i have an eating disorder and finally decided that I would like to do something about it because it's beginning to scare me....I am 17 and have been avoiding meals and trying to eat as less as I can for about a year in a half....I am anorexic....I would like to try and do this on my own but would like your advice and help on this because I know that in the long run if I become unhappy with the way I look or if I don't like the way I look I will go back to what I am doing presently...I also suffer from depression which came out of being anorexic because i've only become depressed about a year ago...I have a very low self-esteem and not much self confidence so all the help and advice given will help me...I am currently seeing the school nurse for help but haven't gotten any info back from her and I am no longer going to be at the school next year because i'll be in college so help me please....Thank you
You have already taken 2 huge steps, spoken to the school nurse (follow that up for information, i'm disgusted that she hasn't gotten back to you!~!) & you have posted here!! :d
so now you need to realize that this didn't happen overnight & you won't heal yourslef overnight & you will have bad days & setbacks - all of which is normal!@!
what can you do to help yourself? First what foods do you really enjoy eating? It's generally easier to eat things we really like than other stuff. Second, do not do too much exercise, but do at least have a 30 minute walk every day & try some yoga or pilates (these help firm & tone your body & also the yoga will help you relax & these activities will help you feel better about yourself & stay fit.
Next, with your lack of self-esteem & self-confidence take some baby steps & put up smilies wherever you can, in your room, on the fridge, in your books & smile as often as you can - this releases chemicals in your brain that make you feel better (scientific fact!!) & when you feel better in general you will start to feel better in yourself & be better able to work on yourself.
That's enough to start with.
oh, how much do you weigh, what height are you & how much have you been eating (roughly) & exercising? These are important things to know to help you because then we klnow where you started at & where you need to go - also how badly/seriously you need medical help (if at all) - I would generally put that as a last resort after what I saw with my daughter. :p
you should see your doctor or a nurse at your doctors, or see your school nurse again! You cannot diagnose yourself as anorexic, don't label yourself negatively until you have had it confirmed by a professional. It is a serious disorder to have, it's not just avoiding meals. I feel your depression is a major factor- you don't have to just suffer it, there any many ways for you to get help with depression. At your age it is fairly common, along with low self esteem. Your doctor can talk to you about depression aswell. That is also something that needs to be diagnosed. Please seek professional help, you don't nedd to suffer on your own!!!
Thank you for the help...And it is the school nurse who said that it is a sign of anorexia...I saw her today and the main reason why I haven't seen her lately is because she has been sick lately and so have I so it didn't help...But she gave me a phone number to call for a specialist in helping young adults with these problems and just for someone to talk to...I will keep you posted and keep helping me please
I enjoy eating a lot of fruits, yogurt, spaghetti, pizza. I am not fussy well sometimes but depends on my mood. I walk for about a half hour a few days a week but walk for like 15 minutes everyday. I presently weigh 115, I am 5'1. It is more during the summer that I do most of my exercise(biking everyday for long periods of time, swimming depending on the weather for long periods of time and rollerblading for long periods of time) when I say for long periods of time I normally mean like 1 hour or more. It's normal for me to do that everysummer because my family is fairly large and we don't really go on many trips. We take like a few day trips but don't go far from home. I also do the walking thing during the winter. So basically I am always up and about. Sorry may sound like i'm a busy person but i'm not someone who can sit around with nothing to do. I need something to do or I get really bored out of my mind. I know i'm kinda going off subject but I like to chat.
Ok, if my maths are correct(?) that puts you at about 50kgs which for 5'1" is fine, especially if you are well toned as alot of the weight (not that there's alot to spare esp.If you were to get sick)would then be in muscle tissue not "fat".
If you like most foods & eat a reasonable amount (which should increase in summer if you are being moer active!!) & none of the foods make you sick (like being allergic to them or them giving you tummy pains) then you should make sure you eat a balanced diet (roughly, I mean you don't need to be gung ho everyday on getting all the food groups so long as overall you get enough of what you need!!) & health/food/eating wise you should be ok.
What as you yourself pointed out you need to work on is self-esteem, depression & self-confidence. The depression may have started after the eating issues but it & eating probably both come from the lack of confidence & self-esteem. Eating disorders don't just happen out of the blue - there is a cause (abuse, bullying, violence, trauma, loss, self issues etc) & if you are to get better fully you need to deal with these.
So please go back to my first post, put smilies up, smile alot, make funny faces in the mirror (this releases chemicals to reduce depression), find a yoga program on tv or buy/borrow a video & start doing it, it will help you keep busy, help you tone, help your health both physically & emotionally. Get a copy of sam obitz' s book if you can afford it ($us13) been there, done that? Do this! On cbt (cognitive behaviour therapy) or see if your local college or hospital run course on cbt they're usually free or very cheap & could well help you overcome your problems before they become alot worse & with your summer coming up you will have some time on your hands when you could do such a course.