i'm 17 and tryin. i think i am actually pregnant right now but how long you've been tryin?
and good luck

wow, it must be exciting being 17 and married
anyways, good luck with getting preggo:)

What a coincidence am 17 and married too! I want to have a baby my husband wants one too but thinks its better to wait...although we arent using protection, i'm supposed to get my period tomorrow but i'm not having any cramps or anything...so who knows, we'll see.

I always wondered if I was the only one...Lol. We have been trying for about a 5/6 months now. We should deff. chat!

I thought I was too, then I wreaked my care yestorday and had to go to the doctor after work becuse I was so worried...and they said I wasnt. GRRR! I'm glade I found somone I can relate to on here...I've never found anyone my age and married befor. We should chat when you can!

Meg*

I don't mean to be a downer, but are you girls financially ready? Do you live on your own? Have you finished high school? Have you considered college? Do you know what it's like to work full time to pay your bills when all your friends are out having a good time? Do you have your own car? Are you in a stable relationship? There are many more questions you should ask yourselves. You're 17....what's the rush? You aren't even considered a legal adult yet!
Babies aren't all fun and games. They mean sleepless nights, and you can't just expect someone else to come take over. I strongly urge you to wait, and grow up and have fun first.

You don't think it's important to finish school first? What happens when baby comes and you just can't fit school in, or afford it, etc? Don't you think the baby deserves the best chance? As in have your diploma and give yourself a chance to get a better job. I still don't see why you are in such a rush to have a baby. And when you are in college, where will your child be? You can afford bills, child care, baby needs, and school?
And just because you are married doesn't mean you are in a stable relationship. No need to get snippy, I'm simply pointing out facts.
And the baby that is staying at your house will not always be there, and won't be your responsibility as your own would be. Living with a baby is nothing compared to having your own. But you're 17 and you have your whole life planned, right?

I agree with Mandi. A baby is a full-time job in and of itself. Juggling a baby and school is going to be extremely tough. It would probably be a better idea for you to finish high school, take a semester of college and get an idea of how upper schooling feels. College is much harder and more intense than high school, and many college freshmen end up dropping out because they can't handle it... and many of them don't have young babies at home to further distract them.

If things are going great now (financially, relationship-wise, etc) think of how much better they'll be in a few years when you have school behind you! You'll be able to devote more of your time and effort to your baby instead of dividing your attention between school, work, and your family responsibilities.

17 is so young, and you have so much ahead of you. There are plenty of years ahead to have a baby. Don't you want to wait until you can give your child as much of your undivided attention as you can, instead of purposely taking on all these things at once?

We're not saying these things to be mean. We're saying them because we have our own babies and understand first-hand how much work they are. We're trying to help you.

I understand what your saying but I have money set aside for colloge already. My grandparents befor they died put it away for each me and my sisters. As for my job I work in a nursing home I dont have any planes on leaving here. He dose farming and construction. Money is one thing I DONT worrie so much about. Now school I do see your point on that but I only have untill January of 08 so "this year" and I'm all done with that. Collage that will be a little though but my mother has daycare and will keep my babbies because she is my mommy. Lol. I already have this part planed out and have discussed it with my mother. AND no at 17 I most deff. dont have my whole life planed I dont think anyone ever in there whole life has theres compleatly, perfectly planned out you cant its impossible. Things happen you cant help and so planning your life is IMPOSSIBLE! The most you can plane at a time is a day a week MABEY a month....I'm not a nive little kid I know more then you think or atleast understand better than some...I dont think my age should affect my abillity to care for my children. I know some 30 year old that ack younger and dumber then I do and I would hand them a baby for anything but then I know girls and boys 16-17 years of age that would still make better parents then them...so I dont think age is a huge problem here its just making sure you have the love, money, and time...and I have pleenty of ALL.


Meg

So you're planning to work, go to school, AND take care of a baby? You're really okay with having your baby in your mom's daycare while you're at school and work? You don't mind being away from your baby for that long? Do you think your baby would mind being away from Mommy for that long?

And when you're home from work and school... what about the cooking? Cleaning? Laundry? What about studying for your college courses? When does your baby fit into this? There are only so many hours of the day, and it sounds like your plate is already going to be full. Why would you choose to stick a child in the middle of all of that and force your child to settle for daycare with Grandma and a few minutes of cuddling inbetween cooking and homework?

Wouldn't it be better to wait and not deprive your baby of being away from you for so many hours a day? At least get school out of the way... that'll open up a lot of time you can then devote to your child. Why would you rush to make it happen now when you already have so many things going on?

You need to think like a mother. Your baby needs your time and attention. Between school and work and household duties, your attention is going to be divided enough already. You need to decide what your priorities are and not be in such a rush to make everything happen right now. Your baby deserves the world.

Well I will quite my job at a certin point and be a stay at home mommy and my colloge classes are only 4 hours twice a week...so Ill have plenty of time...I have already gone through all this with my m other and him and we figured all that out...I dont have to work now I just want to we make enough money that my job dosnt matter...I just do it becuse I cant stand not doing somthing! And I know i'll be consantly moving with a baby, todler,child,teen on my hands...thats the job I want. I thank you for your conciurn and I appriciate your carring but really Ill be okay. I will keep you up dated if you like.

Meg

I don't think you should be finished with school in January, I think you should take some extra english classes and learn how to spell simple words so that you can teach your child also. Not trying to be rude, but what 17 year old doesn't know how to spell "caring, many, something"

seriously.
I dunno.

hi, i think that being in a marriage and wanting a child is fantastic. I am 15 and have a baby boy who is two years old. I love him to bits and he loves me. I wish things were different but we get on with life. I am glad that i had him. People say that having a baby is not everyting.I think that they are wrong and having a baby means a lot. It makes u feel responsabile and makes u care not only for yourself but for your baby. Anyway good luck with trying to get pregnant.

I seriously think you should wait. My dh and I decided to wait an extra 7 years after we got married to have children. The nice part of doing that was that we had an opportunity to really strengthen our relationship so we would be strong when the challenges of parenting came up. I believe that teens can be good mothers. I have seen many young women steo-p up to the plate and do a great job. I have, however seen many young women do an utterly poor job of it because after a while, the resentment of not being able to do the things that other peole your age sets in and that's when parenting is compromised. You say that you understand what parenting is all about, but I promise you that you have no idea. No one does until baby comes. There is nothing that I or anyone else can say that will make you understand this. It has to be experienced on your own.

I am concerned about the idea that you will hve your mother watch your child every dauy. Is this fair to her? SHe has already raised her own children, and I don't think it's fair to expect her to keep your child for free every day, free of charge. Will your babay have health insurance? Life insurance? College funds? What happens if baby gets sick and you have to miss your classes?

Lastly, what's your hurry?

Haha typing fast what you've never done it? hmmm yea actually I am taking all extra classes this yea because I have finished all my required ones...english being one of them... But thanks for the not needed spelling lesson.

Well firstly I would like to thank you for being the most civil person to give me you neg. opinion so far! I thank you for that. My mother actually offered its not like I'm pulling her teeth and We have money saved just for baby. We have been together for 7 years and married for one. We have had ALOT of time to make our relationship strong and thats exactly what we are is strong. Being married and having children goes together and thats what I plan on doing.

did your parents allow you to get married under age? WAIT if you arent already pregnant FINISH school! go to college start a life before you expand it!

uh yes they let me get married under age...how els would I have done it?!