I agree.
I'm new, but I've seen so many posts on here whining about how their husband/girlfriend/boyfriend is Bipolar, and how horrible it is for them.
Firstly, as you said, it's not only the bipolar, but the person themselves.
Secondly, these people should have a little empathy for people with bipolar. It's not easy, and they are not purposefully acting in a negative way to hurt the person they love.
Thirdly, if you truly love someone, you love them for everything, the good and the bad.
My partner is wonderful, I have no idea why he is still with me.
I am constantly jealous, paranoid, argumentative, etc. Yet when I ask him why he is still with me, why he has put up with me for so long, he replies that he doesn't put up with me, he cherishes me.
Sure, our relationship is rocky at times, and we have tried to end it. But so is every relationship.
If you are in a relationship with a person with bipolar, then you have the right to support and assistance. You have the right to answers.
You do not have the right, however, to blame bipolar for every bad thing your partner does; discriminate/warn others away from entering relationships with bipolar sufferers; whine about how horrible your partner is, without showing the slightest empathy.
Having a mental illness is not easy, its not optional, it doesn't go away.
If you think your life is tough, living with a person with bipolar, try
being the person with bipolar.