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Hi,
i never thought i was depressed. i never was too happy and each year i´m becoming more of a loner. I was out of work for a while and felt so down and unhappy..if i´m not bust i´m unhappy.I´d like to talk to someone to see if i´´m alright. is there a recognised list of questions that i could answer to assess myself?
Penny
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replied September 17th, 2007
Especially eHealthy
hello and wlecome to the forums! my name is suzy and i am here to help you in any way i can

ask any questions and feel free to tell me anything you need to say and i will do my best to ty and find answers for you

Very Happy
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replied November 4th, 2012
depressed
Hi,

I am feeling very depressed...Though I am very good by nature, I am not good looking rather I am dark and have scars on my face and fat...Somehow I feel every one gives importance to good looks ...
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replied September 17th, 2007
Hi Suzi,Thanks 4 your quick reply. I just would like to assess myself. I have been worried about myself in the past year and put it down to the usual things, splitting with girl friend, moving country(i moved to Spain at xmas) and find myself all alone most of the time with very little desire to interact and find myself making excuses so i can be alone..yet when i´m out i´m really good fun when i do go out and to all around i seen on top of the world. I am never happy where i am and keep moving on. Maybe im just an unhappy grump person and i shouldn´t be wasting your time.
what you think?
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replied September 17th, 2007
Especially eHealthy
i think maybe you are under stress. sounds to me like you have had a hard year and alot of things have happened to you to make you feel this way.
sometimes when things are going sour you really have to just close your eyes and stop thinking.
the brain is the most powerful thing and can cause you to get stressed out and such. you need to take some time for your self and relax

sit back and anylize your life and what it is and whsat its becomming.
look at the good things happening and try to focus on one or two goals you have for yourself that you would like to obtain.

life is tough and things suck sometimes but as long as you trealize it wont be this way forever then things will be fine!

i recommend a great movie that may help you see what im trying to explain
its called elizabethtown and its literally a miracle worker.

and remeber "No true fiasco ever began as a quest for mere adequacy. A motto of the British Special Air Force is: 'Those who risk, win.' A single green vine shoot is able to grow through cement. The Pacific Northwestern salmon beats itself bloody on it's quest to travel hundreds of miles upstream against the current, with a single purpose, sex of course, but also... life"
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replied September 17th, 2007
well cheers Suzi,
I thank you for you advice. I will try to follow it. however i do spend a lot of time dreaming about being happy in the future
ta,
Penny
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replied September 17th, 2007
Especially eHealthy
penny1001 wrote:
well cheers Suzi,
I thank you for you advice. I will try to follow it. however i do spend a lot of time dreaming about being happy in the future
ta,
Penny


penny i am here to support you whenevr you may need it! feel free to privte mesage me anytime youre felling down!
you sound like you have a great head on your shoulders and that you want to be happy in life! best of luck to you!
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replied September 23rd, 2007
thanks Suzi, I might just take you up on that. I dont know about a good hear on my sholders....
take care and ta again
Ken
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replied September 23rd, 2007
Especially eHealthy
penny1001 wrote:
thanks Suzi, I might just take you up on that. I dont know about a good hear on my sholders....
take care and ta again
Ken

well ken im here anytime!!!!! Smile
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replied February 11th, 2009
Being happy
I think you need to take your mind off work and just relax for a while....Hang out with some friends...Have a good night sleep..Don't worry about too many things...Do something you love doing...And then go out there and look for a job. It seems like one of the main reasons that you feel bad is because you don't have work...

I know the feeling of unhappiness like you. I used to have a heap of friends in middle school and then year after year my friends get less and less and we become more and more distant to each other...I used to be confident because I had friends everywhere I went so I was never alone...But now that I'm in high school...Me and my friends are getting more and more distant from each other...We have no classes together whatsoever and I don't feel as confident as I did before... I feel more and more shy and even more lonely. I feel like everyone in my class are friends with each other and I'm the loner in the corner. I'm trying my best to cope with it...so I hope you cope with your loneliness too. Aja aja Fighting!
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replied March 6th, 2009
Lonely
I get so depressed that I hurt really really bad, I have no one to talk to that they don't understand. I just want to sleep and hold pillow really really tight, Now I get chest pains, and I think they are anxiety attacks , I had them long time ago, and thats what the doctor said they were . I am so alone and lonely , I need someone
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replied March 20th, 2010
Hello
it has been long time i have been feeling alone and depressed i don;t know why am feeling like this ...things are not going too bad in my life ...i am in my final year in uni i have got friends but yet again am still really lonely...am feeling very distance from everyone i sometime feel that i don't want to be in contact with anyone i just want to be on my own and when i am on my own ...i feel sad and sometime i do cry ...am living with my parents and i feel i have not got anyone to talk too in the house there's only me and parents and i really do wish i had someone who i can talk to someone i can go out with ...most of the time am always home and i don't know why there is time that i don't want to step outside and when i don't do that i do get very misarable when am inside ....why is this happening to me ...i can not remember the last time i was happy and i fed up being unhappy ....
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replied April 2nd, 2010
Depression? I need an answer.
Okay, I know how you feel.. I wouldn''t say you''re depressed, because then I''d be too :S
I broke up from my boyfriend, we were together for nearly 2 years.. It hurt, I stopped eating, I failed exams because all I did was sit and wait for him to come online...
I hated myself. I didn''t go out. I stopped most contact with friends. Then, he got with one of my best mates, that crushed me. I stopped eating completely, I drank tea everyday and that was it.
Maybe I was depressed, maybe I still am..
But now, I feel as though my ex boyfriend is using me.
And I know this isn''t an answer to your problem, I need an answer to mine.
I''m really scared of getting hurt again. Well, i am hurt, I just can''t say no. Saying "just say no" isn''t working. I have no will power, I just want to be with him.
Help :/
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replied June 16th, 2010
Improve your life by 1% a day
Dear people,

we all feel unhappy or maybe even depressed once in a while. A question you need to ask yourself is whether this is becoming dominant in your life and prevents you from being yourself. Not referring to anyone in specific but maybe applicable to all of us:

Besides fysical reasons, I believe the main reason for depression is neglectance of feelings/desires. You are being lived and have not invested time to think about what it is you want in life. If you are unsure about what you want and where you are, your actions become unguided. Why do you do the things you do? Autopilot? Or worse others direct you?

