No the masturbation doesn't have anything to do with it. Don't worry about that. And they're not all straight either, that's normal too.
Don't try anything to make it thicker! Anything that might just sounds dangerous. Here's a trick- while you're in there, move in a figure 8 with your hips. That way, your penis will stimulate everywhere and it should feel really good for her. If she's on top, grab hold of her hips and move her in this way too. It will feel good if she wants it thicker, because what she really means is that she wants stimulation all around, you know what I mean?
It really isn't the size of the ship....
You sound like you just need to be more confident! Good luck.