My
wife and I have been married for
approximately one year. We had a long
distance relationship before we were
married resulting in us maybe not knowing
each other (co-habitating) as well as most
married couples. On one of our cross
country visits while we were dating, she
mentioned that she struggled with Bulimia
throughout her life. She was thin at
about 100 lbs for a 5' medium framed
woman. I have read and read on how to
help her. Since we have been married and
we live together, she cannot carry out
purging, excessive exercise and fasting.
Although she cannot purge, there is
anxiety about food, body weight, etc. Now
I have noticed a progressive change in her
attitude about everything in life. She
tries to control absolutely everything and
has absolutely no emotion. It is as if
she cannot control her weight, so the
eating disorder has resurfaced in another
form (control of everything else). Is
this possible, normal and what should I do
to help.
I would sit down and talk with her to find
out how she is feeling. If she never
sought treatment for an eating disorder
before then she should now. Because it can
slip back in really easily. And eating
disorder people are very secretive. unless
your with her following her 24/7 there are
chances she can purge one way or another
if she felt the need to. SO dont assume
all is well because you havent witnessed
anything. She could very well be doing all
of it in secret. But i would talk to her
to talk her into seeing a therapist. Its a
good first step that she told you she
struggled with bulimia so you might be
able to talk her into talking to someone
and getting help.