i hate to say this, but MsSky is right,
send him to boot camp or get a belt. thats
the only way. keep him on a short leash.
and if he trys cutting himself again, dont
ground him, get the belt and...belt him.
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mzLiLi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2007 Posts: 60 Location: ,
Posted: 11-12-07 10:14am
nineinchnails OKAY thats your opinion. But
that sounds like one of the approaches
that my mother tried on me. He's cutting
because he's hurting why try to hurt him
more. Grounding isn't even good for that,
think about it this way your yelling for
help because you just got hurt and instead
of you mother helping you she locks you up
in your room or "belts" you. Your going to
think that your mother does not care.
Why make someone feel more like that if he
already thinks that. This is a call out of
help he needs someone to help him. After a
couple of times of cutting it is no longer
a choice its an addiction. And he needs
professional help for that not bootcamp,
grounding, a short leash or a belt. He
needs love and someone to talk to and to
listen to him.
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haleyx0
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2007 Posts: 8
Posted: 12-29-07 00:54am
One thing you need to know it is a very
very touchy subject for most people so
don't push him to talk about.
I hate when my mother brings it up at all,
but if he's willing to talk that's a good
start.
Therapy and anti-depressants can help.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 12-29-07 10:18am
Let's try and remember that the mom's
original post not only says he is cutting
himself but, he is completley out of
control with anger. We have to different
eliments going on here that may have the
same cause but a different treatment
needed. Just keep that in mind.
Is mom can't control him, then he has to
learn how to be controled and accept it.
GTG
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kmabethy2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 55 Location: ,
Posted: 12-30-07 22:04pm
great hearing all of the feedback from
everyone. it is great to have people to
give different opinions on these things,
as i am at a loss here he has however
stopped cutting, and resorted to hitting
me, literally punching me note you, he is
twice my size, sixteen years old, and
doesn't care if he hits me or not. he is
so out of control, and has no respect for
me, i have never dealt with this sort of
thing with my kids before and it hurts me
alot. the places where he cut himself, he
has decided to draw on and outline, trace
with ink everyday. he refuses to get help,
and nobody can make him go i feel so helpless
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eOns of gREy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 35 Location: , United States
Posted: 01-03-08 04:56am
OK I'm sorry to say this but if that son
of a health forum is hitting you, then
call the damn police.
Remember, these days women can get away
with homicide. If you just CALL the police
and say it, they'll take care of him. Now
is when my dad's attitude towards me of
apathy and no remorse would be good.
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paintedmouse
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2007 Posts: 17 Location: ,
Posted: 01-03-08 10:53am
Actually, I'd recommend a belt. A Karatie
or kickboxing belt. Make him excercize.
If he refuses when he's away one day take
everything out of his room besides 7 pairs
of clothes and his bed. And I do mean
that. Get rid of all video games in the
house and cancel any cable. No warnings,
he's lost that privilege. If he sais
socical services will take him, don't
believe it. All a parent is required to
do is provide food, water, shelter and
clothing. I-pods, posters, books are all a
privilege.
And take self defence classes so he knows
you're not messing around. Don't be
afraid to call the police if he does leave
a mark. He's nearly a man and he has to
realize it.
Start cooking your meals and don't buy
foods with high fructose corn syrup or
white flour.
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kmabethy2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2007 Posts: 55 Location: ,
Posted: 02-04-08 21:25pm
the thing is, he lives with his dad, if it
were with me, he would have nothing,
believe me. he is a very spoiled kid and
keeps threatening to kill his dad when
he's sleeping, and it gets so bad that he
has to call the police on him cause' he
won't stop attacking him. i just don't
know what to do anymore. i am so helpless,
and he's now thinking of joining the army,
which i think that would be a good thing
if he could make it through basic that is.
my husband is a soldier for 4 years now,
and when my son comes up, we provide him a
great atmosphere, as my husband and i have
great communication, and we make it as
comfortable for him as we can. he will
apologise when he makes mistakes, but he
has a trigger that nobody knows sets off,
and he can snap at anytime. i hope that
made sense because i tried to sum it up
the best i could. feedback is always
welcome
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1quadra
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Feb 2008 Posts: 4 Location: ,
this worked for me friends kid Posted: 02-21-08 16:29pm
My friend had a 10 year old son who was
cutting after his father abused him
sexuly. It was bad for a long time and sad
we did not know what to do. But she was
checking out ppl online that might be able
to help . they told her to find a young
Fimale shrink that could meet with him
outside of the office and talk to him he
did not know her job was to help him they
just started hanging out and being friends
he opened up to her and she was able to
help him get though. It was a trik however
so you might not want to go about it that
way. Hopeful you find he some help and
soon maybe encarage him to get on here,
will tata for now
Cutting
the cutter
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he has however
stopped cutting, and resorted to hitting
me, literally punching me 
