Boyfriend In Need of Some Help Plz (18 Yr Old) Posted: 10-10-07 04:20am
Ok so my girlfriend and i have found some
things out(i posted the too deep topic and
thanks a lot for the help :]) so than i
read about the whole orgasm topics. I do
go down on my girlfriend and still have
not been able to get her to orgasm. She
says that it feels great, but still we
dont think that she has had an orgasm. So
she decided to start masturbating. I read
the tips section, but wanted to know if
anyone had any advice for a first timer.
Or if there was anything i can do while
going down on her that you all know Work
Great for you. You all are a great help
so far and sorry for the long post
-Review
-Tips for first time female
masturbation(How to do would be nice, o
her clit is very sensitive, so any tips on
how to get around that.
-Tips for me when i go down on her, maybe
im just doing it wrong )
Thanks a lot -IKY
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Lion79
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Posted: 10-10-07 05:50am
She needs to figure out what feels good
for her by herself first. If she doesn't
know, how can she expect you to know?
So it's her first time masterbating, yes?
She will need to be relaxed and not to
expect too much. Is her clit so sensitive
that it can't be touched, even by herself?
If so, she can try touching it through her
underwear (yes, this does work) so it's
not a direct pressure. She might get used
to it. When she's found out what works for
her, she can show you and direct you on
what to do.
Once you've figured out what to do with
your fingers, then you'll know what to do
with your tongue. It takes a lot of
exploration to make sex feel good, so
don't worry if it takes a few attempts.
You'll get there!
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smileybaby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 10-10-07 17:15pm
I've never had an orgasm but the other day
I was on here and found out that alot of
women use vibrating tooth brushes on their
clits to get an orgasm. So I went to the
store bought one and ohh myy goooddd. It
worked the night I used it and like I said
I've never had an orgasm so this was
amazing to me, hope it work for her. Also,
make sure its a extra soft brush so it
doesn't hurt her. Have fun!!!!
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xsgtpsychotic
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Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 13 Location: , fl united states
Posted: 10-10-07 19:34pm
How does she expect you to make her cum if
she doesn't even know how to herself? Let
her do it on her own and let her give
herself an orgasm before you try to.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5557 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 10-10-07 19:46pm
Just to add this in- if she's not used to
masturbating, she might feel really
awkward doing so in front of you, and
don't force her to. It's great to suggest
it, but if she's not familiar with her
'special places' she might feel too weird
and that might kill the mood. So many
girls are unclear about how to please
themselves, and forcing isn't a good way
to do it. (Not that I think you are!)
Ok anyway- tips on how to deal with a
really sensitive clit (I have one too!)
I don't usually touch it directly. The
labia minora (right around the vagina) are
a good tool in this case. You can sort of
close the lips around your clit and rub
through them- you'll feel the sensation in
a really great way, but it won't hurt or
tickle too much for her to handle. Try
that! Or your tongue- it's softer than
fingers so it is easier on the clit. If
you're going to use your fingers (or hers)
put lube on them first, otherwise there
could be too much friction.
It will take exploration and an open mind
- go in with the attitude that you'll have
fun and feel good, but not with the goal
of orgasm. That will just come naturally.
)
