Is Unconscious, Non-Consenting Sex considered Rape? Posted: 10-07-07 03:21am
I'm new here, So I'm not sure if I'm
posting this correctly. But i have a
question that I'd like some input on...
There's this guy, Who i had sex with
before... We were not a couple, In any
way. One night, I fell asleep on his couch
and he had sex with me while i was asleep
[completely passed out] and he hid it from
me, for a year. In your opinion, Is that
considered rape?
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Confused_Stressed
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Posted: 10-07-07 03:53am
yes it is in my opinion. I was blacked out
and well put it this way. I was on my
period tampon and all. some how I ended
up naked in bed and my tampon was missing
all i remmeber was a black silouhet on top
of me...ps cant spell
yes, that is a form of rape.
You need to get yourself checked out for
STD`S.
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Babylon
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Posted: 10-09-07 23:30pm
sexxybexxy
wrote:
yes, that is a form of
rape.
You need to get yourself checked out for
STD`S.
Well, Like i said it was a year ago..I've
been checked.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 10-09-07 23:32pm
Yup sure is rape. How'd u find out a year
later?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-10-07 12:44pm
Yes. It is also rape if you get too drunk
to make a conscious decision and he goes
for it anyway, or if you wanted to 'make
out' or even oral or manual sex, but he
kept going to intercourse.
Anytime you didn't make the conscious
decision to have sex, it is rape, and
needs to be reported. Are you still with
this guy? There should be some serious
trust issues here.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-10-07 12:48pm
YES, YES, YES-it is rape. The definition
of rape is unconsentual sex.
Whether you are awake is not the question.
This happened to me. The man went to jail
where he belongs.
In my situation, I had sex with him before
as well. He was a good friend of mine. I
went to a party at his house a few years
later (still friends through that time)
and I ended up passed out drunk. Next
morning, I woke up with my bra cut off and
I was hurting sooooo badly. I went to the
hospital and they did a rape kit on me and
then I went to the police.
Unfortunately, I dropped the charges
because it was his word against mine. They
solicitor said she couldn't guarantee a
conviction and I didn't want to be put on
the stand, made out to look like a
prostitute.
But in the end, I'm glad there is at least
a record of this on his part. If he does
it to anyone else, it will be more likely
to be believed.
You shouldn't talk to this "friend" ever
again. Obviously he is no friend at all to
take advantage of you.
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kittykute
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Oh My God Posted: 10-10-07 22:40pm
men are bloody evil!! jesus, they think
with their wangs instead of their brains.
YES IT IS RAPE!!!
if you know for sure then i would suggest
you report him
we don't need retards roaming the streets,
not with everything else out there
nowadays anyway
kittykute
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-10-07 22:58pm
Yes, definitely rape. I'm sorry that
happened to you
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VeryScaredBoyfriend
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Posted: 10-10-07 23:05pm
im sorry.. i am a man... i would never do
that to a girl.. That would be so wrong...
Even though i am only 15 years old i know
that guys are not all pigs.. some guys are
very sensual and see te side of women too
and would never do anything to hurt them..
like me
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Babylon
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Posted: 10-11-07 17:29pm
itsme0606
wrote:
Yup sure is rape. How'd u
find out a year
later?
He told me, On the phone, and then laughed
about it. We were never 'together' and we
no longer talk.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 10-11-07 17:55pm
Yes, it is rape. I was asleep at a friends
house one night. I woke up with her
boyfriends hand down my pants. Mind you I
wasn't passed out, just asleep (he was
just that stupid) Anyway, I pressed
charges and he was charged with sexual
assault as well as 2 counts of L/L. So,
there is your proof, RAPE.
Say something to someone. Do not let him
get away with this. What if you aren't the
only one? Or what if you aren't the last?
Had one of the other girls this happened
to said something to someone. It probably
wouldn't have happened to me. I will never
forgive them for their silence.
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tnmommy
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Posted: 10-13-07 21:24pm
Yes it is rape, I don't know what your
rape laws are where you are but I'd press
charges. I'd also be ready to go through
hell and back to do it too. When I was
raped I can truely understand why more
women do not report it because they are
not treated like vicitimes but more like
it was our fault.
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Mikolas
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Posted: 10-14-07 06:28am
Heh there is no "opinion" about this,
legally it is considered rape and he could
go to jail and all that good stuff.
I had a case where a minor stalker of mine
came in to my dorm (i dunno how the hell
she found it) drunk and seemingly wanted a
boody call -_-. But I could tell she was
hurting and if I had decided to have sex
with her and take advantage of that,
asides from the part that its considered
rape whether or not she wanted it, she
wouldn't consciously be aware of what the
hell did she decide to do. What kind of
guy would I be to do such a thing anyway,
so I took the not so fun route and spent
about two hours getting her to her dorm
(which should have taken 5 minutes). Oy
that was quite a night indeed.
But then innately, regardless of its legal
consequences, morally do you find it a big
deal what he did? I'm sure there are some
girls out there who are very open on sex,
who'd probably just laugh that he did that
and find it cute/funny. If such a person
then decided to take him to court, would
seem like she just want some money. If you
find it violating that he did such a thing
to you, then by all means, kick his
butt!!!!!! in court though where you got
the popos to watch your back =) I
apologize on the behalf of men of the very
stupid and painful things we do to the
ladies -_-, I know one too many lady
friends who have been assaulted or raped
but I can only imagine their pain and
trauma.
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xsgtpsychotic
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Posted: 10-15-07 19:54pm
I concider that rape. He didnt' have your
concent and basically that's just
disgusting and messed up. I wouldn't talk
to him anymore, and yes I would think
that's rape.
