Loss of Erection From Use of Condoms??? :s Posted: 09-23-07 19:42pm
Hello,
Im writing in because im worried about
weather my boyfriend and i will ever be
able to have sex.
The present issue: When we attempt to have
sex, putting on the condom, he looses his
errection… We tried getting back the
erection, but wasn’t strong enough. So I
end up masturbating him until he cums.
Condoms, he doesn’t like them, I don’t
like them, so we’re going to have to
discard that idea.
Past problems : He told me in a past
relationship he couldn’t enter his
girlfriend at the time, because his penis
just wouldn’t go in :/ saying she was to
“tight” and that this has give him a
fear since then. It was over a year ago.
He is 25, and I am 21. He’s penis size
is rather average I would say, and don’t
see how he could have much of an ongoing
problem with this… He also told me he
had phimosis as a boy, which is now
cured.
For the time being we masturbate, rub
against each other...etc… But its
getting rather stressfull for the both of
us… I don’t hassle him about it, I
simply say that its ok, and well get
through it.I don’t want to give him any
anxiety on the subject as it would only
make things worse. But it upsets him a lot
…
I know its not me, because he’s crazy
about me, but I just don’t get the whole
story with the exgirlfriend :s seems a
little strange, and im worried that like
other guys, maybe it’s a maturbation
problem :s however I dont think he
masturbates much… hmm help!!
Anyone got any similar problems?
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asteombb
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Joined: 05 Sep 2007 Posts: 8
Re: Loss of Erection From Use of Condoms??? :s Posted: 09-28-07 15:57pm
hope1234
wrote:
Hello,
Anyone got any similar problems?
Ya, I cant really stay hard with a condom
on either.
The BIGGEST sex organ is the brain you
know..
So if putting on a piece of rubber is a
mental turn off...whoom down goes the
erection...
If it necessary that you wear one, you can
try putting it on orally.
Bottom line is, your man is going to havet
to be super turned on to not have it
affect him..
Try dressing up super sexy for him,
initiate the love making in a very
romantic setting, let him lie back while
you do all the work, and try to put the
bugger on with nothing but your mouth
(flavored one if you have to)
As far as the other problems go...
It sounds like its just a mental thing
because hes worried about losing the
erection.
That can be devastating to a mans ego,
even if he doesn't quite realize it.
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devino
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 10-07-07 15:26pm
It has happened to me before, it sure can
be demoralizing but it sounds like he is
lucky to have such an understanding
girlfriend and I'm sure you guys can work
through it as I have (I also had
phimosis). I got myself to the doctors to
see about a circumcision but unfortunately
the waiting list was 3-4 months and during
this time me and my girl have had some
amazing sex sessions, we have totally
powered through it. I have just had my
circumcision and hopefully things can only
get better (in a few weeks that is!). You
just have to be creative, find out what he
likes best, and if possible, try using a
contraceptive pill?
