It might have nothing to do with his Bipolar and more that he has other things going on in his life. There is no typical Bipolar behavior when it comes to his relationships. This has happened to me with non-bipolar people so it might be just that he has other things going on. If he is having bipolar depression it can last for several months if not treated with medication.

Even with medication I have mild depression that lasts several months at times. You have to realize that kind of depression isn't anything like you've experienced. Its not a case of the blues its a chemical defieciency and pretty intense that lasts a while. If he isn't on medication there really is nothing you can do for him. Only a Dr. or therapist can help him. Best for you to move on if he doesn't want the relationship or if he is not getting help.

So the answer to your question. He could be depressed for two months.

Imsad,

I feel you 100%. I experienced what you have EXACTLY!!! I am a guy who was dating a bipolar young lady, and we hit it off exceptionally, i mean a perfect match..we used to always say how we were perfect for each other, and how she saw me as a blessing in her life, and how she never thought she would ever find a man like me ever..about roughly 2weeks after telling me she was falling in love with me, and that she had fallen for me, one day out of the total blue, she said she had been to the doctor, been diagnosed with bipolar and it was getting worse, and we could no longer speak or be friends at all....even though we were in love, and super close (we'd been dating 3 months). we had many many many plans coming up in the next few weeks and months..trips, parties, tons a stuff planned that she just backed out on and ignored totally...

this almost killed me. i love, loved this girl with my heart 100%. i searched for answers for months and months, to no avail. she cut me out of her life all together...didnt even want to be my friend at all - no contact at all.

I feel your pain like no other. i guess this is a trait of bipolar persons. stand strong, pray for them, and find hobbies to do that will get them off the brain. hit me back, i'd like to hear more about your situation. stay stong.

anjalo

Hey there. I'm glad you can relate to this. I know, he asked me to be his girlfriend after less than two weeks. We were amazed how we were so much alike. He is truly bipolar and he used to have a super serious relationship w/ someone who was suffering from depression but she left him. He says he still wants me in his life but he said he is 'incapable' right now until he gets on meds (he had quit taking them). I cry a lot and feel down a lot b/c this is the first time in my life i have EVER been so compatible w/ someone in EVERY way! It was awesome. It's only been 5 mo's but it seems like i have known him for 5 years or more. I told him I understand and I will be patient & I will be here for him. I hope he comes around eventually but I can't be "promised" he will. There is still hope though. Him and I still talk.
I tried to date other guys to get my mind off of him but I compare every guy to him and they just don't compare at all! I got it BAD, huh??? lol

It sucks that your ex just totally cut you out. Sometimes I wonder if that would be better??!! It just sucks when you meet 'that special person' something from the outside which neither one has control over has to screw it up!!!

honestly, i have bp and i've done this. i have a record of just deciding one day that my then bf is not at all right for me, and whats is more, i am disgusted by him. i then distance myself from him asap, because i feel like i can't stand being near him i'm so revolted. i also jump into relationships quickly.
and...i'm flaky as hell. i'll promise all sorts of things (well, now that i'm more aware, i won't promise, but i'll tentatively agree) and then back out at the last minute because the plans i thought i'd enjoy are of absolutely no interest to me.

i'm very sorry you had to go through that...but there are some redeeming qualities aren't there?

I am with you 100% on this because I have just ended my 1 1/2 year relationship. My ex was undiagnosed which made what I witnessed very confusing. I have never come across anyone so loving and caring, yet so spiteful and full of hate. I just couldn't do it anymore. Every time I tried to help him, he spat in my face. Eventually I decided to walk as after 9 MONTHS!!!!!!! yes 9 months of asking him to get help (as I knew something was wrong) he still hadnt sought help. His family and friends lied to him stating that there was absolutely nothing wrong with him and that it was all me... huh??? I was the only one who had the nerve and truly gave a damn about him to say "you need help - something is not right - i will support you" and yet they continued to lie. I also suspect his dad is a sufferer of bipolar as his manner strikes me as similar to his son. I am just trying to heal. Another relationship? Not for another 6 years matey. This has been the most traumatic experience of my life and my life has not been that easy, especially since this whole thing.... what about the people who are left crushed by the failures of others? I took him to see his doctor and she said he had a minor case of depression due to work. I said nu-uh - something else is wrong...no one believed me. It all came to a head when he came to my house with my dad (after sending me hatefilled emails and texts for that week) and had a meltdown. After he had shouted at me and threw things at me, I noticed his mood change.. I can always tell when his mood changes. (head in hands) and he was no longer angry, but had realised what he had done.. I then decided that it was too late and that I will no longer expose my child to this - given that he is not her father, I think the best decision was made, for the safety of my child and I..

What a horrible experience.. and undue...

Came to my house with his dad.. sorry. not mine