Why Can't He Keep His Erection When We Are Having Sex? Posted: 09-26-07 14:39pm
Hello All,
My boyfriend and I have been going out for
almost 6 months now. I'm 25 and he's 23,
were crazy about each other, and every
aspect of our relationship is
perfect...except... The first time we had
sex, things went off with a bang, then
about 10 minutes in he lost his erection,
and said he's always had a hard time
keeping an erection with the woman on top,
moments later he re-gained his erection,
and all and all it was a sucessful
experience. That was about 6 weeks after
we started dating...we have never had sex
since. When things start to get heated he
always is rock hard, than when it comes
down to having sex...nothing...it's
completely gone, and doesn't come back.
We have tried several times with several
different positions, the same thing
happens with oral too, and every time the
same thing happens. Is it me? What can I
do to help? He says nothing like this has
ever happened or been a problem before,
and that he loves me and doesn't know what
to do. Does anyone have any suggestions!
PLEASE HELP, it's embearssing for him, and
mortifying for me. Thanks for all your
help.
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marvel
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Posted: 09-26-07 14:43pm
Its easy for a guy to get over-stimulated.
This might be happening to him. Sometimes
lots of friction just isn't pleasureful.
You two should experiment to see what gets
him off.
If this doesn't work, he might have to go
and talk to a doctor about it, because it
could be something wrong physically.
However, given the fact that he has no
problem getting an erection when things
get heated, I would just say to first try
different techniques to keep him hard.
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joeitalian3
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Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 4
Erection?? Posted: 09-28-07 23:31pm
probably stress and/or anxiety to perform
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longisland
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Its Just a Psychological Issue. Posted: 10-06-07 00:07am
I had the same problem during my first few
times of having sex. I agree with joe that
it is the anxiety to perform thats the
main problem. Try this. It works for me.
Get him to drink until he's tipsy but not
drunk. probably 2-3 glasses of spirits but
not wine. Wine makes you sleepy. Then
switch on his favourite tune just to
distract his mind. Then enjoy !!
I hope this suggestion comes to use.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 10-06-07 10:56am
Drinking may work for some people, but it
definitely doesn't work for most. For most
people, drinking has the effect of making
erections go away and making stimulation
less intense. I wouldn't suggest drinking
to anyone who has issues with sex.
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sillysallie1990
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Joined: 03 Oct 2007 Posts: 308 Location: ,
Posted: 10-08-07 16:41pm
i would suggest trying again and when he
starts to lose his erection, dont make a
big deal outta it!!!! tkae his atten
elswhere start talking with him or watch
tv... lol maybe dont put clothes back
on... lol try to turn him on without him
knowing then let him instigate the sex
because is sounds like you guys are
gitting pretty desperate and are putting
to much emphisis on him keepin it up...
thats alot of pressure and no body ever
wants sex to come to that... if this
doesnt help you guys need to see a
professional... hey i heard that sex
therapy can be lots of fun lol.
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silentbear777
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Joined: 09 Oct 2007 Posts: 32 Location: Portland, Oregon
Posted: 10-09-07 03:38am
Same thing happened to me the first few
times I had sex, its nerves, I was getting
really nervous about it... I cant really
say what exactly, just nervous... relax...
and reember oral... once hes inside you,
he will stay hard, and if he goes soft
before you can get that far, give a little
oral for a quick revival. After a while he
will get over being nervous and be able to
perform!
