Worried About Possible Pregnancy; Unintended W/drawal Method Posted: 09-22-07 07:07am
Hello everyone! I'm new here, and I just
needed to vent my worries over possibly
having conceived last week.
I am already a single mother. This was my
first time having sex in over two years;
it wasn't planned, we were supposed to
just do other things, but we were drunk
and he unexpectedly penetrated me without
protection (I have a latex allergy, and he
didn't know what kind of condoms to bring
- I didn't have any because I have been
celibate). We had sex on and off
throughout the night without protection,
never more than a couple minutes at a
time, and he did not ejaculate inside me.
He did, however, have copious amounts of
pre-ejaculate, and, I learned on the
internet after the fact, pre-ejaculate can
contain up to a few thousand sperm! In
addition, the sex took place on Friday the
14th at night, and I ovulated on Sunday
morning (I get mittelschmerz). My cycle
started 9/3 or 9/4, and I have 25 day
cycles. Needless to say, I am freaked
out. I just want to know either way, so I
can figure out what to do. I am to old for
this, so is he - we both have children,
there is no excuse for our irresponsible
behavior. He has no idea I am fretting
about this. I've had quite a bit of
alcohol the past couple months, so I would
be worried about the effect this could
have on any possible baby conceived at
this time. I won't have an abortion (not
against it, I just personally couldn't
destroy a life I created - I feel sad
killing roaches and mosquitos), hence the
worry.
Does anyone know what the chance is I
could have conceived? I am going to the
drugstore today to get some First Response
tests, but I can't use them until Monday
the earliest. Their website said 69% of
women would get accurate results 4 days
before their missed periods. I know I only
need to wait about a week to see if my
period gets here, but I can't stand it.
When I was pregnant with my son, I started
throwing up 8 days after conception. That
would be tomorrow, but I have an anxiety
issue which makes me feel nauseated, so,
even if I did feel like puking, I can't
trust it as a symptom of anything. ARGH!
Anyway, thanks in advance for any support
or advice.
similar thing happened to me with my
GF...We had sex and to me she just looked
and felt pregnant to me...I asked her to
get a test a week or so after and it was
negative...She let it go, but I knew she
was pregnant...it wasnt until 2 weeks
later while at work a mental patient said
"congrats on the baby, when are you due"
she took another test and sure enough it
was positive...I wouldnt really trust the
first response tests that say they can
tell 1 day after your first missed
period...they arent expensive but I would
get 2 and try one a few weeks later if its
negative...
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rosejackson
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Posted: 09-22-07 12:04pm
yes you could be pregnant hun. wait until
your period is due then take a pregnancy
test. i wouldnt do it any sooner as it is
more accurate the nearer to your period or
after your period is due. good luck x
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beepbeep176
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Posted: 09-22-07 12:13pm
Yes you could be pregnant. It's probably
best if you wait until you miss your
period before you test. There's a strong
possiblity there's not going to be enough
HGC in your system to tell even with the
first reponse test. If you do decide to
test early and it comes out negative it's
probably a good idea to take another test
a week or so later.
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Jules
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Posted: 09-23-07 00:47am
It's certainly possible that you are
pregnant but like the others say, it's
best to wait to test until your period is
due to test (and even then some women
don't get a positive until later).
If you're not pregnant, for future
reference the morning after pill can be
used up to 72 hours after unprotected sex.
It's not 100% effective though of
course.
Also, get yourself some latex free condoms
so you don't get caught unprepared again -
it'll stop you catching any nasties as
well as reducing the pregnancy risk.
Good luck and keep us posted.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 09-23-07 01:02am
I will say that the alcohol probably
didn't have any effect on it unless you've
been drinking heavily after
you had unprotected sex. Alcohol consumed
before conception doesn't have any
bearing.
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JaneGoethe
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Joined: 22 Sep 2007 Posts: 4
Thanks For the Replies Posted: 09-23-07 04:18am
I am sick with anxiety over this. The
timing is just very bad because I am
trying to get back on my feet financially,
I have to finish my bachelors degree, etc.
Thanks so much to everyone for the
replies.
I am going to test early, even though I
know you are all very correct in that I
should wait as HCG levels vary.
Finished later -Ack! My friend picked up
the wrong First Response test, so I will
just wait until the 30th. Argh.
Thank you everyone!
Blessed Be,
Jane
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cln1812
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Posted: 09-23-07 07:58am
Even with first response, you won't
necessarily get a positive result if you
are pregnant testing early. I tested with
First Response Early Result the day after
my period was due, and the 2nd line I got
was super faint, I couldn't tell if it was
there or not; if I'd tested earlier, I
would have had a negative test. I had to
go out and get the new Clearblue digital
(the one that says results 5 days sooner)
on the box, and that took almost the whole
3 min. to register 2 days after my late
period, but it did say pregnant.
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JaneGoethe
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Posted: 09-23-07 09:01am
When I had my son, the first test I took
was defective, so I waited until my period
was about 2-3 days late and that second
line came on so fast and so dark, it beat
out the test line! My son's father said,
"How long do we have to wait?" and before
he got out the "we" it was done in
parallel indigo lines. That was, I think,
a Rite Aid test, the old fashion kind you
use a cup and a dropper for...I like those
better than the pee-on-a-stick kind, which
always give me funny results. Maybe my aim
just sucks!
Take care,
Jane
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Mabel
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Posted: 09-23-07 11:07am
JaneGoethe
wrote:
When I had my son, the first
test I took was defective, so I waited
until my period was about 2-3 days late
and that second line came on so fast and
so dark, it beat out the test line! My
son's father said, "How long do we have to
wait?" and before he got out the "we" it
was done in parallel indigo lines. That
was, I think, a Rite Aid test, the old
fashion kind you use a cup and a dropper
for...I like those better than the
pee-on-a-stick kind, which always give me
funny results. Maybe my aim just sucks!
Take care,
Jane
Use a cup. Pee in the cup. Dip the stick
in the cup. No mistake.
Good luck!
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JaneGoethe
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Joined: 22 Sep 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 10-01-07 04:23am
I still have no period, but all the
pregnancy tests came out negative(took
them all too early *sheepish grin*). I
read my old journals and with my son I
took the test that came out positive at 17
days past conception, so I will just wait
until then - and HE is paying for this
one.
I have had "chemical" pregnancies and
other early miscarriages in the past, and
I have been throwing up for a week now, so
I guess the real question at this point is
"will it stick".
Thanks to everyone, just wanted to update.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-01-07 09:30am
Well, good luck for whatever your intended
outcome is!
