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*sigh* Posted: 10-02-07 14:35pm
I just picked my brother in law up from
jail.
Apparently he went out partying with his
friends last night and drank at least a
fifth of vodka. While he was driving home
(yes, driving while drunk... yay) he got
dizzy and decided to pull over to sleep it
off. The people who owned the house he
parked in front of called the cops, and
they arrested him for public
intoxication.
He's been having problems for a couple of
years now. He had a serious addiction to
prescription meds that he's been able to
kick, but he hasn't given alcohol up yet.
Aaron and his parents keep trying to talk
to him, but he never listens. What really
sucks is that he's such a great guy! He's
the nicest guy, loves his family, really
smart, etc... he just makes really stupid
decisions.
He's very lucky they didn't charge him
with DWI. Apparently PI is a misdemeanor,
so he didn't have to post bail. We can't
afford to bail him out, so he would have
had to sit there for a while. Not to
mention the fact that he could have been
hurt or killed (or could have hurt or
killed someone else).
The worst part of it all is that their mom
is a recovering alcoholic. He knows
first-hand what alcohol dependency can do
to you, but he keeps refusing to get help
for it!
Sorry guys, I just needed to vent.
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Marfa2107
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:37pm
aww
Laura i'm sorry hun
that sounds stressful??
has he ever been to a therapist or
counselor??
or have any of you guys ever talked to him
about how dangerous
his decisions are??
that might be a good idea
let him know that he's doing to his family
what their mom did to them..
or soemthing..
idk
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:46pm
We had an intervention for him around
Easter. That's when he decided to get off
the meds. I actually asked him on the
drive home that I thought he was trying to
stay sober, and he responded "Well I don't
really consider drinking breaking my
sobriety." Uhh hello, you're drinking to
excess!
He has a court date, so I really hope they
sentence him to rehab or counseling. But
more likely he'll just get community
service or something along those lines. A
part of me wishes he had been charged with
something more serious, because it always
seems like he has to have things hammered
into his head before he takes anything
seriously.
Aaron was around 17 or 18 when his mom's
drinking got bad, and Gordon was around 12
or 13. I know Marci has tried having long
talks with him because she knows
first-hand what it's like, but he tunes
her out. I do think a big part of him
recognizes it's wrong, but he doesn't want
to get out of his circle of friends (who
always end up dragging him back into
everything).
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:46pm
Doesn't it just burn you up watching
someone do things that can ruin his/her
life!
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Mabel
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:49pm
He is substituting alcohol for the pain
medication. This is very common. My
brother in law actually subsituted pain
medication for alcohol when he was in an
accident. Everyone said, "Oh he hasn't had
a drink in months!" I said, "Yeah, but he
downed 30 vicodin in 3 days! He doesn't
need to drink!"
As hard as it is, an addicted person needs
to hit their own rock bottom ~ whether
that is losing a job, getting a DUI,
having an intervention ~ before they will
change. It has to be their own choice.
By the way, my brother inlaw is still
drinking heavily 11 years later. So it can
go on for a very long time.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:55pm
Thanks for responding, Ingi. You know
exactly what we're going through.
I'm hoping that the family will plan
another intervention for him if the court
doesn't sentence him to rehab. Jail
definitely scared him as far as "I don't
want to go back there ever again" but he
didn't seem sorry about the drinking... he
seemed sorry about getting caught.
I don't think either of his parents know
yet. Aaron knows because I called him, but
I don't feel right calling everyone else
and blabbing my mouth about it. I'll leave
that up to Aaron or Gordon.
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Bridget
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Posted: 10-02-07 14:55pm
i'm sorry, laura.
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hopefulmjz
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Posted: 10-02-07 15:24pm
Sorry you are in the middle of this, and
I'm sorry for the whole situation. I hope
he somehow comes around.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 10-02-07 15:31pm
Thanks everyone.
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 10-02-07 15:39pm
You know we love you and we're here for
you.
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young Girl
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Posted: 10-02-07 16:11pm
laura try not to get stressed out hun
im sorry you have to see him go through
it
im glad he didnt hurt himself or anyone
else
