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I am 30 and have been feeling exceptionally tired for the last year. I do not have health insurance, we are quite a ways into debt, we have 5 children and consequently I will *not* go to the doctor as I cannot afford to have a pre-existing condition as I will have to get health insurance first, but that will not be an option for at least another 6 months to a year.
I am at the point where I would rather die than go on. Not meaning I want to commit suicide, but rather just let my body expire so I don't feel this horrendous need for rest any longer. I need help desperately and do not know where to search. I'm a pretty smart fellow and started off in medicine, but realised that that was not the field for me as I did not wan to be owned by the insurance and pharmaceutical organisations. Instead I went down the computer science road.
I am currently struggling with my own business and employees so stress is high along with the debt and family burdens, so it is very possible that this is a stress evoked issue and I am going to try to take two corrective measures:
A) try to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night as at the moment is usually more like 5 to 7 hours and at irregular intervals as I get to bed at different times each night.
B) try to start giving myself 30 minutes for exercise in the mornings.
Notwithstanding all of this, I would like some extra advise. I am currently working on retooling my skill set to get back into my field of choice as running my own business has taken me down other roads that are not very enjoyable for me. I feel so tired and mentally unsharp that I cannot learn like I used to. I have been thinking of reverting to caffeine to gain some extra edge in the interim so that I can make it through the next few months, but I feel that that may be the wrong approach. I wish there were something I could do to tide my body/mind over while I try to get into better shape to see if that works.
I've been taking some apparently good multivitamins (liquid), herbs for stress relief and adrenal fatigue, mental clarity, etc. etc. but I seem to see no real results from anything. I don't physically feel unhealthy, just mentally and physically exhausted, but
I can't afford to stop. Sometimes I wish I could get ahold of those neuro enhancers that med students and lawyers are on at the moment at the advanced research universities so I could get the mental edge I need right now.
Any ideas/thoughts/experiences from folks here? I am loosing my sanity and need some kind of assistance.
It sounds like you simply need more sleep!! Ideal hours range from 6-8 hours for adults, so you need to bump it up! If you can, really try to get onto a regular set sleep schedule. That will help get your body set for bed every single night and fall asleep faster. Have your alarm go off every morning at the same time, even if on mondays you don't have to get up as early as you do on thursdays. Having a set wake-up and bed-time will help re-clock your body. You may feel more rested simply by having a schedule!
wow !!!! You are a very busy man especially running a business and having 5 children. I also run my own business and know how exhausting it can be. I do think getting up at least 30 minutes early and excersizing is a good way to start your day. How are you and your wife getting along? Is she as exhausted as you are? You may both need to get away together(without children) for the weekend for yours and your childrens sake and your business. Hang in there. My husband and I are empty nesters and I can promise you it does get better. You just need to keep on going. Taking vitamins is a good idea. Caffeine doesn't hurt but I would not depend on it to give you energy. Mental energy is huge and I believe mind over matter is very important. I am saying this as I have MS and have times when I just don't think I can get out of bed ( in fact there are time when I don't) but for most days I force myself to get up are realize I can make the best of the life I have been given, be thankful for my family and be the best person I can be. Good luck to you. YOU CAN DO IT !!!!!