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Q: Another Ugly And Stupiddd Person...
asked by: Mistake on October 1st, 2007
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Hello, right at the start i would like to excuse for my bad English.

Ok, here is my story... I am a 16 years old boy from Croatia.

I have this stupid personality, can't say no, can't be my self, or well... i don't have any personality... always am trying to please other people, never can say "No", they all make fun of me, its like i have "fool" writen on my face. I know this isn't anything seriously but...
I am also afraid of many people watching me, I'm very shy and can't talk to some strangers, or new friends... At the moment I don't have many friends, probably wont have any soon... Always afraid what to say or if I say something, then I'm afraid what will they think about me. More, hmm... yes, I'm also very ugly, never had a girl so far, I mean never kissed a girl, never asked a girl out. never talked to a girl... only few relatives but some family stuff. If you need 1 word for me, then its this "nobody", all ready told you why and what you need to know. And this, I did so many stupid things in my life, and because of them... Will never be happy again, I'm in a bad mood every day, can't talk and I'm just quiet.... Also, I'm very ugly, stupid, emotional, scared, fat ( many people say I'm not ). I'm always trying to be somebody but never ME... :'(
can you please give me some little advices or what do I know... ? please
I mean you don't need to, why to help somebody who has no life, and never will.
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Fighter_in_the_Sky_
replied on October 1st, 2007
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Its Okay
God gave you a reason to be here, even if you don't have a real life or love life now, you can slowly build up one. I used to have no love life either, I still haven't had a girlfriend or a kiss (p.s. I'm 16 too), I have had hugs and I have talked to girls though. Here's the plan
1. Find a quiet place with relatively few people where the girls will be nicer and there will be less people (try the library or maybe join the chess club or something)
2. Start talking to girls until you get comfortable with girls
3. Start asking girls you know for hugs until you get comfortable

As for having a life, there's no real way (not that I know of) to find out your learning style, personality, strengths, weaknesses without doing extracurricular activities. If you are shy, maybe try a sport that isn't a team sport (tennis, swimming, running, martial arts, weight lifting, rock climbing, etc). Also try some non-athletic activities like chess club, chemistry club, etc. Over time, you should find out what activities you like and what activities you fit into, you will also discover your learning style, personality type, etc.
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Mistake
replied on October 1st, 2007
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well, its easy 4 you 2 say... i don't have a lot friends, we don't have a club here, gims or anything... and I'm to shy to go some were where are many people... when I see some1 thats staring at me I'm so scared and shy that i just run home and lock my self in the room... and to find a girl or whatever did you say m8, listen ... no, don't want to have a girl because I'm to scared to even talk to 1, so ill stick to being a single 4 the rest of my life, and thx 4 your reply
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Fighter_in_the_Sky_
replied on October 1st, 2007
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Keep Trying
No club eh? No girls to talk to? Lots of girls where I live are spoiled jock kids who will only date jocks or football players. But I'm sure there's one nice girl you can talk to. Even if you don't, maybe try to get more comfortable with girls by talking to any female table partners you may have at school or by talking to girls that end up in your group for group projects. Don't feel down, I used to be a total shy guy who would look down whenever a girl met my eyes. Now, I walk around like I run the school.
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Enlightened Uselessness
replied on October 1st, 2007
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Re: Keep Trying
MMAFighter wrote:
No club eh? No girls to talk to? Lots of girls where I live are spoiled jock kids who will only date jocks or football players. But I'm sure there's one nice girl you can talk to. Even if you don't, maybe try to get more comfortable with girls by talking to any female table partners you may have at school or by talking to girls that end up in your group for group projects. Don't feel down, I used to be a total shy guy who would look down whenever a girl met my eyes. Now, I walk around like I run the school.

Haha, orginal OP, I thought about taking that name but decided to take one that better fitted my belief.
Strange, that's the exact opposite of my school. All the girls are extremely nice to everyone. But whatever. OP, if you're not willing to put in any effort, then we can't help you. Simple as that.
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xxxsecretxxx
replied on March 12th, 2009
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Aww, you sound sweet. I'm a girl and have the exact same problem! Smile So you're not alone.
This will be a huge challenge, I'm guessing...but try, if you feel brave enough.
If you have a library, try and pick out a nice looking girl who is reading alone. Ask her what she is reading. When she tells you, ask her what it is about. When she tells you, tell her an experience of yours that is similar to the book. And you have started a convsersation. Or, something similar.

Good luck. Smile Please get back to us. By the way, I am sure you are not ugly, just have low self esteem.
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xxxsecretxxx
replied on March 12th, 2009
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LOL!
Okay, maybe I'm a little bit late with my response. XD Just realised.
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