If you want to be happy again, there is a simple rule: take ownership, do not complain. It sounds tough, but it might be the best way to get happy again. Take regular timeouts (once a month) to review your life, define what you want, how to get there and take care of it yourself. Your family/friends cannot do this for you. They can help you to achieve your goals, but you need to define them and manage your life based on your goals.

This is not egoistic, because goals can be very social (ie help my brother to graduate Wink. But you always need to take care of your personal wellness as well. You being happy is a blessing for your relations. They all want to see you happy. And you will become more powerfull and be there for them when they need you.

This all is not rocket science, but strangely enough not applied by many of us. I wish you all the very best and if you like have a look at the website below, which might help you to on your way to happiness. One final thought: imagine you improve your way of living by just 1% a day, how will you feel in a years time?

Kind regards and wihing the best for all of you!

David O'Guilvy
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replied June 16th, 2010
Hello, i am 26 years old
i was diagnosed with depression about 5 months ago and prescribed lamictal and cymbalta.
i have been suffering from these intense symptoms for the last 2 years and dont know wether i have been correctly diagnosed. note: there was no extraordinary event that caused my depression, but i am a perfectionist so might be very stressed about everything subconciously.
Symptoms are
1) Total mind blockage. brain feels like wood and plastic. Feels like theres no fat there. Mind doesnt work at all. Like my brain has shrunk.
2) detachment from feelings and emotions. Intuition, perception, satisfaction and elation all vanished. Robotic feeling.
3) Concentration and memory problems. Cant learn new things. Forgetfulness.
4) depressive mood, no happiness, motivation, desire or passion. Interest in hobbies, sports and socialising all gone.
5) depressed chest, shallow breathing
6) some pain while urinating.
7) low fluidity in thinking and planning.
Cool dark outlook for future.
90 Lethargy and heaviness.

Please note that I have felt a bit better after taking the medications, but I still havent reached my optimal point, where my brain feels all powerful and intelligent. i used to be connected to the world, emotionally and thinking. now I am a bit like robot.
My thinking has become better, but still need to be in control of my life, not the other way around. I used to be so confident of myself, felt I could take on anything. Also felt at peace with world and spirutally. Now thats gone.

Please advise whether this is depression or something else.

A very very concerned person
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replied October 4th, 2010
Hi People

i can relate to each and evryone one of you, and its great to read that your not alone.i'm generally concerned with some of the things your feeling. Iv been trying my best to not get so down, moody and moan about every little thing, as i know if i did then i will fall into depression.
Each and every single one of you need to take control of your life, as only you can make changes. what works for me is going on a long walks at least once a day either morning or evening, just to gather your thoughts. The more your couped up inside the worse youd feel. The other thing is talk, talk to some one you can trust, if you hold it in then youd burn up with all these emotions and take it out on others that you dont mean to.
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replied February 20th, 2011
Sometimes i feel like i dont care at all about my life or the people in it. Nothing i do matters to anybody and i know damn well that the things i do on a day to day basis are nothing but crude selfish acts. If i were to die tomorrow, my parents would cry as would my girlfriend, but hey they would get over it, its not like i ever amounted to much anyways. Right?
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replied May 2nd, 2011
Depressed and getting no where
I've never wanted to admit I'm depressed but have been for 7-8b years. All started after college but before university and I lost touch with everyone, and also being destroyed by my girlfriend leaving me for my best mate. I started drinking to make it go away but well it doesn't.

Long story short, its present day, I left my girlfriend as she was beating me and lied about being pregnant, I've moved back home and feel alone no matter where I am, I've tried taking control but I feel like its a 1 step forward, 2 steps back thing. I'm stuck in a rut and can't get out, I feel like the more I try the worse it gets.

Any ideas on how to start rebuilding my life, I don't want to feel like this anymore.
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replied August 30th, 2011
hey everyone,
i m basically an active person. but frm a few months, i dnt feel like doing anythng or socialising. i feel depressed, my emotional threshold hs become very less, i cry at anythng, and all the activities dat cheered me up likemovies or a good book, don't have d same effect anymore. i hv gained weight too.
are these signs of depression?
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replied May 28th, 2012
Depression Hurtz!
Im feeling depressed....no thoughts of suicide though. mostly the "symtoms". I feel i lost interest in the things i love, but i try to keep going on with my life. well i guess u can say i had temptations bout cuttin my arm. but i didnt. ive bein clean from alcohol for almost 3 months now, tempted to start drinking again. i think i will go to the doc's and tell her i have depression, see if i can get some anti-depressents
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replied June 26th, 2012
lonely
i feel lonely i think everybody in my life moved on they have friends, boyfriends and i have no one
nobody understands me i just need someone to talk
i can't talk to my parents cuz they don't understand al their thinking about is their jobs i wish i would have a friend a person that understands me
i'm tired all the time and i lost the power it feels like i'm in a hole and no matter how hard i try to get out i only fall deeper
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