my boyfriend and i are both heading for our 19th, we have been together for 2 years and i know i wanna be with him forever. we arent only in love but bestfriends, we are sometimes too open. but pregnancy is a topic we always hop around. i know asking straight out will get me the answers, but i find it difficult. not that im planning on having kids with him now.. but i wanna know what our future holds and what his outlook on this are... he just says nothing will change... but i dunno. seems to get me down alot. opinions?
Hi Lele....If you think this guy is "the one," then the sooner you talk with him openly and honestly, the better. Not knowing his stand on having kids obviously bothers you. So pluck up your courage and get his honest opinion before you invest too much in the relationship.
You can just bring it up casually. Talk about someone else's kids, then just casually ask something open ended like "what would it be like to have some of those?" (Meaning kids) you'll get an idea on what he thinks.
And right, if you're serious, you're gonna have to know this if it bothers you.
hey if you're planning on being with him forever it's bound to come up sooner or later, so i say just sack up and ask him about it. on the other hand, there's no sense getting into a fight (worst case scenario) over a hypothetical question.
yeah thanks heaps/ last night i stayed at his place. and we spoke about it, he saying where he wants to live when we're older, and then eventually have kids, and its me and him forever. thanks for the advice.