Hi am currently separated divorce needs to get started and our children are grown.......am already engaged and will remarry as soon as I am free to do so ....this issues in this and concerns are for my granddaughters ............I left him so he has been putting his inclinations on all of this onto our granddaughters ......the older one has drawn a line and chooses to side with grandpa ...she is only eight......my youngest three is currently home with her mom and have heard some destrubing things out of her concerning me ......my daughter is on top of it my ex may or may not change what he is doing ......I volunteered to back off and away where these two were concerned initially but now with these awful things being said to me by the three year old??????????how to proceed ......my fiance' and I have discussed it and decided to let it go and not add more confusion to the girls than is already in progress ...my hope is that in time as they get older with their parents direction I may again become a major part of their lives with my new husband .....these things never are contained are they ????the innocent get all the crap to muddle through ....they are my only regret and I am ashamed of my ex for using them to hurt me .......good thing am moving on to a real man now ......thanks for the read ......wazzywoman