Weight Loss Forum - Relationship between obesity, weight, and attraction page 3

Chillout2

on September 12th, 2007

Experienced User

nightangel73 wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

yeah well some people cant help what they weigh
some people cant loose or gain weight

yuo dont know him so dont judge him. he may have a disorder or something?

i weighed 99lbs before i was pregnant and i couldnt gain weight for crap
no matter how much of what i ate i stayed small
dont judge someone like you did. that was wrong and not a very nice thing to do
if you have a negative comment keep it to your bless self because no one wants to hear it

Actually, Suzy, basic science will tell you that weight gain and/or weight loss is simply calories in versus calories out. The more you eat, the more you weigh. The less you eat, the less you weigh.

An opinion was asked for in this thread and nightangel gave an opinion. It may not be what YOU would choose (by the way, how many boyfriends and successful relationships have you had?) but it wasn't unsolicited.

I found that your insulting her was a bit much though. You outright called her names

the_girlfreind wrote:

thats ok because he doesnt like self cenetered rude arrogant b***** Wink

And Victoria as well.

victoria16 wrote:

I cant believe how you could be SO ingnorant!!! Could you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was like you?!? It would be a disaster!!
Your judging a book by its cover and thats NO COOL!!! I still think you should apologise. Confused

I'm curious how many overweight men either of you have dated that you are so knowledgable about the issues of dating obese people and not judging a book by its cover.

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

so you say you are a model?? aha so you do care a lot about your appearance for a reason.

Actually I dont care alot obout the way I look, I mean ofcourse I like to like nice, but its really the companys I model for that care about what I look like.

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Chillout2

replied on September 12th, 2007

Experienced User

nightangel73 wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

yeah well some people cant help what they weigh
some people cant loose or gain weight

yuo dont know him so dont judge him. he may have a disorder or something?

i weighed 99lbs before i was pregnant and i couldnt gain weight for crap
no matter how much of what i ate i stayed small
dont judge someone like you did. that was wrong and not a very nice thing to do
if you have a negative comment keep it to your bless self because no one wants to hear it

Actually, Suzy, basic science will tell you that weight gain and/or weight loss is simply calories in versus calories out. The more you eat, the more you weigh. The less you eat, the less you weigh.

An opinion was asked for in this thread and nightangel gave an opinion. It may not be what YOU would choose (by the way, how many boyfriends and successful relationships have you had?) but it wasn't unsolicited.

I found that your insulting her was a bit much though. You outright called her names

the_girlfreind wrote:

thats ok because he doesnt like self cenetered rude arrogant b***** Wink

And Victoria as well.

victoria16 wrote:

I cant believe how you could be SO ingnorant!!! Could you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was like you?!? It would be a disaster!!
Your judging a book by its cover and thats NO COOL!!! I still think you should apologise. Confused

I'm curious how many overweight men either of you have dated that you are so knowledgable about the issues of dating obese people and not judging a book by its cover.

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

I have seeing in my gym a few personal trainers that are a bit overweight. I don't want to be trained by neither of them because that to me means they are doing something wrong. Burning fat is like a science and unless you have thryroid problem (which I do feel for those indivuals) when you burn the fat you are going to loose the fat weight. That's just how it is. My problem was viceversa as I was too skinny. Again you can't go wrong with phsysics. With bodybuilding routines I gained all the weight that i needed. Most of my overweight friends have no thyroid or diabetic issues or anything of the sort, they just have unhealthy diets and don't do excersice then therefore they are overweight.

My mom is requested at gyms that she doesnt work at and her classes are always full. Shes got something in her stomach removed when was younger I forget the name...wait I think it was her golblatter (sp).
Her doctors said that why she its very hard for her to lose weight.

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Chillout2

replied on September 12th, 2007

Experienced User

Ingi wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

That must have been so hard for your overweight family to see you become a model and drive you to your shoots and see all that focus on thinness.

And I've already pointed out exactly how I feel about the thyroid problem. It may be a Big Mac problem.

