Sexual Health - Women Forum - I Have Sex With My Boss

Mabel

replied on September 18th, 2007

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Re: With My Boss

babe2005 wrote:

I got out of a relationship around 4 months back and i was quite depressed about it .My immediate boss is physically very attractive.Since couple of months we work very closely due to some project deadline.One night i was working late in my office so was my boss one thing lead to another and finally we had sex in his office.Since then we have sex quite often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont think anyone has pleased me like him. He is too good with his oral skills.I never asked him about his personal life nor did he. last thursday i came to know that he is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if i were in a relationship i won't do such a thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one who has to think about moral issues not me and just continue?
What would you guys do?

You aren't going to like some of the answers you get to such an open ended question. But ultimately, this is your choice. Please always use condoms. It is the respectful thing to do for everyone.

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young Girl

replied on September 18th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

stop haveing sex with him?!?!? thats messed up

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meblonde01

replied on September 18th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Re: With My Boss

babe2005 wrote:

I got out of a relationship around 4 months back and i was quite depressed about it .My immediate boss is physically very attractive.Since couple of months we work very closely due to some project deadline.One night i was working late in my office so was my boss one thing lead to another and finally we had sex in his office.Since then we have sex quite often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont think anyone has pleased me like him. He is too good with his oral skills.I never asked him about his personal life nor did he. last thursday i came to know that he is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if i were in a relationship i won't do such a thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one who has to think about moral issues not me and just continue?
What would you guys do?

Married means he is comitted to another women. I alway ask myself how would I like it. How would you like to be his wife and you hubby was doing that to you. Not to mention.. She will find out. THey always do. Then a family might be devided and you might be the cause. EVen thought he might do the same with another women if he wasn't with you, I would not like the thoughts that I was the one that maybe broke a heart of another women or kids.. I say stop and find a man that is not married there are many of them out there. What he is doing is wrong. and you are part of it..

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meblonde01

replied on September 18th, 2007

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the_girlfreind wrote:

stop haveing sex with him?!?!? thats messed up

LOL want to be more to the point Girlfriend! Wink

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lonestarguy

replied on September 18th, 2007

Active User, very eHealthy

Think About It!

babe2005 wrote:

I got out of a relationship around 4 months back and i was quite depressed about it .My immediate boss is physically very attractive.Since couple of months we work very closely due to some project deadline.One night i was working late in my office so was my boss one thing lead to another and finally we had sex in his office.Since then we have sex quite often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont think anyone has pleased me like him. He is too good with his oral skills.I never asked him about his personal life nor did he. last thursday i came to know that he is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if i were in a relationship i won't do such a thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one who has to think about moral issues not me and just continue?
What would you guys do?

Girlfriend and meblonde are both right in their own styles. Put yourself in his wife's place. Think about his family, not how good the sex is or how good-looking he is! Don't be a fool. Just because you are not in a relationship, you suddenly have no moral values? The test is whether you respect yourself and him enough to stop this stuff.

I was faced with the same dilemma once and it was difficult to stop before I began, but I was married with kids. The temptation is going to be there, but if you have a moral compass, you will always know the correct choice.

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Georgia59

replied on September 18th, 2007

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Stop having sex with him! Yes, it's his issue to deal with. But do you really want to be intimate with a guy this "open" about sex? What if he is having sex with many other women? What if he isn't using protection? What if he gets you pregnant (birth control is not 100%) and fires you to make you go away and leaves you so that he doesn't ruin his relationship with his wife? What if you decide that you want to end the sexual relationship and he fires you?

You need to respect and protect yourself more. Find another guy, who isn't your boss, and isn't married.

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young Girl

replied on September 18th, 2007

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meblonde01 wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

stop haveing sex with him?!?!? thats messed up

LOL want to be more to the point Girlfriend! Wink

you know it Cool

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Mabel

replied on September 18th, 2007

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Georgia59 wrote:

Stop having sex with him! Yes, it's his issue to deal with. But do you really want to be intimate with a guy this "open" about sex? What if he is having sex with many other women? What if he isn't using protection? What if he gets you pregnant (birth control is not 100%) and fires you to make you go away and leaves you so that he doesn't ruin his relationship with his wife? What if you decide that you want to end the sexual relationship and he fires you?

You need to respect and protect yourself more. Find another guy, who isn't your boss, and isn't married.

Actually, if he fires her she can sue the company. There is probably a fraternization policy in their employee contract. He cannot admit to having sex with her. And he cannot fire her for having or not having a relationship with him.

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Fairy Godmother

replied on September 18th, 2007

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Excuse Me?

You don't $$$$ in your salad..............Old cliche, but true. This man is your boss. You could be fired at the drop of a hat. How do you know you aren't the only one having sex with this MARRIED MAN? Not a good idea. I'd respect myself more and get out of this relationship/situation before it gets really bad. Whats gonna happen when you start having feelings for him and he has no commitments to leaving his wife and family? Step up to the plate and be the better woman...............I'd hate to know i was the 'other woman" who caused a family (especially if children are involved) to fall apart. I could not live with myself..................

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sillyakchick

replied on September 18th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Well, that's a pretty akward situation. Maybe you could tell him that you respect him and his family obligations too much to continue on a sexual relationship with him? This would help you to ease the obviously tenuous nature of the professional relationship you have with him and keep you out of the positioin he is putting you in. Obviously if you didn't know about it beforehand, then it is not your fault, but I think the proper thing to do would be to end it-carefully, so you don't damage your positiion at work and it won't feel "icky" to work there afterward. Good luck. I do not envy the position you are in.

(He's a schmuck for doing this!)

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Georgia59

replied on September 18th, 2007

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Ingi wrote:

Georgia59 wrote:

Stop having sex with him! Yes, it's his issue to deal with. But do you really want to be intimate with a guy this "open" about sex? What if he is having sex with many other women? What if he isn't using protection? What if he gets you pregnant (birth control is not 100%) and fires you to make you go away and leaves you so that he doesn't ruin his relationship with his wife? What if you decide that you want to end the sexual relationship and he fires you?

You need to respect and protect yourself more. Find another guy, who isn't your boss, and isn't married.

Actually, if he fires her she can sue the company. There is probably a fraternization policy in their employee contract. He cannot admit to having sex with her. And he cannot fire her for having or not having a relationship with him.

So at least she has some insurance there.

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none_tea

replied on September 21st, 2007

New User

Heheh

if i wwere the boss,,, it is verry enjoble having s8x with my aplicant lol ..joke

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