HIV Symptoms - rash on body, sores, fever blisters Posted: 10-02-07 08:25am
Hi. My girlfriend is having alot of
trouble being sick lately.
She started by having a horrible rash all
over her body and in her mouth she had
sores. She has also had what look like
fever blisters on and off at times.
At first it was not bad but progressively
got worse.
The rash would come and go and often she
would have to go to the emergency room for
meds.
They dismissed it as an alergic reaction
but after a while she had more symptoms.
She has had cold chills at night, and
sometimes a fever.
She has also had loss of energy and weight
gain (25-30 pounds in three months.)
She has had this problem going on 3 months
now and the rash comes and goes almost
EVERY day. Sometimes it breaks out worse
than others.
It is a very itchy rash.
She went to the doctor and they told her
she had mono.
But I read the sypmtoms for HIV and AIDS
and I am worried now.
Also... she had had blood in her stools at
times. I did not see this listed in the
symptoms for mono but I saw it in the
symptoms for HIV/AIDS that people would
bleed from holes in their body for unknown
reasons.
Should she get tested?
The doc said she DID have mono but all
these symptoms are so close to the
sypmtoms I read with HIV/AIDS that it
worries me.
The bleeding in her stools also makes me
worry because like I said I did not see
that listed with mono.
Note: She also is insulin resistant and
the doctor said someday she will have to
take insulin shots. right now she is on NO
meds for this.
She if very young but ... she worked as a
stripper for about a week or so
about 8 months ago. She did it being young
and not knowing any better and said she
had sex with no one while doing that.
She also talks down on people who are very
sexually active so I really do believe her
but I worry sometimes because I know she
did work at a place like that... even
though it was for a short amount of time.
Again the doctor DID say she had mono but
I am still worried about HIV/AIDS.
I am really worried and need some advice.
Thank you
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-02-07 08:39am
If you are worried about HIV/AIDS, you
need to get both of your behinds in a
doctor's office to be tested. There's no
ifs, ands or buts about it. If you are
worried, get tested. It would be very sad
if it came out positive and neither of you
knew. Plus other people could have been
infected as well. Both of you really,
really, really need to get tested. I can't
stress that enough.
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info22
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Posted: 10-02-07 08:59am
I told her that she should get tested. She
is going to the doctor today because they
are testing what her seizure medine is
doing to her in relation to her blood
sugar problem (she has siezures caused
from a tumor that she has had for quite a
while in her brain, for a number of years
..it is not growing but they give her meds
for it.)
She told me she would ask them to do it.
She was not acting embarrased or anything
but then her mom called me back and said I
freaked my girlfriend out.
She was kinda lauging but was like "you
really scared her".
Her mom acted like I was an fool.
So now I don't even think she is gonna get
tested because her mom will probably tell
her not to worry. Her mom said her dad had
hemmaroids really bad and thought that
might be what the bleeding was.
But I know bleeding from your butt is not
something to be taken lightly.
I just hope her doctor is smart enough to
really check her out.
The thing is it took the doctor forever to
get her in when he first diagnosed her
with mono and I don't think he is a good
doctor.
I don't want to offend her which I know
now I did.....
And I don't want her to think that I might
have given her some kind of STD or
anything because I know I don't have any.
She is young though so it is easy for her
to missinterpet things.
Now she is probably gonna think I'm some
sort of male swinger or something haha.
I am just worried for the both of us.
If she has been diagnosed with mono ... I
guess I could be over reacting myself..
But the fact that she had blood in her
stool a couple of times just worries me.
I know that we both already have health
problems. (I am diabetic and also have a
genetic lung disease). When you have
health problems and grew up with them you
WORRY about things.
I think Ima be in real trouble with her
later today and I'm gonna feel like crap
for asking her to ask the doctor to test
her but what the hell else should I
do...?
I just care.
Hopefully maybe they will joke around with
the doctor about it and he wil suggest to
test just in case. But I dunno if they are
even gonna mention it now.. because her
mom acted like it was ridiculus.. even
though she said she would ask him.
I don't want to worry her or look like an
ass because I love her but I do worry.
What do you think about all these
symptoms...?
And the fact that that the doc already
said she had mono?
Am I being just too paranoid?
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-02-07 09:17am
I don't think you are being paranoid at
all! Sometimes doctors misdiagnose
ailments and that is not uncommon at all.
Being sexually active, you should always
ask your partner to get tested if they
haven't. That's not being paranoid, that's
being safe. You not only have her to worry
about, but you have yourself too.
I would push her to get tested, just so
you can rule it out. Worrying about her
health and well-being shouldn't cause her
to be mad at you. It shows her that you
care.
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info22
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Posted: 10-02-07 09:37am
I'm going to see if she asked the doctor
about it today.
Her appoinment is after the blood test to
see how her medicine might be affecting
her blood sugar levels. She goes from the
lab to the doctor.
I just HOPE that she gets tested now,
being as I asked her too and hopefully it
struck some kind of cord in her.
With her mom being there tho... she may
talk her into brushing it off.
I'm not going to interrrupt them again
while they are there but I hope they did
it.
She has mono yes... but she needs to be
extra carefull, and so do I, being as we
both already have health issues.
Maybe even if they aren't serious about it
they will joke around in front of the
doctor and he will have sense enough to
check her out.
I mean when a person has health issues
already.. you check every possibility.
You do ANYWAYS.
I know he knows she has mono but jeez when
you have blood in stools you check it out.
The fact that mono symptoms and HIV
symptoms can be alike just worries me. And
the unexplained blood.
Just a personal question... Being as she
does have mono
do you think maybe I am being a LITTLE
paranoid?
I know you said no but... do you really
think there is a good chance she could
have it or do you think being as she has
mono that that is the issue and the
bleeding something else?
Having both of these at the same time...
which gives the same sypmtoms... I know is
possible but I also know it would be kinda
rare.
I am both worried and thinking I am being
paranoid maybe at the same time!
GRRRRRR!
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-02-07 09:50am
Well the bleeding COULD be caused by
hemorrhoids but it is impossible to know
without getting that checked out. She
should know if she has hemorrhoids because
they are painful. The doctor can examine
her and see if there are hemorrhoids or
not.
Like I said before, I don't think you are
being paranoid at all. Even if she didn't
have mono or any sickness at all, she
still should be tested for HIV if she has
been sexually active. I think EVERYONE
should be tested. The terrible thing is
people can spread HIV without knowing they
have it. That puts a number of other
people at risk as well. I got tested when
me and my boyfriend got together and I
expected him to get tested as well. It's
not only for our well-being but I wanted
to know that my future children would be
okay as well.
I think that you should still push for a
test. If she decides she doesn't want to
get tested, you should take the initiative
and get yourself tested. All it takes is
some blood, so it's not like it's painful.
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info22
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Posted: 10-02-07 10:11am
Yeah. The question is... since she would
be in early stages if she did have it
(god forbid)... when should I get tested
since it can go for a certain amount of
time without being detected?
She has had these symptoms for three
months and I have been with her for a
little over six...
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 10-02-07 10:19am
I think the norm. is pretty much being
tested every 6 months. So if you come out
negative this go around, be sure to follow
up anyway (regardless if she tests
positive or negative) in the next 6
months. If she doesn't want to get tested,
it's her own problem that she doesn't want
to create a safer life for her and her
loved ones.
Just don't be as naive. Get tested. Twice
a year is not much at all. And the free
clinics won't charge you an arm and a leg.
It's being safe, that's all.
