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I am about to turn 16 in a couple of days and I have been sexually active in the past (about a year ago). I don't remember exactly when it started but I can barely get any boners, once in a while I get hard but it doesn't last long. Its starting to worry me because I don't think i ever had a problem with sex, or masturbating and it just happened out of nowhere.
I eat very healthy, I excersise regulkarly (5 days a week). I am a very stress free person. And i cant figure out where I went wrong. I try to NOT masturbate for as long as possible sometimes a week or two, but it doesnt work much.


I need help.
I am really getting worried.

IF I get in a sexual relationship i dont think I'lll be able to keep a boner long enough to put the condom on.........




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replied September 29th, 2007
dude oh my gosh im in the same boat someone help!
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replied October 6th, 2007
Most Hard-on Problems Is Psychological
try to forget about getting a boner and just enjoy. All of a sudden, you'll be happy with what you see. Try a little bit of alcohol and some good music before sex. That will keep your mind worry free.
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replied October 6th, 2007
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Alcohol?? He's 15!! Come on!!

I do agree though, try relaxing and just letting it happen. It could be just a mental thing, and the more worked up you get about it the harder it will be.

However, if that doesn't help at all, you might want to see your doc, because at your age, you shouldn't have this problem.
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replied October 6th, 2007
Yea, suggesting alcohol to him is not a good idea. Dont try that.
I realized I cant get it up unless i'm not trying to, just let it happen.
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replied June 22nd, 2008
well heres my problem ive tried 3 nights in a row and NOTHING!!! i have never had this problem before. ive had pretty good hard ons before but now i cant even get fully erect. they are like semi erect. its gettin me pissed and my girlfriend and i sure dont wanna lose her cuz my guy cant get up.....what can i do????

ohh and im not nervous about it so it cant be that.
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replied December 22nd, 2008
cant get a boner
i am having the same problem. when i fool around with my girlfiend i can get it up no poblem at all and of course she notices. But once we get our clothes off i just cant keep my boy up. I really wanna have sex with her too and so im trying to get my boy up but once i do hell go down again after tyin to stick it in. one thing is that she doesnt like foreplay all that much she just wants to get down and screw. I am a virgin but she is not, i really luv her and wanna show her that sexually. Please someone give me some advise!!!
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replied March 8th, 2009
im about to be 18 and my girlfriend and i mess around alot...just little things most of the time cause her parents are pretty protective and can barely get any alone time at my house, well while we are doing just little things, i can get it up just fine, almost all the way. but right when we switch off and she starts gettin her hands down there and all that good stuff. well it just doesnt stay very hard. i mean shes not the best at what she does but enough to enjoy it. i guess my problem is that it used to go up just fine and sex used to be a non issue, but this is like the 5th time its happened in a row, and its become somewhat of a bigger issue now. soometimes it just doesnt even go at all =\...anyone got some tips? talkin to the doc is the last thing i wanna do, but i will if ive really got to =\
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replied March 8th, 2009
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Few things that may affect your erections:
- Stress
- smoking
- too much alcohol
- excessive masturbation
- too much porn
- caffeine (energy drinks!)
- not enough exercise
- too much processed foods(junk food)
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replied December 20th, 2009
Same Problem
Ok im 16, i have a problem geting a bonner also, when i see a hot girl it doesnt come up, and in masterbation its 3/4 erect. is masterbaiting an avg of 2 or 3 times a day to many times? i have a little stress, i dont smoke, i dont drink, i do look at porn but not to much anymore since my computer broke, i do have caffeine probly a little to much, i dont get a lot of exercise except for masterbation, and i do drink a lot of pepsi, and i eat bad. Please reply to me.
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replied December 20th, 2009
Cant get aroused help!
Im 18 and for the last couple months ive noticed that I can't get aroused anymore. I used to get hard ones by just looking at porn and thinking of women. But now its hard to even masterbate, my penis is shrunk all the time and if I stop masterbating for even a moment I will loose my boner. Ive had a girlfriend for a couple months and when we are in bed its alot of trouble. This is just destroying my self esteem. Ill get a boner and then it will go away and if she tryed to make a move on me it wouldnt turn me on. Maybe im stressed over the whole having sex for the first time. But still, I have this problem when im alone... I use to smoke a couple months ago but quit, ive had an ear infection for the last couple months, possibly stressed cause of work and everything i dont know.. Ive had stress before and never had this problem. Someone please help me, this is ruining my life.
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replied December 21st, 2009
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johnfarm
When you say you used to smoke, do you mean that you smoked Marijuana for longer than 6 months more than once a week?
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replied December 21st, 2009
Cant get aroused help!
I smoked marijuana about 5 times in 1 month and that was it. But i smoked cigarets for about 4 months. and quit both about the same time 3 months ago. I probably did a pack every two weeks during that period.
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replied December 21st, 2009
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5 times in a month isn't likely to be enough for marijuana withdrawl. At your age it's not normal for you to be having these problems. You should talk to a doctor.
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replied December 21st, 2009
My bf has problems popping a boner. Instead of having sex I usually end up giving him oral. It lowers my self esteem because I think I am unattractive.. Maybe these are the reasons why..
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replied December 22nd, 2009
Testicles problem?
Also to mention my testicles. One testicle has very little or i guess you would say normal epididymis around it. But the left one has alot around it and is kinda weird after I take a shower cuz it seems like theres to much. Is this normal in the testicles to have 1 side have alot of the tube things? Maybe its a connecting point for both testicles i dont know. Also Ive had slight pain i guess you could say in the tube leaving out of the sac.
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replied December 22nd, 2009
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johnfarm
Your testes aren't ball bearings, they are irregular by nature. The reason they are suspened in the scrotum is to allow free movement and allow those tubes to shift as they need to to facilitate the creation of millions of sperm daily. At your age, unless you're in pain or bleeding don't worry about your testes until your doctor tells you to worry.
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replied January 15th, 2010
sometimes if you smoke weed and then quit it is harder to get a boner and to keep one. my boyfriend has that problem because he just recently quit smoking pot so sometimes that has to do with it too! and just so you all know i am a girl.. i have been reading on different sites to see if smoking pot causes you not to be able to stay hard because we were having that problem. one thing that i have notice is when he did smoke pot he was hard all the time then when he didnt its quit difficult to. in a way just so he can stay hard cuz it kinda sucks not being able to have sex with him. and btw my bf is 15
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replied January 15th, 2010
A lot of times you need to just slow down and relax. Sometimes you get to eager and are nervous at the same time so limpness becomes an issue, especially if you are a virgin. Instead of trying to jump in right away try laying together naked, giving each other massages, or even just kissing. It will give you that extra time to calm yourself and you will probably be better able to "rise to the occassion" plus your girl will think you are being sensative and caring meaning MAJOR brownie points
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replied January 24th, 2010
Arousal problems
Theres gotta be some kind of libido booster or something to fix this. I simply just cant get aroused like most guys do when they see a women. Self-esteem and life killer right there. And the strange thing is when i was in bed with a girl, ive always noticed that i get boners easier when we are laying down quietly with the lights off.
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