My family is actually very proud of me. I model athletic sports wear and other things but Im not like a stick figure I have curves since I am latin, I work hard for the body I have. I also dont focus on being thin, I eat rite and excersize but thats simply having a healthy life style. You know, I do have to say that obesity is becoming more problem, its not healthy, however they should not be judged as a person because of it.

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nightangel73

replied on September 13th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

victoria16 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

That must have been so hard for your overweight family to see you become a model and drive you to your shoots and see all that focus on thinness.

And I've already pointed out exactly how I feel about the thyroid problem. It may be a Big Mac problem.

My family is actually very proud of me. I model athletic sports wear and other things but Im not like a stick figure I have curves since I am latin, I work hard for the body I have. I also dont focus on being thin, I eat rite and excersize but thats simply having a healthy life style. You know, I do have to say that obesity is becoming more problem, its not healthy, however they should not be judged as a person because of it.

We are not judging them as persons were are only saying that obesity is unatractive and unhealthy and they should do something about it. Like working hard in the gym as you are.

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everyday_struggle

replied on September 13th, 2007

Experienced User

victoria16 wrote:

My family is actually very proud of me. I model athletic sports wear and other things but Im not like a stick figure I have curves since I am latin, I work hard for the body I have. I also dont focus on being thin, I eat rite and excersize but thats simply having a healthy life style. You know, I do have to say that obesity is becoming more problem, its not healthy, however they should not be judged as a person because of it.

they shouldnt, but they do. Ask the poster. =)

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Chillout2

replied on September 13th, 2007

Experienced User

nightangel73 wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

That must have been so hard for your overweight family to see you become a model and drive you to your shoots and see all that focus on thinness.

And I've already pointed out exactly how I feel about the thyroid problem. It may be a Big Mac problem.

My family is actually very proud of me. I model athletic sports wear and other things but Im not like a stick figure I have curves since I am latin, I work hard for the body I have. I also dont focus on being thin, I eat rite and excersize but thats simply having a healthy life style. You know, I do have to say that obesity is becoming more problem, its not healthy, however they should not be judged as a person because of it.

We are not judging them as persons were are only saying that obesity is unatractive and unhealthy and they should do something about it. Like working hard in the gym as you are.

Oh but you are, your not giving them a chance becuase thier over weight.

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young Girl

replied on September 13th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

this needs to be locked NOW

you know what
the Op is gone
hes read this and hes not comming back obviously thanks to all of the b**** and stupis arrogant idiots who have posted here. you know what this forum and this site is not meant for people to judge nyone
these people come on here for help because they have no where else to go and then theres people *you know who you are* who sit there and leave rude comments that turn people away from this site

what the heck is worng with you people?
i will definately be speaking with lee about this because i think its way out of control and some of the things on here being said are causeing people to turn away from this site which is not what we are here for.

victoria- just because you are a model doenst mean you are vain and selfish...dont let people label you girl Wink

sean- hun im so sorry that people like this in the world exist...pm me if you need it ok?

ingi- i eat like a pig and i eat what i want when i want and i could never gain weight so thanks very much nbut i dont think you need to tell me that it depends on calories and such. when you become a nutritionist then go ahead and let me know. until then....

sillyakchick who is the mod for this forum?

please lock this

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Mabel

replied on September 13th, 2007

Moderator

the_girlfreind wrote:

ingi- i eat like a pig and i eat what i want when i want and i could never gain weight so thanks very much nbut i dont think you need to tell me that it depends on calories and such. when you become a nutritionist then go ahead and let me know. until then....

That is an interesting point about the nutritionist thing...

But what I said wasn't directed at you, sweetie, don't get your hormones in a bunch Wink

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young Girl

replied on September 13th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Ingi wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

ingi- i eat like a pig and i eat what i want when i want and i could never gain weight so thanks very much nbut i dont think you need to tell me that it depends on calories and such. when you become a nutritionist then go ahead and let me know. until then....

That is an interesting point about the nutritionist thing...

