I Have Herpes HSV 2 And I No Longer Feel Sexy Posted: 10-07-07 21:33pm
I recently found out that I have HSV 2
through a blood test. I no longer want to
have sex. I am single. I use to
masterbate over 4 times a week. I havent
done that in over 4 months. I think I am
going to give up sex all together. No guy
is going to want me every again so what is
the point in dating. I also use to enjoy
dating and going out and meeting new
people. Now I just sit in my room on the
weekends and not do anything. I don't see
the point in going out if I am going to be
rejected by a potential date. Finding out
about HSV 2 has really affected my moods.
I don't want to be around family or
friends, I just want to be by myself. I
really don't see what is the point in
getting up in the morning. It's become a
real struggle. It takes me an hour and
half to get up out of bed. I feel my sex
and dating life are over. I don't want to
kill myself but I also am trying really
hard to look at the bright side. If
anybody has any ideas on why I should get
out of bed every morning please let me
know.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 10-09-07 10:42am
I know exactly how you feel. I got my
positive result three years ago and the
same exact thing happened to me. I was so
depressed and disgusted with myself. I
just knew my love life was over. THIS IS
SO NOT THE TRUTH. Your life is not over,
men will still want you and you are still
a good person. Herpes was given to me
without my knowledge. I had no idea until
I got my blood test. And I was completely
devastated. There is no cure for herpes
and the chances of you passing it are
there. So what do you do?
First you talk to someone, which you are
currently doing. Also try a therapist to
deal with self esteem issues. I am not
saying you have anything wrong with you,
but this is what I did and this is what
worked for me. Then accept your
situation. You have it and it wont go
away, but its ok. You can have a great
sex life and you can still have kids and
this disease wont kill you. It could have
been aids. Once you accept it things will
get much easier. When you feel ready
start to tell your family and very close
friends. This support will save you, it
is much easier to face this with people
who love you than face it alone. When you
are ready start to date. This is
extremely scary, its almost not worth
going through rejection. But it will
teach you many things and you will get to
know the real men from the dogs. I was
rejected. This guy I dated was gorgeuos.
There was only physical attraction there
but we had fun. Well on out 3rd date I
told him I had herpes. He said ok and cut
the date short. He would not kiss me
goodnight. I never heard from him after
that. I was devastated, like how could he
want me, what was I thinking. But I kept
dating and even have been in 2
relationships. If the man cares enough
about you then it will not matter. If he
only wants to have sex he will reject you.
Just be honest and upfront with your next
date. Tell them as soon as ytou can, that
way you know what he will do before you
fall for him.
I hope this has helped. It took a lot of
hard work to get through that time in my
life, but you can. Just do things for you
that allow you to heal. Please PM me if
you want to talk more.
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BALER
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Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Posts: 2
Herpes Problem?you Are Losing Desire to Date Or Have Sex? Posted: 10-09-07 11:12am
I really want to help you.I dont have
herpes but I do feel the frustations of
having that disease.It is really good that
we have this health forum so we could talk
it out in the open.I would suggest joining
a herpes group where you can meet people
with the same problem.If you can afford a
psycho therapist,that would help you
too.Get busy.REPOSITION YOUR LIFE.Sex is
not the answer to happiness.I know these
herbal supplements that might help you.If
you are interested let me know.This is
BALER .I will include you in my prayer.In
the meantime get out of that bed.
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alonemuch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
Recently Diagnosed Posted: 11-23-07 14:10pm
I have been dealing with this now for 1
month and 15 days. I cannot stop thinking
about the fact that I have HSV-2. I am no
on antidepressents to help me from just
completely giving up. I have NEVER had a
relationship ever. I caught this virus
from a guy I went on a date with. I was
not forceful enough and not only am I
dealing with sexual assualt charges, but I
want to just evaporate from my body. I
just do not want to be here anymore.
Originally, I thought, I will forget about
what happened, but then I got herpes and I
can barely function. Some of you think I
am completely nuts, and hey! I agree, but
this is not getting any better. I hate the
fact that I ever put myself in a
compromising position. I hate that I have
never had a relationship. And I hate that
I cry every day. I really do not want to
be hear any more. He knew I was a virgin
and he didnt care. And now every guy I
meet will think that I am a promiscuous
person, who contracted HSV because I
cannot get enough of men, right now I
cannot get far from them quick enough.
They say this disease gets better, but I
feel like all of my dreams are destroyed.
Graduating from a well credited
university, making 6 figures in 4-5 years,
and being married with children (4). Now
all I want to do is die. And this is what
he tells me.
"its like russian roulet". I hate that I
was born
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Rosie H
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Posted: 11-25-07 13:00pm
I think you should see a therapist or a
priest, or someone that can help you. You
are dealing with a lot of feelings,
especially about the assault. Herpes has
just added to the trauma you experienced.
Professional help is the best thing.
I wish you the best.
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coldohio
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-19-08 10:00am
My girlfriend/ now wife has type 2, see
takes a daily Valtrex and has the virus
under control. I have not contracted type
2 from her and we have been together for 6
years. She is still as sexy and beautiful
as the day I met her and no virus will
ever change that. There are lots of
resources and forums. my girlfriend was
upfront in the beginning and she helped
educate me on exactly what was going on.
She even set up a meeting with her OBGYN
and I.
It doesn't affect our daily lives.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 01-19-08 10:49am
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