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Q: I'm Hurting Her When I Insert My Penis

asked by: PhantomoftheOpera1989 on September 25th, 2007

New User

Just a moment: this is my first post! YAY!!

Down to business. I'm a little shy about revealing all of this to strangers, but I really need some answers. For the last week or so, 99% of the time we try to have sex, it hurts my girlfriend REALLY bad when I try to go inside. She says it doesn't hurt at all when I finger her, ONLY when we have sex. Once it didn't hurt her that bad, and she told me to just push in, and when I did she was fine, although we found out after that she bled(no, she was not a virgin at the time). We thought that was the end of the problem, but we tried today and it hurt her more than it did before. She told me to try and push in fast, and it just hurt her ALOT. This is the week after her period, if that factors into things at all.

Can someone PLEASE help me!?!? I love my girlfriend very much, and I absolutely HATE to hurt her in any way. Any help you can give is greatly appreciated.

Replies(6)

Tylanas

replied on September 26th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

It is possible that she is injured from the one time you did manage to get in and she bled. You're going to have to wait a while now for her body to properly heal! Pressing on an injury hurts as I'm sure you know

Next time, use LUBE, not FORCE.

Whaturmuva

replied on September 26th, 2007

Experienced User

Give it some time and when you eventually go to try again be slow and gentle. Use a lot of lubricant and make sure to get her very wound up and turned on so that her muscles are more relaxed and easier to enter. Also you might want to try bringing her to a clitoral orgasm first so that her muscles have already wound up and down again...it could make it easier for entry.

peter peters

replied on September 26th, 2007

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I Hate Hurting Her

Phantomoftheopera1989,
I'm with Wataurmuva totally. Two things are really relavant that you have not mentioned. Do you have a large Penis? Does your G / F have any natural lubrication?
Long Penises and dry Vaginas plus inexperience are a bad combination.

PhantomoftheOpera1989

replied on September 30th, 2007

New User

Re: I Hate Hurting Her

peter peters wrote:

Well, I'm about 8" long. I guess that's big. And she has PLENTY of natural lubrication. I've seriously been drier in a swimming pool, so that's not the problem. We're just gonna give it a week or two and try again.

Georgia59

replied on October 1st, 2007

Especially eHealthy

If she hasn't had this problem with sex before, it could be an infection. Something as simple as a yeast infection can make sex really painful.

Try lube anyway. I use it all the time if I'm naturally lubricated or not, and 8" is large. And yes, let her poor vagina rest a little. Tell her to make sure she doesn't have any signs of infection.

PhantomoftheOpera1989

replied on October 4th, 2007

New User

Well, we tried again yesterday, and I was able to get in without hurting her at all, and without any bleeding. Hopefully, it was just a urinary tract infection like she thought it was. We'll try again in a couple of days and see how it goes (fingers crossed!)

Thanks for all the great advice.

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