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Q: Need Advice Please!?!
asked by: bluicechic on September 18th, 2007
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I have been looking for something on the internet that could possibly help me out with this decision (I know it probably isnt out there but I am at a loss)
I am almost 22 years old, and am almost 6 weeks pregnant.
I got pregnant just before I turned 19, with my boyfriend of 6 months who was 21. We decided to have the baby, I never really even considered an abortion. My son is now 2 1/2 and the love of my life. I put off school for a while but am now in my 2nd year at a very costly and very intense school. I am no longer with his father and have been with my current boyfriend, who is almost 20, for almost a year now.
He said he would support me through this, but most of the time he acts as if it is not happening, and he is not the most responsible person by far. I have been on the fence about having this baby since I found out. I live off school loans, he has plenty of money but is trying to finish up college this year.
I finally made him come clean about how he feels and he said "i dont think we can handle this right now. I think we need to wait until we're married. But I don't want you to be in any pain, so its your decision"
Today i made an appointment for thursday to have a medication abortion but i have been crying since i got off the phone, and dont know if i can go through with it.
I guess i just need any advice i can get
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Mabel
replied on September 18th, 2007
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Sweetie, this is entirely your decision and you will need to be comfortable making it. If you are making this decision because someone else decided for you, I can 100% tell you that you will regret it. Maybe not right away, but eventually you will.

If this is the right choice for you, however, you will not regret it.

It is a difficult decision but not matter what you do, do it for you and not for someone else, ok?

(((hugs)))
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bluicechic
replied on September 18th, 2007
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Thanks!
I think that is what is confusing me the most whether or not what I want is being affected by him. If he was completely happy I would definately go for it. But i do not want to do this alone, and if I have this baby I want to be able to beexcited about it and talk about it.
I am also worried that the reasons I want an abortion are too selfish. I never got to go out and have fun because I was at home with my son, and now I could have some fun nights to myself since he is a little older. I also like that my relationship with my boyfriend is carefree and dont really want it to become all about a baby.
But that all sounds a little too selfish to have an abortion for
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Mabel
replied on September 18th, 2007
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bluicechic wrote:
Thanks!
I think that is what is confusing me the most whether or not what I want is being affected by him. If he was completely happy I would definately go for it. But i do not want to do this alone, and if I have this baby I want to be able to beexcited about it and talk about it.
I am also worried that the reasons I want an abortion are too selfish. I never got to go out and have fun because I was at home with my son, and now I could have some fun nights to myself since he is a little older. I also like that my relationship with my boyfriend is carefree and dont really want it to become all about a baby.
But that all sounds a little too selfish to have an abortion for


That is not selfish at all. I can entirely understand.
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Georgia59
replied on September 20th, 2007
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Not being ready for another baby is a fine reason to have an abortion. And although you're right, you shouldn't make the decision because of your boyfriend, you have to think about if you're ready to do this on your own if he doesn't want to stick around and help.

Good luck

Do what your gut tells you!
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dayiscoming2006
replied on November 25th, 2007
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Since you are having doubts, have you considered giving the baby for adoption. I do recommend researching about it more too, just so you can make an informed decision. This is your decision to make.
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