How to Ask Bf @ Making Babies And Pregnancy ? Posted: 09-23-07 22:59pm
my boyfriend and i are both heading for
our 19th, we have been together for 2
years and i know i wanna be with him
forever. we arent only in love but
bestfriends, we are sometimes too open.
but pregnancy is a topic we always hop
around. i know asking straight out will
get me the answers, but i find it
difficult. not that im planning on having
kids with him now.. but i wanna know what
our future holds and what his outlook on
this are... he just says nothing will
change... but i dunno. seems to get me
down alot.
opinions?
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-23-07 23:07pm
so he doesnt want kids? is that what your
trying to say?
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little_lele89
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Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 56 Location: Aussie
Posted: 09-23-07 23:09pm
we both dont want any at the moment, as we
both think we are too young. its just a
alkward topic i find talking with him
about in general
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 09-23-07 23:11pm
well then why do you need to talk about it
if you dont want kids right now? talk
about it when you guys want to have kids
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-24-07 08:32am
Because for some people Girfriend, there
is no point in dating someone and getting
close/engaged if you know he or she never
intends to want children. It happened to
me.
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lonestarguy
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Talk to Him Posted: 09-24-07 09:07am
Hi Lele....If you think this guy is "the
one," then the sooner you talk with him
openly and honestly, the better. Not
knowing his stand on having kids obviously
bothers you. So pluck up your courage and
get his honest opinion before you invest
too much in the relationship.
Sorry, Eiri, I didn't know.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-24-07 19:13pm
You can just bring it up casually. Talk
about someone else's kids, then just
casually ask something open ended like
"what would it be like to have some of
those?" (Meaning kids) you'll get an idea
on what he thinks.
And right, if you're serious, you're gonna
have to know this if it bothers you.
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keys101
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Joined: 21 Sep 2007 Posts: 87 Location: , USA
Posted: 09-25-07 14:07pm
hey if you're planning on being with him
forever it's bound to come up sooner or
later, so i say just sack up and ask him
about it. on the other hand, there's no
sense getting into a fight (worst case
scenario) over a hypothetical question.
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little_lele89
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Joined: 15 Jul 2007 Posts: 56 Location: Aussie
Posted: 09-25-07 22:29pm
yeah thanks heaps/ last night i stayed at
his place. and we spoke about it, he
saying where he wants to live when we're
older, and then eventually have kids, and
its me and him forever. thanks for the
advice.
opinions?
