My son Alex is now going to be a month old in 4 days. Can someone tell me- am I supposed to give him a pacifier? Or I have no idea I got some at the shower, and I just don't know why you would give them one or if you are supposed to. Is it just personal preference? He is never really fussy.
you don't have to, it's up to you. if he doesn't seem to need it, then you can skip the pacifier and not have to worry about how you're going to get him to give it up when he's older.
finn is addicted to his. i swear he hides them in his room because i only let him have them to sleep and when we're in the car, and he'll come out of his room with one. i don't know where he's getting them from!
i started giving finn his while we were still in the hospital. babies like to suck and it soothes them, so i went for it. using it while they're sleeping is also one of the (many) things they say reduces the risk of sids.
i can't believe alex is already a month old! i demand pictures!!!
We didn't use them at first because I was breastfeeding and didn't want to give her nipple confusion. So after we were established, I tried to give her one and she didn't understand what to do with it.
You definitely don't have to use them. If little Alex is doing good without one, I wouldn't worry about it.
Okay thank you! I know Bridget it seems like it went by so fast! It's crazy! I remember being so nervous about breaking him and worry about not knowing what to do it seems like just last week I brought him home!
I heard about that Laura about the breastfeeding thing. I tryed breastfeeding and I did it for like 4 days and it stressed me out so bad I stopped.... Now I wish I would have kept trying.... oh well.
Breastfeeding is hard! If it was really stressing you out, it's a good thing you stopped. Alex would have picked up on your negative energy, and your hormones are already everywhere... you definitely don't need to make yourself miserable by continuing to try something that isn't working out. Try not to regret.
Thank you! I always wanted to and planned on it...then after 4 days of making sure he ate every 2 hours even though he wasn't hungry, he wouldn't stay latched on, I was worried he wouldn't get enough, etc. I would start crying uncontrollably. It was terrible. And I though breastfeeding was going to be easy because you didn't have to buy formula and bottles. Boy was I wrong!
Yup, some babies aren't compatible with breastfeeding, just like some mothers aren't compatible. I was determined to breastfeed, and Alyvia was a little tyrant with the boob I could swear she was trying to suck the nipple right off! The pain was nearly unbearable and I had to wear this huge cup thingies over my boobs to keep my shirt from touching them, and I went through a tube of nipple cream in the first couple of weeks. It's definitely not glamorous! And now Alyvia is 13 months old and still addicted to the boob. She's not taking too well to weaning, and she still can't sleep without one at night.
I gave Aydan and Alfie a pacifier. Lucas didnt like it, he took to his thumb straight away.
Both Aydan and Alfie have been fussy babies and I only use/d it when it was nap time. I started trying them with one when they got to the point where they were fighting sleep alot and would just stay awake crying, I found that a dummy was a big comfort and would soothe them off easier. If your baby is ok without one. Which it sounds he is, I wouldnt bother using one. I was lucky with Aydan he gave up his dummy easily but Lucas still sucks his thumb at 3 and who knows how well Alfie will want to give his up!!
I was against them in the beginning. Mostly because I had a bad experience with them with my daughter many moons ago. They gave her one in the hosptial and being young I didn't know I could refuse. Well, she loved her hospital pacifier and I couldn't get them anywhere and it isn't like you can walk into a baby ward and demand one.
When I gave in and decided I would allow Jaylon to have one I went into the store and bought a brand that I knew I could find anywhere. The Nuk was my choice. He's not dependent on it, but he does like to chomp on it from time to time and it certainly has saved us when he's fussy.
I never wanted to give my kiddos pacifiers. Geneva used to have nursing marathons, and I finally discovered she just wanted to suck on something. So I gave her a binky and she really took to it. She gave it up at about 9 months. Hannah gave hers up at about 11 months. They don't have to have one, but you might discover that your child has a need for sucking. It often soothes babies.
When I was in the hospital I asked the nurses to take Eadie when she was one day old because I hadn't slept since before the delivery. They asked me if they could give her a pacifier and I said yes and she has been using one since. I probably would have given her one eventually though because she can't comfort suck on my nipple. I have a super overactive letdown and I have to practically lie on my back with her on top of me facing down to nurse so she doesn't choke and sputter when she eats. Nursing was hard for me too at first, it was really painful and my nipples were both bleeding and cracked. I just had to curl my toes and breathe through the pain like I was in labour again. But we got through it and I am soooooo glad because I love it. I would be so sad not to be able to nurse her. She's only had a bottle of expressed milk twice and when she did it made me feel like I was missing out on something. But when she's had enough she takes her binky instead and seems happy with that. Only bad thing about binky is in the middle of the night when she spits it out and wants it back. I have to sleep with one hand reaching across into her crib to replace it when it falls out on those nights. Then there are nights when she doesn't need it at all.
When I was in Europe when I was younger I noticed (especially in Germany) that there were kids who were 2 to 4 years old with soothers in their mouths. I thought that was really strange; I've never seen it here. I wonder if they nurse them that long too. It just seemed odd to me to see kids walking around, old enough to talk and potty trained with little baby soothers in their mouths. I wonder if that would affect their speech at all?
Kaylee's has always used one, it calmed her down quite abit & kind of gave me a piece of mind because they say it can reduce the risk of SIDS.. Now though, at almost a year old I'm trying to break her from it & I swear she hides them places because I don't really want her having them during the day but they always seem to appear when she's playing!