But what I said wasn't directed at you, sweetie, don't get your hormones in a bunch Wink

lol
well after reading all of this im overwhelmed with dissapointment in people on this froum and the comments here that were made

i feel the need that this should be locked

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Mabel

replied on September 13th, 2007

Moderator

the_girlfreind wrote:

lol
well after reading all of this im overwhelmed with dissapointment in people on this froum and the comments here that were made

i feel the need that this should be locked

To be completely honest, I think a lot of these comments were made because you and Victoria have a rose colored glasses view of the world. From your age perspective, I can understand why you would feel that way, but the real world is far different.

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young Girl

replied on September 13th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Ingi wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

lol
well after reading all of this im overwhelmed with dissapointment in people on this froum and the comments here that were made

i feel the need that this should be locked

To be completely honest, I think a lot of these comments were made because you and Victoria have a rose colored glasses view of the world. From your age perspective, I can understand why you would feel that way, but the real world is far different.

the world is far different...but again this is not a place to judge people at all! its no ones place in life...did you read what she said? " i dont like fat guys...sorry"

umm sorry but that was quite rude dont ya think? maybe he has a disorder? maybe he cant loose weight? how do we know hes fat? he had a picture of his face and you couldnt see the rest of his body so how do we know?

this is NOT a place to judge and say mean things to people who come on here needing help!

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Chillout2

replied on September 13th, 2007

Experienced User

Ingi wrote:

the_girlfreind wrote:

lol
well after reading all of this im overwhelmed with dissapointment in people on this froum and the comments here that were made

i feel the need that this should be locked

To be completely honest, I think a lot of these comments were made because you and Victoria have a rose colored glasses view of the world. From your age perspective, I can understand why you would feel that way, but the real world is far different.

I agrea this should be locked. You know teenagers are far more judgemental then adults are when it comes to the way people look, obviously you can all tell I wish people were not like this, but there really is nothing that can be done. I see and live in the real world, that IS why Im so upset.

SUZY- Thank you. Very Happy

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nightangel73

replied on September 13th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

victoria16 wrote:

nightangel73 wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

Ingi wrote:

victoria16 wrote:

I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

That must have been so hard for your overweight family to see you become a model and drive you to your shoots and see all that focus on thinness.

And I've already pointed out exactly how I feel about the thyroid problem. It may be a Big Mac problem.

My family is actually very proud of me. I model athletic sports wear and other things but Im not like a stick figure I have curves since I am latin, I work hard for the body I have. I also dont focus on being thin, I eat rite and excersize but thats simply having a healthy life style. You know, I do have to say that obesity is becoming more problem, its not healthy, however they should not be judged as a person because of it.

We are not judging them as persons were are only saying that obesity is unatractive and unhealthy and they should do something about it. Like working hard in the gym as you are.

Oh but you are, your not giving them a chance becuase thier over weight.

what you mean I'm not giving them a chance? I have a gazillion of overweight friends that I love very much. What I won't give a chance is for as a sexual partner/lover. If I am not attracted to a man I can't be with them as partners. Obesity is not the only thing I would not date a man for. I also wouldn't date if they have kids, if they are bald, if they are short, if the have a small wiener, if they don't have a degree etc. To each his own. And now I won't give the chance to any other man because I'm getting married..

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help_me_pleez

replied on November 26th, 2007

New User

Well Im Overweight

and I can honestly say that I have been loved by and treated so much better by my man than my two sisters who are both thin have been treated by thier men, furthermore I would like to invite a whole lot of poeple to kiss my ass since I have a best friend who is very thin and she eats a lot more JUNK than I do and never gains a pound, I think many girls fall in this categorty and there fore cannot understand weight troubles and are so down on fat folks, KISS IT

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ServiceU

replied on June 4th, 2009

Supporter

i love tall, big football player kind of guys. this really turns me on.
i've gained 30lbs in 2 years which i feel bad about, but i can still go outside on any given day and have a guy blow his horn, or a guy on foot to try to talk to me.
i am voluptous! like beyonce, maybe thicker, but my b/f loves it. so depends on the eye of the beholder.

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