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Sex After Childbirth
Posted: 10-11-07 08:56am
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This may get moved, but I just want to
know how long sex hurts after childbirth.
My husband and I have had sex 3 times
since I was released from doctor 2 weeks
ago. It has hurt like hell everytime. We
have used lube, tried different positions
but nothing seems to help. It kind of
feels like there is something covering my
vaginal opening that he has to push his
way through each time. The first 2 times,
I bled quite a bit afterwards. But the
third time, there was no blood, but still
a lot of pain. And suggestions or advice?
I would really like to enjoy sex again.
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Posted: 10-11-07 09:05am
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For me, it took about 5-6 weeks until sex
was comfortable again. It was like losing
my virginity again!!!
Every body is different though.
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Posted: 10-11-07 09:15am
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I think a little the first time. It wasn't
very fun. Like I said, it was like losing
my virginity again. It took a while for
sex to become comfortable when I lost my
virginity, so with time, it will get
better!
Did you have stitches with your delivery?
That could be causing some pain.
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Posted: 10-11-07 09:16am
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| Marianne0558
wrote: | I think a little the first
time. It wasn't very fun. Like I said, it
was like losing my virginity again. It
took a while for sex to become comfortable
when I lost my virginity, so with time, it
will get better!
Did you have stitches with your delivery?
That could be causing some
pain. |
I'm not sure if "did you tear at all" was
directed at me, but I answered anyway. I
thought that post came from the OP. Sorry,
lol
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Posted: 10-11-07 09:45am
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I got cleared like 2 weeks ago too and we
have only had sex 3 times because it kills
for me. Sometimes it feels like he is
bumping and pinching something every time
he enters. It is not pleasant at all but
we are still trying because I know that he
needs it.
I am glad that you brought this up because
I was wondering as well.
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Posted: 10-11-07 10:44am
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| beckster
wrote: | | did you tear at
all? |
I did tear. I'm not sure how badly...the
doctor just said there were no second or
third degree tears. I'm not even sure how
many stitches I ended up with, maybe
around 10-15????
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Posted: 10-11-07 10:46am
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| musikmaker
wrote: | I got cleared like 2 weeks
ago too and we have only had sex 3 times
because it kills for me. Sometimes it
feels like he is bumping and pinching
something every time he enters. It is not
pleasant at all but we are still trying
because I know that he needs it.
I am glad that you brought this up because
I was wondering as
well. |
At least I'm not alone. I was starting to
think something was wrong with me. It's
hard for him to enjoy it though, knowing
that it's hurting me so badly. Just one
more thing to have to get through...
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Posted: 10-11-07 10:52am
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You just pushed a baby through a small
opening. That area was very raw and sore.
It is going to take awhile to heal before
sex it going to feel good again.
Until then, like you said, use a lot of
lube and go slow. In fact, the slower the
better. 
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Posted: 10-11-07 12:20pm
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I'm sorry I can't be of much help because
I didn't tear and had sex after 3 days.
However, I know alot of girls on here have
had similar problems.
Just take it slow- it WILL get better with
time.
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Posted: 10-11-07 12:34pm
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| beckster
wrote: | I'm sorry I can't be of much
help because I didn't tear and had sex
after 3 days. However, I know alot of
girls on here have had similar problems.
Just take it slow- it WILL get better with
time. |
Wow. 3 days???? 
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Posted: 10-11-07 13:11pm
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I had a diddy little tear when i had Mika
and occassionally that causes a little
pain for me but that's usually only if we
do the deed more than once in a day. The
first 3 or 4 times hurt me then i was fine
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Posted: 10-11-07 15:17pm
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It took me a while, sorry I can't remember
exactly how long but I remember that the
first few times were horrible.
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Posted: 10-12-07 07:51am
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Thanks for your replies ladies. I guess
we will just keep trying, sounds like it's
a fairly normal thing and eventually will
get better.
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