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I'm a 16 year old male who has never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been kissed, and been hugged 4 times. Is that normal Question According to the World Almanac, 51.9% of teens in America my school grade (11th) have had sex, so I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I kind of feel unmanly because of this, is this a normal reaction? Rolling Eyes Some people say its because I'm nerdy that I don't get girls, but I do mixed martial arts, swimming, weight lifting, and running so I'm not sure if thats the case. Some people tell me its cuz I'm Chinese, but I'm pretty well-rounded and I don't just study all day. I'm not short or anything, I'm 5 foot 10.5 with my hair shaved off. I'm not skinny either, I'm 140-145 lbs of solid muscle (I can bench press about 180lbs with proper form). I dunno, I guess I want everyone's opinions. Wink
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replied September 23rd, 2007
I think you are fine.
A lot of people don't get girls right away.
Do you talk to them? Do you have a lot of friends that are girls?
Its only the the start of the year.
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replied September 23rd, 2007
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Re: High School Sex Life
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I'm a 16 year old male who has never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been kissed, and been hugged 4 times. Is that normal Question According to the World Almanac, 51.9% of teens in America my school grade (11th) have had sex, so I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I kind of feel unmanly because of this, is this a normal reaction? Rolling Eyes Some people say its because I'm nerdy that I don't get girls, but I do mixed martial arts, swimming, weight lifting, and running so I'm not sure if thats the case. Some people tell me its cuz I'm Chinese, but I'm pretty well-rounded and I don't just study all day. I'm not short or anything, I'm 5 foot 10.5 with my hair shaved off. I'm not skinny either, I'm 140-145 lbs of solid muscle (I can bench press about 180lbs with proper form). I dunno, I guess I want everyone's opinions. Wink


Hi MMA,

It's all about confidence in meeting girls. They sense when you are confident in yourself and can talk with them. Talking with them is something you can practice. If you have a friend who is a girl or even a sister, maybe they can help you meet some girls. In school, there are plenty of opportunities to meet them, you just have to get over the idea that you think you're nerdy.

Many girls like nerdy guys as long as they can relate to everyday things. You're a runner. What about going out for cross-country or track? You might meet some girls with your interests. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there and try to talk to girls to meet them. Being Chinese shouldn't slow you down because many girls like all races. Remember, it only takes one girl to get you and that could turn into a stable relationship.

Good luck.
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replied September 24th, 2007
I was 18, a senior in high school and on the football and track team when I had sex for the first time...I benched 345 when I was 195lbs...It is a lack of confidence(still is) why I didn't have all the girls falling over me back then... with women outnumbering men like 7:1 or something odds are pretty good of finding anything you want...

This is going to sound kinda weird but I wish when I was younger I would have taken a dance class(or something like that) to be one on one with a woman and overcome a couple of fears I still have to this day at 30 and I have 2 kids... Shocked
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replied September 24th, 2007
Re: High School Sex Life
MMAFighter wrote:
I'm a 16 year old male who has never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never been kissed, and been hugged 4 times. Is that normal Question According to the World Almanac, 51.9% of teens in America my school grade (11th) have had sex, so I wonder if there is something wrong with me. I kind of feel unmanly because of this, is this a normal reaction? Rolling Eyes Some people say its because I'm nerdy that I don't get girls, but I do mixed martial arts, swimming, weight lifting, and running so I'm not sure if thats the case. Some people tell me its cuz I'm Chinese, but I'm pretty well-rounded and I don't just study all day. I'm not short or anything, I'm 5 foot 10.5 with my hair shaved off. I'm not skinny either, I'm 140-145 lbs of solid muscle (I can bench press about 180lbs with proper form). I dunno, I guess I want everyone's opinions. Wink


Yeah, im 16 also and have this same problem! Its all about confidence buddy, and iv got none!
Anyway, just walk tall and let yourself be known.
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replied September 30th, 2007
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Haha this is the convention for men lacking confidence. Jeaston sir, there is nothing wrong or weird sounding about having to take a dance class. But MMA, you are only 16, so much life in you left! Guess what, I'm 19, still a virgin, still saved my first kiss. Hugging... well I lost count of that =). No, it really wasn't an issue about getting a girl, I just wanted to stay true to myself and find somebody that will mean something to me. Yes, it is all about confidence, women have some sort of radar that can sense your uneasiness and lack of confidence. I still have a lot of low self esteem issues from the past, but when it comes to socializing now, I just barge in there when I'm in the mood and talk like it was destined to be. My trick I guess is, you know how whenever you are considering talking to some girls, whoever, and you suddenly feel that freeze that gives you second doubts and nervousness that usually whispers "oh man, they are going to think I'm an idiot" (this is what I feel at least), I just shove all that aside and go F it, I'm going in. Ask more questions (important ones though) then talking about yourself though, girls love a listener. But don't suddenly barge in with questions that don't pertain to the situation. I gained my self confidence with the help of meeting my lovable girl friends actually. They assured me of a lot of issues I had such as my looks. Turns out I'm not ugly haha. Good luck to you sir, don't let people get to you with bull about being chinese or nerdy, like everybody else here said, there is somebody for everybody, just a matter of whether or not you will be confident enough to seek them.
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replied December 31st, 2007
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yo man i was in the same boat as you were when i was in highschool. No one liked me, i was on the wrestling team, im 5'4 i benched 180 and none of the girls would like me. I never been kissed until i met my girlfriend in sophtmore year of college, and trust me she loved it that i was a virgin. Dont lose ur virginity in highschool cuz that !**@! is just puppy love and not worth the heart break in the end. Save it for college where it really counts.
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replied December 5th, 2009
u r not alone. when i tell friends taht i too am still a at 21 never been, never been in a relationship, or dated anyone ever. they all stare at me in shock because that's not normal in this culture. but in some cultures it's manditary keep urself for that one special whom u'll spend the rest of ur life with in marriage
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replied December 5th, 2009
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its fine dude, some progress more quickly... and ur a dude, so is it like you dont know girls that are interested in you, or u just havent asked them out... and if ur into huggging its quite easy to get a hug, just walk up to someone (dont really even have to know them lol,i dont most of the time) and hold your arms out for a hug (p.s. make sure that your with people that know them and that know you lol, othewise you come off as a creeper)
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replied December 15th, 2009
I'm 18 and in the same boat as you. I used to worry about but I don't anymore. Just give it some time and have faith, you'll meet the right person.
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replied December 15th, 2009
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If you're still reading this thread you don't know how good you had it at 16. You move on to sex when you're ready to go there. In the meantime you're in good physical shape, you're smart and you have a lot of interests. That's a recipe for a lifetime of sex appeal. Other guys work on being a well-rounded person. Being obsessed about one aspect of your life kills your chances of being with women in your teen years you should be too busy with other interests to have time for girls. Years seem long when you're young but the time you have to become a man is very short.
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