Trust me, I don't have a "hot spot". I have a "gotta pee!" spot. I have had times during sex where all I wanted was for it to end because I had to pee or was bored!!
Like we keep telling you, unless you're completely numb, it's pretty normal.
Have you tried anal? Random question, but I know a gal who cannot get pleasure from vaginal sex. She tried anal one night and lo and behold: Orgasm!
And again: touch the clitoris during sex! I'd never orgasm if I didn't!!