I got out of a relationship around 4
months back and i was quite depressed
about it .My immediate boss is physically
very attractive.Since couple of months we
work very closely due to some project
deadline.One night i was working late in
my office so was my boss one thing lead to
another and finally we had sex in his
office.Since then we have sex quite
often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont
think anyone has pleased me like him. He
is too good with his oral skills.I never
asked him about his personal life nor did
he. last thursday i came to know that he
is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if
i were in a relationship i won't do such a
thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one
who has to think about moral issues not me
and just continue?
What would you guys do?
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Mabel
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Re: With My Boss Posted: 09-18-07 14:13pm
babe2005
wrote:
I got out of a relationship
around 4 months back and i was quite
depressed about it .My immediate boss is
physically very attractive.Since couple of
months we work very closely due to some
project deadline.One night i was working
late in my office so was my boss one thing
lead to another and finally we had sex in
his office.Since then we have sex quite
often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont
think anyone has pleased me like him. He
is too good with his oral skills.I never
asked him about his personal life nor did
he. last thursday i came to know that he
is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if
i were in a relationship i won't do such a
thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one
who has to think about moral issues not me
and just continue?
What would you guys
do?
You aren't going to like some of the
answers you get to such an open ended
question. But ultimately, this is your
choice. Please always use condoms. It is
the respectful thing to do for everyone.
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-18-07 14:33pm
stop haveing sex with him?!?!? thats
messed up
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meblonde01
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Re: With My Boss Posted: 09-18-07 14:37pm
babe2005
wrote:
I got out of a relationship
around 4 months back and i was quite
depressed about it .My immediate boss is
physically very attractive.Since couple of
months we work very closely due to some
project deadline.One night i was working
late in my office so was my boss one thing
lead to another and finally we had sex in
his office.Since then we have sex quite
often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont
think anyone has pleased me like him. He
is too good with his oral skills.I never
asked him about his personal life nor did
he. last thursday i came to know that he
is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if
i were in a relationship i won't do such a
thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one
who has to think about moral issues not me
and just continue?
What would you guys
do?
Married means he is comitted to another
women. I alway ask myself how would I like
it. How would you like to be his wife and
you hubby was doing that to you. Not to
mention.. She will find out. THey always
do. Then a family might be devided and you
might be the cause. EVen thought he might
do the same with another women if he
wasn't with you, I would not like the
thoughts that I was the one that maybe
broke a heart of another women or kids.. I
say stop and find a man that is not
married there are many of them out there.
What he is doing is wrong. and you are
part of it..
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meblonde01
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Posted: 09-18-07 14:42pm
the_girlfreind
wrote:
stop haveing sex with
him?!?!? thats messed
up
LOL want to be more to the point
Girlfriend!
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lonestarguy
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Think About It! Posted: 09-18-07 15:06pm
babe2005
wrote:
I got out of a relationship
around 4 months back and i was quite
depressed about it .My immediate boss is
physically very attractive.Since couple of
months we work very closely due to some
project deadline.One night i was working
late in my office so was my boss one thing
lead to another and finally we had sex in
his office.Since then we have sex quite
often.I enjoy sex with him . I mean i dont
think anyone has pleased me like him. He
is too good with his oral skills.I never
asked him about his personal life nor did
he. last thursday i came to know that he
is married.
During the weekend i was thinking that if
i were in a relationship i won't do such a
thing.Shall i say who cares he is the one
who has to think about moral issues not me
and just continue?
What would you guys
do?
Girlfriend and meblonde are both right in
their own styles. Put yourself in his
wife's place. Think about his family, not
how good the sex is or how good-looking he
is! Don't be a fool. Just because you are
not in a relationship, you suddenly have
no moral values? The test is whether you
respect yourself and him enough to stop
this stuff.
I was faced with the same dilemma once and
it was difficult to stop before I began,
but I was married with kids. The
temptation is going to be there, but if
you have a moral compass, you will always
know the correct choice.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-18-07 15:33pm
Stop having sex with him! Yes, it's his
issue to deal with. But do you really want
to be intimate with a guy this "open"
about sex? What if he is having sex with
many other women? What if he isn't using
protection? What if he gets you pregnant
(birth control is not 100%) and fires you
to make you go away and leaves you so that
he doesn't ruin his relationship with his
wife? What if you decide that you want to
end the sexual relationship and he fires
you?
You need to respect and protect yourself
more. Find another guy, who isn't your
boss, and isn't married.
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young Girl
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Posted: 09-18-07 15:34pm
meblonde01
wrote:
the_girlfreind
wrote:
stop haveing sex with
him?!?!? thats messed
up
LOL want to be more to the point
Girlfriend!
you know it
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Mabel
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Posted: 09-18-07 15:36pm
Georgia59
wrote:
Stop having sex with him!
Yes, it's his issue to deal with. But do
you really want to be intimate with a guy
this "open" about sex? What if he is
having sex with many other women? What if
he isn't using protection? What if he gets
you pregnant (birth control is not 100%)
and fires you to make you go away and
leaves you so that he doesn't ruin his
relationship with his wife? What if you
decide that you want to end the sexual
relationship and he fires you?
You need to respect and protect yourself
more. Find another guy, who isn't your
boss, and isn't
married.
Actually, if he fires her she can sue the
company. There is probably a
fraternization policy in their employee
contract. He cannot admit to having sex
with her. And he cannot fire her for
having or not having a relationship with
him.
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Fairy Godmother
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Excuse Me? Posted: 09-18-07 15:46pm
You don't $$$$ in your
salad..............Old cliche, but true.
This man is your boss. You could be fired
at the drop of a hat. How do you know you
aren't the only one having sex with this
MARRIED MAN? Not a good idea. I'd respect
myself more and get out of this
relationship/situation before it gets
really bad. Whats gonna happen when you
start having feelings for him and he has
no commitments to leaving his wife and
family? Step up to the plate and be the
better woman...............I'd hate to
know i was the 'other woman" who caused a
family (especially if children are
involved) to fall apart. I could not live
with myself..................
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sillyakchick
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Posted: 09-18-07 15:47pm
Well, that's a pretty akward situation.
Maybe you could tell him that you respect
him and his family obligations too much to
continue on a sexual relationship with
him? This would help you to ease the
obviously tenuous nature of the
professional relationship you have with
him and keep you out of the positioin he
is putting you in. Obviously if you
didn't know about it beforehand, then it
is not your fault, but I think the proper
thing to do would be to end it-carefully,
so you don't damage your positiion at work
and it won't feel "icky" to work there
afterward. Good luck. I do not envy the
position you are in.
(He's a schmuck for doing this!)
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Georgia59
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Posted: 09-18-07 15:51pm
Ingi
wrote:
Georgia59
wrote:
Stop having sex with him!
Yes, it's his issue to deal with. But do
you really want to be intimate with a guy
this "open" about sex? What if he is
having sex with many other women? What if
he isn't using protection? What if he gets
you pregnant (birth control is not 100%)
and fires you to make you go away and
leaves you so that he doesn't ruin his
relationship with his wife? What if you
decide that you want to end the sexual
relationship and he fires you?
You need to respect and protect yourself
more. Find another guy, who isn't your
boss, and isn't
married.
Actually, if he fires her she can sue the
company. There is probably a
fraternization policy in their employee
contract. He cannot admit to having sex
with her. And he cannot fire her for
having or not having a relationship with
him.
So at least she has some insurance there.
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none_tea
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Heheh Posted: 09-21-07 01:01am
if i wwere the boss,,, it is verry enjoble
having s8x with my aplicant lol ..joke
