I would say, don't start worring yet. Sounds like the Morphine is talking and not him. My mom did the same thing on a similar IV pain med. I would not take his words to heart right now. Hard core post surgery drugs or in this case post truama drugs have a different affect on everyone. Personally, I think it is the drug talking. Chill and relax and let this person get well first before you make a jump you might be sorry for.
BTW: Morphine does not usually come in drip form. It is either on a pump (push on command method) or what we call "IV Push" where the doc order a shot throught the IV line as he feels needed. Usually every four to six hours depending on the severity of the truama. Sometimes if the truama is really bad they well put you in a medically indused coma untill you are out of the woods (so to speak).

MsSky

Hi....I think MsSky is correct about the morphine talking instead of your fiance. I was wounded in Vietnam and went through several major operations and was put on morphine.

The morphine causes terrible dreams and disorients you to real life. I had trouble distinguishing which people I knew and trusted and my mind would make me paranoid. My dad told me I thought he was the President and one of the nurses was the first lady. I also felt like I was in a dream state much of the time.

I would not get too alarmed until he starts to get better and they start to wean him off morphine. He should return to the guy you know. That morphine is very good as a pain medication, but it is also dangerous stuff.

Hope this helps. Good luck.

i just found out today that he was taken off the morphine. he has had a lot of surgeries, and at this point im just staying away because i dont want to set him off. between the trauma, surgeries, meds....obviously he has had it rough.

they called it a morphine drip, but yes it was the button that he could push whenever he felt pain, someone had to push it for him, because his arms are broken, but nevertheless, he seemed to be making perfect sense when i talked to him, not slurring his words, not like you would assume it would seem like. either way.......thanks for the advice.

He will seem like he is making sense. There does not have to be any slurred speach. It is just the reaction to the med and that is normal. My mom seemed to be with it too when she threw us out of the room. I went right to the nurse and said, I want her off of it right now! But, take into consideration she was a post op patient had having a hysterectomy. No comparrsion to your fiance.
Just give him time to get through this. I think part of this may be, that he feels you won't love him any more. Looking at the physcialogical side of this it makes sense. Maybe he is taking it out on you so he does not have to feel that you are with him just as a care giver with sympathy. In that case just give him alot of TLC that he needs even if he tries to reject you. But, don'nt be over pushy. That would not be good either. Know when to draw the line OK. From the sounds of it, he is not only going through a very horrific physical ordeal, he could be going though a horrific mental ordeal along with it. This is just my opinion and maybe some sunshine for you. Hang in there OK. It will work out.

so much for that idea. i see how the morphine drugged him up, but hes off now, and still has so much hatred towards me.

OK, this first thing is, It is you that I am worried about. This is not going to happen over night. He is lashing out here. This has nothing to do with him loving you. Which I am sure he still does. He is going through the grieving mode, and I have been through this. He feels that you will not love him anymore due to his near fatal accident. Now you have to give him some space. And you my dear need to seek some counseling for this. Remember, this is the person you are going to marry. This happens and it is normal. He has alot of healing to do. A lot (and I mean a lot) of therapy ahead of him. You still have to be buy his side. I is not going to be easy. You giving up on him way to fast here. Ya know grieving does not have to be about death. It is about loosing ones ability to be the person you once were and the life you use to lead. Once he goes through rehab and starts getting his life back totgether you will start to see small sutle changes in him. I still say he will come around. Now, after he regains most of his life back. If he still feels this way, then and only then would I give it up.
Now, on the other side of the coin. You are going to have a lot to deal with here. You are going to need the streangh to either stick with him or walk away. That has to be your choice. Nevertheless, this is going to be just as hard on you as it is him.
If you need someone to talk to, please PM me and seek a counselor. If you love him enough, you will see him though this.
Now, it is time to give him some space. Stay away for awhile. I know it is going to be hard but you have to do it. This will give him time to regroup and think more clearly.
I am worried about you. Very worried. Please keep in touch.

BTW: My name is "Carrie"