I honestly have no idea. There is a huge focus on increasing libido in women, not decreasing it.

Sorry to hear your situation hasn't improved, wazzy.

My prescription? A good vibrator.

You might want to try BCP. I have heard that kills the sex drive. Another one is antidepressants that kill many woman's sex drive, period.

I feel your frustration. I am in a similar but not exact situation as you. My hubby still likes to take the short cut as much as he can. Which means no foreplay, just climb up on me and climb off. Like I said in other notes, I started to make demands since couple of years ago and I actually had some success. I am really mad at him right now. I let him do the quicky a couple of times because he promised to give me oral over the weekend. Weekend comes and goes. He stayed away from the bed as late as he could. Last night he climbed up on me again and told me to wait for oral over the weekend again. I exploded. I pushed him off the bed and told him he broke his promise and no more sex ever! He had the nerve to be mad at me too. This morning he tried to hug me. "No more sex" must got him. We will see what happens. Why it's so hard to get my due? I sticked with him for 20 years, through his selfishness in bed and premature ejeculation. Reading some of the happy women's notes really made me felt so unfortunate. I am always faithful to him not because nobody else want me. This is what I get for being loyal and constant.

Have you ever considered a sex therpist?

I have considered a therapist but if I have to go alone I can't face it right now
antidepressants??????might look into that one was on a good one cymbalta it was not doing it for me I actually had the worst crying jags on that stuff no the one thing I have done is purchased the vibrator............now need batteries duh??????????and took all I had on me to get it ....I am at my daughters for a visit she had knee surgery ....my virgo is getting a break from me and my needs ......I had hoped to get laid before leaving nope the day before I did but it took my threatening to leave him to get it ? this is just way too hard on me harder than it needs to be ????????????I have hard choices to make over these next five long weeks .....wish me luck

I really wish you luck! I used to have no sexual need for about 10 years, so I didn't think sex in relationship is that important. Now I tasted the pleasure, I realized it's importance. I really feel for you now because mine is not ideal either. I understand your frustration. I hope the vibrator is enough for you. Personally, I wouldn't feel enough. I want my man to give me pleasure, not a thing. I tried masturbating a couple of times and got orgasms, but the emotional fullfillment was not there. I rather not do it again. What's different in my case is I don't have to worry about not getting laid. It's about him not work hard enough to give me O. Well, he's in my good grace again cuz he gave me three big Os last night.

Although you are looking for something to kill your desire to save the relationship, will that work? In the long run, will you resent him? I am sorry I don't have a good solution, I really wish you luck!

Let me try .....resent him? god yes it is beyond me why he would ask me to marry him and him not want to have sex with me more than he does ...He pulls these wonderful spontaneous connections on me from time to time that set me back make me wonder why I complain......I loath masturbation it is a punishment to me I will never see it any other way ..and sex with out him is not what I want either I tried I have left him It is him and his sex that I want and think I need until...........I don't and I have a feeling it will be a while .....he makes very small steps to improve our intimacy issues its not number one on his to do list he is about working and making good money to make our lives easier until we are on that street in our lives he won't stop the grind to get ahead and maybe relax and live it ........I would rather be with my virgo and homeless than with any one else and be kept ....I tried I know this is true for me ...........my daughter is beside her self and wonders why I can't just leave him and go back and give her step dad a second chance??????????if we were talking about my virgo I would be all about doing what she asks but the leo had a heavy thumb on my life I never want to go back to that kind of life ....this guy sex issue aside is everything I want to be easy going laid back and not demanding at all if I have not made the bed he says shut the door ....If I have not cooked he says what would you like me to make ?my short comings are never an issue for the virgo leo on the other hand ....not gonna bring it up ...total control of my life picked my friends plotted out the course of my day in what I should get done on a given day ......sit in on any conversation and actually talk for me and I would let him I still can't get off the phone with him unless he lets me my virgo was livid he can't believe the control that leo still had after all this time and by phone ....ok found some words huh? heheheheheh ........I either have to put up with what virgo is doing or leave him if I really dont like it thats all I can see right now so if changes dont come then I will be crying for a different reason .....just got to take little bites one day at a time he could pull another surprise out of his hat for me and I can feel good again time and more time ,,,,,thanks for the read wazzywoman/robin

Why Americans are obsessed with sex? I lived in many countries most of them in middle east; the guys there complain that they can not get enough sex for several reasons

1. The first and the most important thing is that WOMEN ARE NOT EQUAL TO MEN
2. Having sex when they are not married it is a challenge and comes with a risk of getting killed because if traditions
3. After marriage the wife is working at home taking care of the kids and the house all day long and she is not into the mood of having sex afterwards.
4. Being able to see the hot girls and women in the street and not being able to talk to them will increase the level of hormones in men�s body.
5. the way the girls and women dressed is also a factor since they dress very sexy and at the same time keep most of their bodies covered
6. all porn sites are block by the government, so there is no way to vent if they want to vent using that method
7. dealing or distributing porno movies are illegal

On the other hand in the US the opposite is happening.

1. MAN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL
2. They teach sex prevention to underage kids Starting at 13 years old
3. Father and mother not home (working like dogs to survive)
4. kids can have sex and even get pregnant without fear of any one, since the government backs them up against the parents under child abuse umbrella
5. the men can all type of venting in the western world i.e. (Watching porno, going to night clubs and going home with any girl, going to nude clubs, �etc.)

Then women in this country they have been living in this dream of being equal with men and the men gave them a fake right and I will tell you why I thing after the women rights you as a woman have less rights than before.

1. you have to work to survive not like the Middle East counties it is a choice to work or not
2. Women gets regnant and the have to go back to work after few weeks of giving birth and hand over you kids to other to look after them. On the other hands in Middle East you have to privilege to be with your kids and raise then the way you want to.
3. all this hoopla about women rights was because they needed cheap labor. Tow third of world population are women so if we put them to work the number of people competing on a position is going to rise 200% which means they will work for less.

Any how good luck for all of you and you will be having the amount of sex you want and more when your man feels he is the man and he can take care of his family by himself and not worry about future.

Regards,