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Q: Baby Shower

asked by: Eyes Wide Shut on October 1st, 2007

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Ok, so I have a question.

What are everyone's thoughts on a shower/party for a 2nd child? Particularly, one less than 2 years from the 1st.

If it's another girl, I wouldn't expect to have one. Being that I have ALL the necessities I'd need for a girl.

BUT, if it's a boy, should I get a full blown baby shower?

It wouldn't be a shower, per say...but a welcome baby party. To get some diapers, onsies, and to just welcome a new baby to the family.

I've heard that if it's more than 3/4 years, it's ok. And if it's another sex.

But I don't think it's fair to celebrate the coming of one baby, and NOT the other.

I was even thinking of telling people NOT to bring gifts, that it was just a celebration of a new baby.
what do you think about THAT idea?

ALL comments are welcome!!!

Sarah

Replies(19)

Marfa2107

replied on October 1st, 2007

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oh..
my cousin just did this
she had her second baby (same sex) 2yrs. after her first
and had a "necessities" party
and asked people to only bring
diapers, wipes, bath-time stuff, and onesies
things like that...

i thought it was a cute idea

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I like that idea too!

I've read things that say "go for it!!" and other things saying "that's tacky!!"

I mean, even though we have babies already, doesn't mean we have EVERYTHING, ya know?? lol!

Sarah

Marfa2107

replied on October 1st, 2007

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yeah that's why i think a "necessities" shower is appropriate..
and it also works as a celebration for the second baby
=)

Bridget

replied on October 1st, 2007

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i'm no etiquette snob, but i do like to do what i think is polite since i don't want people thinking i'm tacky.

i think a 'meet the baby' party after the baby is born is perfectly appropriate. i don't think you should register or make any mention of gifts or "necessities" on the invite. i wouldn't even put "no gifts please" on the invite, people will bring something if they want to regardless.

throwing yourself a 'meet the new baby' party is fine, throwing yourself a shower is not.

i think all new babies deserve to be celebrated!

Mabel

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I think a celebration for a baby is fabulous. Usually, everyone who would come to the shower anyway would probably buy the baby a welcome gift when they got here even if there was no shower. But a shower is just one more reason for cake. YAY cake!

A friend of mine is having a shower and asking for OUTRAGEOUS items. Like, $400 worth of diapers! And really pricey things that are not in my budget to get her. Not necessities at all, more like extreme wants. I think that kind of thing is tacky. Especially when most baby things are not needed.

A boob, some onesies, a few socks, some blankets and diapers. What more does a baby need? Smile

yellow ribbon

replied on October 1st, 2007

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you forgot wipies lol. i think if someone offers to throw a baby shower thats ok but if your gunna do it yourself then just have like a welcome baby bbq and let ppl bring stuff if they want. dont ask for them but dont say you dont want them, if someone says hey can i bring u ne thing say if u want a pack of diapers or something like that would be appreciated.

Marfa2107

replied on October 1st, 2007

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Ingi wrote:

i agree with you Ingi!!
very tacky to put outrageous things on your register...
and YAY CAKE!!
=)

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I would NEVER think of registering. Even if it WAS a boy.

But, I would MUCH rather prefer a welcome baby party *BEFORE* the baby was born. Only because this baby will be born in R.S.V season, and exposing it to that many people and children would be ASKING for it. Ya know?

I don't know. I thought about it after reading an article in parents mag.

I woulnd't see a problem with it if I were to be invited to a simple "welcome baby" party that said at the bottom *this is NOT a baby shower. Gifts are NOT required. Just your presence would be HIGLY appreciated!"

Plus, who doesn't like cake???? loL!

Sarah

Mabel

replied on October 1st, 2007

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babymajic0506 wrote:

I'll come for the cake! Smile

Plus I'd bring a gift too. Smile

AyaMiyaki

replied on October 1st, 2007

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My favorite part about going to baby showers is bringing a gift for the big sister/brother!

tigresacanela24

replied on October 2nd, 2007

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I don't think a shower is exactly appropriate even if it is a boy since they are so close in age but I definitely think the "welcome, baby" idea is wonderful. That way people can bring gifts if they want to (most probably will anyway) but it doesn't seem like you're asking for anything. Then if they ask if they can bring anything for the new baby then you can suggest necessities.

vanessalouanne

replied on October 3rd, 2007

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I see no problem what so ever in having a shower.. (this going with someone else, really anyone else throwing it for you) And I agree with you on not having a welcome baby party with a new baby.. Too risky with the germs. I agree that I love bringing a gift for the big brother/sister at a second baby shower, Ive never thought it to be tacky to have one. I guess I a snob because I look at it as if you think its tacky then shut up and dont come.

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 4th, 2007

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Thanks ladies!!!

I think I'd put it together and have it at the house. Or maybe my mom's. And just celebrate the fact that a new lil one is going to be a part of our family soon!

Sarah

tigresacanela24

replied on October 4th, 2007

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That's definitely cause for a celebration. Especially since I know it's going to be a boy!!!!

Sandbox Party

replied on October 4th, 2007

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yeah my aunt had a baby shower for her last baby who's a month younger than Caitlyn, and her other kids are much older the youngest being... 13 years older.. and it *still * seemed tacky for her to have a shower, simply becuase she at her age should have been able to get everything the baby needed on her own, AND she already had 2 other girls.

But in your case i think it would be a great idea for the *welcome baby* shower.. if its a boy, you could request that if people DO bring gifts, to bring something blue to comemorate the baby boy. a blue container of wipes, a blue onesie, a blue package of diapers, etc.

Eyes Wide Shut

replied on October 4th, 2007

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Sandy, I don't think your aunts shower would be classified as tacky in my book. I mean it has been 13 years! EEK! lol!

Me and Baron were planning on finding out the sex and not telling anyone. At first, I thought, well I could come here and blurt it all out...but I changed my mind!!!!

We're not going to tell ANYONE!!!! (not even YALL!!!)

I think it would be sooo suspenseful for everyone and I, personally, would LOVE it if someone did it to me! (shoot, I might as well not find out the sex!! And let it be a surprise for me too!!..............or not! lol!!)

We're having a name dillema as well. mreh...maybe I'll post it on a separate thread...

Sarah

Becky

replied on October 4th, 2007

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i don't think you should find out the sex- let it be a suprise

tigresacanela24

replied on October 4th, 2007

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I'll beat you up if you don't tell me!!! I can't wait that long to find out!!! If you do that to me I'm going to turn around and do it to you! You're so mean! lol!!

yellow ribbon

replied on October 4th, 2007

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you are so mean.

i dont think your aunts shower was tacky sandy cuz its not all about getting things you need or want, steven and i could have purchased everything for macy but showers are fun.

now my aunts was kinda tacky since she had it at her house for her second daughter even tho the other one was 4 yrs old. shes using most of the same stuff from her other one but it was still a little weird.

i want someone to throw me a shower but i dont wanna be in on it cuz then id feel tacky but we dont have ANY baby stuff left cuz we gave it all away or sold it at the yard sale thinking we didnt have room in storage and we werent having one to soon.

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