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Q: Gross Gross Sick

asked by: ThriftyGal on October 1st, 2007

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I am at school right now.

My first period teacher didn't show up so we all got to leave. I could have stayed home for an extra hour and a half! This makes me a little angry because I feel super horrible today. I feel like I'm going to poop myself, or throw up all over myself. I have cramps in my lower back that remind me awfully lots of labour.

I'm sitting in Erik's moms class, which is a foods class. I just stared at a really cute boy with lots of facial hair but then he looked back at me and I felt stupid and started typing this sentence.

Last night Nathan said he loved me for the first time... He also said we should wait on the moving in together thing. Which doesn't work for me because I need somewhere now. Erik is coming from Alberta in a week to visit and I'm actually considering me and him trying to work things out... I don't know why I'm even thinking like this. Let's see if I can open imagecave from here because I uploaded some pictures a couple of nights ago. Man I feel like I need to run to the bathroom but I don't want to poop at school. I feel so disgusting. I might go home soon.

Imagecave works. I'm not putting these in any order or giving them any titles.

me and nathan. Okay, I made a title.

Nathan's face looks funny.

I haven't been around much because I'm super busy. Like last night, I was up until 3:20 a.m essay writing. With all of Rowan's waking ups I slept maybe 2 hours. Bleh, it's all too common for me.

I'm pretty irritated with Nathan guys, for just changing his mind on the apartment thing. I feel screwed over. I know I shouldn't pressure him to do something he is not ready for, but I also know that I need to move out...

I don't know.

Replies(18)

Becky

replied on October 1st, 2007

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aw tanya i'm sorry you feel ill. you must have a bug or something. that sucks that he changed his mind but i don't think you should get back with erik just because you need a place to stay. he treat you pretty bad just dumping you with the baby and you guys woul probably end up splitting up or arguing again. but it's completely up to you
does your college give you financial help? maybe you could take out a grant or something to help you with finding a place to rent...

p.s- rowan is so cute!

ThriftyGal

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I'm not in college I'm in high school. So no.

Becky

replied on October 1st, 2007

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oh ok

i always forget it's different than the uk

michelle1981

replied on October 1st, 2007

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Are you seriously thinking about getting back with Erik, or was that said out of disappointment/anger?

I HATE using any bathroom but my own. It feels dirty :/. I hope you feel better soon.

I love that picture of Rowan with her legs crossed standing beside the toilet =)

ThriftyGal

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I'm thinking about it.

No one else is ever going to be her "father" and maybe I didn't put in as much effort as I could have to try to give her a real family. I think if me and him both tried really hard we might be able to get along, and be happyish. I can't do it alone much longer.

michelle1981

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I understand.

Maybe have a plan B, just incase?

Becky

replied on October 1st, 2007

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if that's how you really feel then maybe you should give it another go

Jules

replied on October 1st, 2007

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tanyaface wrote:

I think if me and him both tried really hard we might be able to get along, and be happyish.

Don't you think you and your daughter deserve to be more than just 'happyish'?

tanyaface wrote:

I can't do it alone much longer.

Forgive me for being brutally honest here but this is your real issue. You're struggling and lonely and feeling let down by your boyfriend. I don't know your entire history with your child's father but it seems as if you're (naturally) desperate to create a family unit with a sense of security and, in my very humble opinion, you're looking for it in the wrong place with your ex.

Bridget

replied on October 1st, 2007

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rowan is such a beauty. there's just something about her... i love the one where she's sleeping curled around your leg! how cute!

you look great too, you're so pretty.

i'm sorry things aren't going the way you'd hoped. i have to agree with what jules said though.

are you still living with your mom? if so, how's that going lately?

i hope you're feeling better!

sick_mama17

replied on October 1st, 2007

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Cute pics!
You really need to think about everything. I don't really know you or what happened with Rowan's dad but from this I would have to agree with Jules aswell. You won't be happy with someone you dont love, and your daughter deserves more than just "happyish". No one should just be with a guy so they wont be doing it alone or so they can afford a place to live. Its just wrong. It might be a quick fix but it wont last long, and none of you will be happy or better off short or long term.

