Hi there,
I'm 18 and have been in my first year of
university for about a month now. I really
like it and have made some awesome friends
and I'm just really really liking it so
far. I'm usually happy and I socialize all
the time and have fun. However, sometimes
I get into moods (usually once a dayor
every other day and they last for the rest
of the day) where I feel like I'm just not
"good enough". I constantly compare myself
to other people and rip myself apart and
justify why THEY are better than I am. I
don't feel lonely or anything like that I
just don't feel adequate. I'm happy with
myself but I feel like I should be
something more. I don't know. I find it so
confusing and usually when I get in these
moods I don't talk much (usually I'm
pretty outgoing). This has been going on
and off for about a year. I just feel not
pretty enough, not fun enough, not WORTH
as much as other people I guess. No matter
what I do or how often people compliment
me I just KNOW there is someone SO much
better than me and its driving me crazy.
I'm not sure if this is some sort of
depression?
If anyone could give some advice that
would be great!
Thanks guys:)
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marvel
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Posted: 10-05-07 00:07am
It's hard going from highschool (or
equivalent) to University. Normally, in
highschoo, it was much easier to have
confidence and have a sense of
individuality, because there were less
people to contend with. University throws
all that out the window.
You have to realise that nobody is
inherently better than you are. A good way
to do this is to join
clubs/teams/organisations where you can
put your talents to work. This is what I
did (I felt the same as you during my
first year), and it worked wonders.
Also, most universities are great for
providing counselling services. You should
definitely look into it! They give you
great ways to rearrange your life a bit to
make you happier... seriously, the tiniest
little details can make you feel so much
better. It's nice to just have someone
qualified to talk to as well.
