone in our selves and with our souls, that is not the case with our thoughts and people get confused about that

Loving a 'skitso'
I would warn you to be very careful, especially since you have never met this man. I too fell in love with a man I met online who was scizophrenic. We met and the relationship became serious immediately. Within months we were planning marriage, meeting each others families and setting up home together. He told me about his illness some 5 months into the relationship but I knew little of this disorder and I was dizzy with love for him. Little more than a year later he had become a stranger to me. Although he was on regular medication and thought to be 'stable' his behaviour became increasingly worrying and then unbearable. He had regular bouts of depression and mania on a daily and sometimes hourly basis. Some of these episodes brought hallucinations where he would accuse me of doing things I hadn't done. He abused me in front of friends and family and in public, and this behaviour worsened to the point of physical violence and total control over me. He became delusional to the point of accusing me of going with other males, friends of his I had never met. He would constantly scream at me if I answered the phone and believed I was against him and hated him. I consistently tried to calm him but it got to a point where I was afraid he would eventually kill me and so I left him. I have since read up on this disorder and can clearly see how unwell this man was. I still have deep feelings for him but it became impossible to live a balanced life with him. I am not saying all people with this disorder are this way but you can never know what awaits you if you become involved. I would advise you to do some research on scizophrenia before you make any decision to be with him. Be aware and good luck x

if you stay with him how would you see him if his doctor wont allow him to leave?

I think you should do what your heart tells you.
I wouldn't want to be with someone if they were just with me because of pitty.
Im only 14 so I still have all this to come, but good luck, i think you'll make the right desission.