Im not with Jays "bio dad" and I feel the way you do about how hes the one I created my son with so maybe I should be with him, blah blah blah. I get those thoughts all the time, but I know it's the wrong thing to do for myself and for jay. I think you know its the wrong thing for you and Rowan too. It might help if you write a list of reasons why you shouldn't do it, they are whats important ultimately, not the fact he was basically a sperm donor one night. Helps you put things into perspective.

Single mums do it everyday, you can too! And eventually you will find a good guy, but that shouldn't be a priority right now. We all need support though, I know you dont get on with your mum but what about your dad? I remember you saying he said you could move in with him, why dont you do that? Any older sisters or brothers who could help? Could you take less classes at school so you dont need as much time studying? Or how about getting a part time job for now just until Rowan is a bit older and sleeping better, then go back to studying? What about studying at home instead of school/college? You have options.

Willa Weintraub

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I love all the pictures of little rowan, she is such a cutie and she is getting so big.

I'm opposite on the moving thing. I don't want to move with Derik and he still thinks after I talked to him that we might move. um, no.

Don't get back with Erik if you don't think you will be happy. It's better not to do it than to do it and end up getting hurt again.

ThriftyGal

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I'm not lonely!

I want to survive. When I say "I can't do it alone" I don't mean emotionally, I mean financially and physically. I would like to have an actual place for me and Rowan. Whatever, it was just a passing thought.

For everyones information before Erik sort of abandoned me and Rowan while I was still pregnant I was cheating on him, with my ex. I tend to omit those parts from history. The point is I never gave it a fair shot. I wasn't even interested in doing the right thing then, I just did what I wanted to and acted like a victim.

Nathan is a good guy. And if I said "I have to get out of here and find some where to live with you or settle for Erik or go back to Manitoba" he would do it. He just has his reservations right now, because we are young and he is sensible, and that is fair. He didn't out right say "I don't want to do it" he said "I am not 100 percent sure about it" and that if there was a way we could wait on it then we should. I don't want him to do it unless he's 100 percent sure because I don't want to be a mistake for him. Also, I'm not 100 percent sure either. I don't want someone because I'm lonely, I just want some security as far as physical things such as a home for me and Rowan.

Thank you everyone for being honest, and for your advice.

hopefulmjz

replied on October 1st, 2007

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Rowan is so cute! I love the pic where she's asleep around your leg. She looks so cozy as if there isn't a care in the world.

Becky

replied on October 1st, 2007

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tanya at the end ofthe day we are just people on the internet. although we have quite close friendships with other girls on here, we are not there with you day to day so none of us truly know what your life is truly like.
therefore, although us girls only have your best interests as heart, I would tell you to follow your own heart. Only you know deep down what is the best decision for you and rowan.
if you want to get back erik and think it would be for the best then do it! it's your life sweetie and up to you. when i asked for opinions on having another baby and everyone said no, i sat back and realised it's about making yourself happy and not pleasing other people.
you are very wise tanya and i think you have put alot of thought into getting back with erik. i know youlove your daughter very much and wouldn't jeopardise her- that is why you are looking for somewhere else.
i wish you luck whatever you decide to do hun. if you do give it a shot with erik and it fails- at least you can say you tried. i tried again with neil and, even though it didn;t work out i feel happy that i did all i could to save our relationship.

yellow ribbon

replied on October 1st, 2007

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I love the one of Rowan on the floor looking at you with a "huh?" face. And the one of her sleepin on your leg, i guess she didnt care if your feet stink! lol.

ThriftyGal

replied on October 1st, 2007

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wait no. I was just crazy this morning. Erik is a stupid stupid idea. I was just thinking like that because I wasn't getting my way with Nathan right away. I can wait it out a little longer.

Thanks for listening.

ThriftyGal

replied on October 1st, 2007

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Man I feel silly for making this post now that I've reread it and have my head back, it doesn't even sound like me.

I just really had the poops and was feeling sorry for myself. Overall I've got things really well and I'm thankful, and I can normally keep a great attitude. This was just whiney victim me, and I don't like it!

I don't think I'd be desperate enough to really ever consider being with Erik again.

Willa Weintraub

replied on October 3rd, 2007

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Lol, tanya, you crack me up. I thought that sounded a little odd for you to say about Erik.

AND everyone has things that they hide or just don't talk about because it's not something you want to tell people. It's cool that you admitted that but i'm glad you made the right decision. Hey if you ever want to move to FLA, you know I be here fo ya! Mr. Green

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