Sexual Health - Men Forum - a Little Bit Premature...

Ok I was just wondering if anyone else has delt with this and if there is anything that can be done. I love my boyfriend to death but our sex life is just not satisfying. We are very close and have no problem talking about this. He knows he cant satisfy me in bed and it makes him feel horrible no matter what I say.

His problem is that he is a total minute man.. sometimes he doesn't even last that long. It has been like this his entire life. He is only 22 and lost his virginity at 17 and has always orgasmed very fast. It helps alittle if he masterbated that day but only by a min or two. He use to have problems keeping it up too. With his last girlfriend he couldn't keep it up for anything.. Shocked

only once in awhile does he have that problem with me.

He has always been to shy to go to th doctor with his conerns before and now that he is a little more mature and is willing to go he doesn't have insurance so he has to wait until he can afford to go. So im wondering if anyone has any advice.

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donb_fl

replied on September 19th, 2007

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well... i have read about this subject some as i have the opposite problem, anorgasmia, but no ED. from what i have read the real cure is time & experience, does he at least do foreplay and afterplay to satisfy you? If not that just selfish... Rolling Eyes

there is a big thread at the stickys on this forum with lots of premature discussion, like drugs etc they have tried.

LadyRikash

replied on September 19th, 2007

New User

Thank you very much for that. I will check it out.

jimbob50004

replied on September 21st, 2007

New User

well i think i can compare to what he is going through when i first started have sex i could have sex and i was orgasm in less then a minute but i wouldn't go soft so i just never stopped having sex and kept going till the second cum came around. Which kinda worked out nice for me because sometimes that second cum didn't come for a hour or 2 so i got the rep as a long distancer. so what i am saying maybe you can try that if he goes soft right after then i don't know?

LadyRikash

replied on September 21st, 2007

New User

Yeah he does go soft right after... If he didn't then it wouldn't be a problem at all.. Also he cant get it up right away after he goes soft.. It usually takes him at least 15 min. Its def. a set back in our sex life.

Georgia59

replied on September 21st, 2007

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One way to help (in the meantime before he can see a doc) is to play around, let him orgasm, but keep sex going. That is, he can stimulate you orally/manually, or you can masturbate, etc.... then you are satisfied as well. And maybe you can continue going until he's ready to go again, and end together?

It's worth a shot.

chuck21

replied on August 7th, 2009

New User

I have the same problem, after about a minute or two I would cum. After I would cum my penis would go limp. What me and my girlfriend tried was she would pleasure me first since it would not take long at all for me to orgasm. After I ejaculate then I would foreplay with her for about 15 to 20 mins until I get ready to perform again and we would have sex for about 20 to 45 minutes after that. Hope this helps.

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