Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Posts: 1 Location: westminster, co usa
I Need Help Finding Alternetives Posted: 10-08-07 13:44pm
i was a cutter for about three years and
then stopped. i used to cut because i felt
i needed to be punished for the things ive
done. like when i hurt someones feelings
or even when i thought i was acting stupid
i stopped because my girlfriend hated it
and i could tell it really hurt her it
also started getting way out of hand and i
would cut even if i did the slightest
thing wrong. i havent hurt myself for
about a year but now i have been burning
myself with ciggerettes when i do
something wrong. it gives me a release and
seems to make things better im just afraid
the same thing happens were it gets out of
hand. i just want to find another way to
deal ive tried rubber band and ive tried
ice and stuff and nothing gives me the
same satisfaction. help please.
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Fairy Godmother
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Hi There Posted: 10-08-07 14:04pm
You need to stop and try to figure out why
do you feel the need to punish yourself?
Your self esteem is so low..........you
are important and special just like anyone
else, and its not right for you to hurt
yourself via cutting, burning-whats next a
meat cleaver? You are human, you are going
to do and say wrong or inappropriate
things...an apology is all that is really
necessary. When these feeling come on, go
run....run as though you are trying to get
away from "whomever" it is that wants to
hurt you.....or walk and look around you
and take in everything you need to be
grateful for.........Take the control back
that belongs to you. If you find htis is
not helping I'd say find a good therapist
to talk too. When things go wrong, try to
divert the attention into soemthing
positive instead of negative. I guess what
I'm saying is, when you say or do
something wrong....instead of withdrawing
and wanting to harm yourself...concentrate
on a way you could do to make it up.
Divert the negative for
positive...........
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silentbear777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
Posted: 10-09-07 03:09am
I was a cutter for about a year, an
extreamly heavy one. Unti I meet the girl
I am with now, I drew my strength from
her, and couldnt stand the idea of loseing
her, or hurting her... no matter what I
face, or what I have to deal with, Every
time I hear her voice, read a text, or see
her face... I forget what ever was
wrong... but being held works really well
too when you feel the urge...
