my girlfriend commented a that a guy was
hot on the tv and she noticed that i was
trying to ignore it so she started saying
"you always do this, everytime i comment
about how hot a guy is", i said "i know,
im sorry but i cant help it" she said
"what evere it doesnt matter i just wont
think guys areattractive anymore and i
wont say anything". We got into this fight
and i know i should'nt be so depressed
about how she thinks other guys are hot
but for some reason it bothers me and i
dont know how to get over it. Need some
advice or anything?!?!
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WShep
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2007 Posts: 67 Location: SoCal, USA
Posted: 10-10-07 20:57pm
Sup DJ!
I had a similar thing happen. My
girlfriend who I had been dating for a
while made the same type of
comment...about Matthew Lilard(SP).
Granted hes not your typical hot body, but
it still had an impact on me. Nothing Im
gonna say is gonna make you feel any
better, but this is how I looked at it.
There are many things in this world that
are beautiful. One of the most beautiful
things in life to me are women. When I
see a good looking girl walk by I
definitely take note of it and just
appreciate it for what it is. Its not
like Im lusting after them....wishing I
could have them....leaving my current
relationship to be with them. Its just
about appreciating beauty, much like art.
You have to be confident in your ability
to communicate with her. If she is with
you and has no thoughts of leaving...what
is there to worry about. Build a strong
foundation of communication so that you
know she is always expressing how she
really feels. If she sees a hot guy and
makes a comment, be faithful that thats as
far as its going to go...its just
recognition of a thing of beauty like
anything else in the world.
When you are feeling down about stuff like
this, try not to keep it from her. Be as
honest as possible, although that instant
in time may not be the best to talk about
it.
My parents have been married for 25 years
and they both comment on good looking
people. If my Dad says something to that
effect, my Mom usually agrees with him.
They have strong communication. There is
no doubt in either of their minds that
they are both happy. It all starts with
communication and honesty.
I wish I could actually help you feel
better and im sure none of this does.
Just file it away somewhere and maybe it
will come to some use.
For now....it sucks. I totally feel you.
Ive been there too
