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Q: vaginal penetration it's not enjoyable for me!
asked by: AmandaRae123 on September 16th, 2007
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I just can't accept the fact that my vagina doesn't have enough histamine or nerves to make vaginal penetration enjoyable for me. Not being able to enjoy intercourse has made me bitter about sex and envious of other women who enjoy it too. Whenever I am around women who talk about sex and how they love it doggystyle etc etc I get upset and move away. I just wish that I could relate. It's devastating.

I only enjoy oral sex, but after awhile that gets boring. My ex boyfriend thought I was abnormal because I didn't like penetration. That is just how uncommon it is for a woman to say she doesn't like it. I know ppl say that I am not alone but I don't care...if I say I don't feel anything durng sex people look at me like I am crazy because the majority of women do. It's hard to be told that I am normal by a bunch of women who generally like sex and can feel something. You can never know what it's like to be in my shoes.
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young Girl
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Re: I Can't Deal
AmandaRae123 wrote:
I just can't accept the fact that my vagina doesn't have enough histamine or nerves to make vaginal penetration enjoyable for me. Not being able to enjoy intercourse has made me bitter about sex and envious of other women who enjoy it too. Whenever I am around women who talk about sex and how they love it doggystyle etc etc I get upset and move away. I just wish that I could relate. It's devastating.

I only enjoy oral sex, but after awhile that gets boring. My ex boyfriend thought I was abnormal because I didn't like penetration. That is just how uncommon it is for a woman to say she doesn't like it. I know ppl say that I am not alone but I don't care...if I say I don't feel anything durng sex people look at me like I am crazy because the majority of women do. It's hard to be told that I am normal by a bunch of women who generally like sex and can feel something. You can never know what it's like to be in my shoes.


okay

well the majority of women dont get orgasmic pleasure during sex

maybe you need to see a doctor or something'sounds like you have some self esteem issues
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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most women don't orgasm but they at least feel something. I don't feel a thing at all.
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young Girl
replied on September 16th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
most women don't orgasm but they at least feel something. I don't feel a thing at all.


hmm
you dont feel his penis in you at all?!?!? nothing?
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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At times it seems that way. But usually I know something is in there, but I don't feel any pleasure from it. Just occasional discomfort or the feeling of something going in and out.

And it's like when I have sex my mind goes other places, like I try to fantasize about some of the dirtiest things but I usually end up frustrated.
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young Girl
replied on September 16th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
At times it seems that way. But usually I know something is in there, but I don't feel any pleasure from it. Just occasional discomfort or the feeling of something going in and out.

And it's like when I have sex my mind goes other places, like I try to fantasize about some of the dirtiest things but I usually end up frustrated.


you need to see a doctor or a theripist or something to get some help on this issue because i have no idea what to tell you except im really sorry Sad
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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I've been to a gyn she saw nothing wrong down there. As for a therapist, I don't have any health insurance to cover something like that.

I wish I were normal like most women Sad I hate the fact taht I have to put in so much effort into what comes natural to most people
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young Girl
replied on September 16th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
I've been to a gyn she saw nothing wrong down there. As for a therapist, I don't have any health insurance to cover something like that.

I wish I were normal like most women Sad I hate the fact taht I have to put in so much effort into what comes natural to most people


its gotta be a mental block or something makeing you not enjoy sex? maybe there is a supplement or something you can take to get you more in the mood
have you tried watching porn?
when you masterbate do you have an orgasm normally? oor do you still feel nothing?
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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when i masterbate i have clitoral orgasms because I rub my clit.

I have a normal sex drive, I do get aroused and horny, it's just that when penetration is involved it doesn't give me any pleasure. I have bought sex toys and put them in every place imaginable inside of me, and have yet to find any 'hot spots' that so many women swear by that are inside of the vagina.
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Tylanas
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Trust me, I don't have a "hot spot". I have a "gotta pee!" spot. I have had times during sex where all I wanted was for it to end because I had to pee or was bored!!

Like we keep telling you, unless you're completely numb, it's pretty normal.

Have you tried anal? Random question, but I know a gal who cannot get pleasure from vaginal sex. She tried anal one night and lo and behold: Orgasm!

And again: touch the clitoris during sex! I'd never orgasm if I didn't!!
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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No, I am not interested at all in anal sex. You can't do that on a regular basis and you can risk tearing your rectum up. No thank you
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Tylanas
replied on September 16th, 2007
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AmandaRae123 wrote:
No, I am not interested at all in anal sex. You can't do that on a regular basis and you can risk tearing your rectum up. No thank you

Well, like I said, just throwing it out there.

You risk ripping your vagina too, but I guess that doesn't matter. No, anal sex isn't as "easy" as vagina sex.
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Well, i am going to keep on trying. I will not die until vaginal penetration feels good to me. I'll feel like less of a woman if I did.
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Tylanas
replied on September 16th, 2007
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And what about the women who can't even clitorally orgasm? I guess they must be... men!? XD
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young Girl
replied on September 16th, 2007
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Eiri wrote:
And what about the women who can't even clitorally orgasm? I guess they must be... men!? XD

there are women who cant clitorally orasm?!!?!?!? Shocked
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Tylanas
replied on September 16th, 2007
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the_girlfreind wrote:
Eiri wrote:
And what about the women who can't even clitorally orgasm? I guess they must be... men!? XD

there are women who cant clitorally orasm?!!?!?!? Shocked

Oh heck yes O.o
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Chezzy
replied on September 17th, 2007
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What about different positions.. Question
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AmandaRae123
replied on September 17th, 2007
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different positions don't help. in fact it can make the discomfort i feel worse. the bigger the penis the more discomfort i experience
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taryn420
replied on September 18th, 2007
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Look all i can tell you is...i feel your pain. And your boyfriend is an jerk for not being more understanding. You cant really expect to have an orgasm with him if hes being all judgemental. That would kill it right there.
Me and my boyfriend have been trying for 2 freakin years to get me off with his penis actually inside me and i only did it ONCE and that was with the aid of a vibrator egg and it took like 45 minutes.
Sucks to be us.
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Georgia59
replied on September 18th, 2007
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You are normal. This is how most women are. That's why sex aids were invented!!

You should not consider yourself less of a woman.
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