My Boyfriend Goes Clubbing All the Time... Posted: 09-27-07 02:52am
hi, when i was 14 i met this guy who was
19 at the time, we got to know eachother
and eventually ended up dating, iam now 16
and have moved out of home and 3 hours
away from my friends and family to be with
him. since we moved away he has been going
out clubbing every weekend, his attitude
has totally changed like he doesnt care
anymore. if i ask him to stay home and not
go out one night he turns around yelling
at me saying from now on he is doing what
he wants, it hurts me so much when he is
like this and i usually sit at home by
myself untill 6am when he finishes
clubbing. he used to say he loves me
everyday and now he hardly says it, he
never compliments me or says he cares, and
he used to tell me we would be together
forever but now he says he lives day by
day. he always turns things around to make
them my fault so when i mention something
his done wrong he tried to make it my
fault. Im worried we are falling apart i
dont want to lose him but i cant stand
bein treated like this, please help....
In this situation I believe you need to
sit him down and have a long talk about
your relationship. I completely understand
that you do not want to lose the one you
love, but you can't live your life in
pain. You need to concern yourself with
your own happiness, and if your partner
doesn't make you happy maybe they aren't
the one
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 09-27-07 08:28am
I don't think he is going to change. I
would break it off and move back home.
What's a 19 year old doing with a 14 year
old anyway?!?!
I know you're 16 now but that would make
him 21. I hope he isn't cheating on you.
haha illegal but a good idea. Find out
what he does when he is out...or get an
older friend to go and keep an eye on him
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 09-27-07 08:32am
Whaturmuva
wrote:
Marianne0558
wrote:
Get a fake ID and follow him one night
haha illegal but a good idea. Find out
what he does when he is out...or get an
older friend to go and keep an eye on
him
Haha, I was joking about the ID. Getting a
friend to go is actually a great idea!!
There's cameras on phones and all so
pictures are a good idea. Make sure it's
someone he doesn't know.
Thanx so much for your help guys, great
advice i might try it
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-27-07 18:59pm
go home before he screws you over and you
have no way of getting home
seriously hun please listen to me
i am 16 and live with my bf almost an hour
away from my mom and if travis ever did
anything like that to me i would cut off
his balls and pack my stuff and leave
he isnt going to change if he hasnt
listened already
he knows he has you at home and he thinks
your helpless
dont become another helpless girl suckered
by one of those jerks
I have tried so many times to leave, its
just so hard and he knows i dont have the
strength thats y every time he messes up i
just forgive him coz he sucks up, i never
get compliments from him so wen he screws
up he comes home and says heaps of nice
stuff and i always fall for it. when i
feel like i finaly have the strength to
leave he says something nice and makes me
want to stay. ive felt like just leavin
while his at uni one day but he was so
nice before he left that i couldnt do it.
sometimes i wish i would find out his
cheatin so it would give me a reason to
leave and not look back
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-30-07 21:34pm
you already have a reason to leave
and you already know you want to hes just
suckering you back in
trust me
run for the hills fast hun!!!!!!
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Maji
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Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 108 Location: ,
Posted: 10-03-07 20:40pm
16yr old and a 21yr old living
together....is that even legal?
for that reason and the reasons you've
given, i'd say go home.
no one deserves to be treated badly or be
made a victim of...anything!
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Makoto
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Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 263 Location: Japan
Posted: 10-04-07 16:56pm
I vote for you to go home as well. You are
in over your head. Lastly, him going
clubbing at his age is perfectcally ok.
Even if you are at home. There is nothing
wrong with it at all. However, he should
also be making time for you.
Is he cheating or trying to cheat. More
than likely, but clubbing is not the
problem. If he can find another way to
cheat he might do it.
Basically this is just a small problem.
You should look at the major problem, and
pack your things and go home. You are
making a big mistake. That is assuming you
have nothing at home preventing you from
returning.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 10-04-07 19:47pm
Maji
wrote:
16yr old and a 21yr old
living together....is that even legal?
for that reason and the reasons you've
given, i'd say go home.
no one deserves to be treated badly or be
made a victim
of...anything!
no its not leagle but if her parents
wanted to press charges then they would
have to press charges against her too
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Mikolas
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Posted: 10-10-07 21:29pm
Just to warn you. All the high school
girl, college guy (with at least 2 year
difference) relationships I knew that I
can think about at the top of my head, has
failed. Why? The girl is in high school,
basically meaning she is limited to the
stimuli and the people of that small
territory of her school, home, hang out
spots. The guy, in college, potential
chance to meet thousands more girls then
he could have then during high school,
meets a couple, girl friend isn't around
and doesn't have much power, things
happen. I'm not saying this would happen
to you, or this is always the case, but
this happens because it makes sense. You
will understand this too one day assuming
you will go to college. Many couples break
up once one or both of them make the
transition from high school to college.
Why? New life style, tons new people. For
instance, a girl might think she loves her
current boyfriend (while they are in high
school), and he has good qualities like
attractive, funny, sweet. Once she goes to
college, she is going to see guys who are
funnier, sweeter, cooler, hotter all over
the place. Same thing occurs for guys. If
he isn't giving you the attention you
deserve as you described it, especially
because you have sacrificed much as a 16
year old for this, he is trash, trash has
to be burned (don't burn him literally
haha). At this point based on how you are
being treated, or rather the lack of being
treated, it doesn't really matter whether
or not he is cheating on you, you can find
much better, I guarantee it. You got
college waiting for you =) Just learn from
this experience and make sure to be more
careful with who you pick the next time.
