I have never dated any who one was abese. I had dated a couple guys in the past thet were chubby. My ant is obese and I see how people call her piggy etc. behind her back and it breacks my heart that people could judge her like that. She has a thyroid problem it is not her fault.
My mom is also considered obese though she is the most beautiful person in the world to me...she is an arobic instructor/personal trainer, she eats healthy but she cant seem to lose weight. MY BROTHER was also obese growing up and he was teased at school all the time!! He would come home crying from school. He has no grown out of it and is a great person.
When I was younger I was teased all the time, and hated leaving the house so though I was not chubby or obese I know what its like to be teased and have hurtful words thrown in my face. I have grown up knowing how much it can hurt to be made fun of and judged based on appearence. Im now 16, a model, a soon to be mom, an arobics trainer, Im going to graduate from high school and go to college. I want people that were made fun of like me to be succesful in life and not think everyone is out to get them...and those comments that were made were hurtful.

There are so many more factors than calories

so you say you are a model?? aha so you do care a lot about your appearance for a reason.

I have seeing in my gym a few personal trainers that are a bit overweight. I don't want to be trained by neither of them because that to me means they are doing something wrong. Burning fat is like a science and unless you have thryroid problem (which I do feel for those indivuals) when you burn the fat you are going to loose the fat weight. That's just how it is. My problem was viceversa as I was too skinny. Again you can't go wrong with phsysics. With bodybuilding routines I gained all the weight that i needed. Most of my overweight friends have no thyroid or diabetic issues or anything of the sort, they just have unhealthy diets and don't do excersice then therefore they are overweight.

Then you prove the whole point here. You were fat and you loose the weight and then guys hit on you and you seem you like it and I see you are proud of it. If you didn't care about the appearance you wouldn't have bother to loose all the weight. But you did because it matters to you and now you are happy with the outcome.

Really? Like what? Like thyroid problems? Check. But that would just mean you'd need to adjust your calories to whatever thyroid condition you have.

I will agree that being overweight sucks. But if you can exercise AND drop your caloric intake and still not see any weight loss, well, you need to be studied by scientists because they could use whatever causes that problem to cure starvation.

Some people may have to work harder to lose weight. And they may have to eat a lot less than some one else. But no one is stuck where they are at.

I agree with this. I wouldn't want to see an overweight nutritionalist either. I would be paying for their advice on how to be HEALTHY and if they can't manage it, how could they tell me how to manage it?

More people than not lie to themselves about what they put in their bodies. Most people say they eat well - but if that is the case, why are so many people overweight? Rampant thyroid disease? Apparently everyone has a 'bad' thyroid. -- Even with an underactive thyroid though, weight loss can be achieved. It may be harder than it is for some people, but it is not impossible.

That must have been so hard for your overweight family to see you become a model and drive you to your shoots and see all that focus on thinness.

And I've already pointed out exactly how I feel about the thyroid problem. It may be a Big Mac problem.

Ingi, you are great. Someone who appreciates honesty. Everyday_struggle, I think you're great, too. Refreshing to hear your views.

I don't choose overweight men to partner up with. If you don't care about yourself, how can you care about someone else?

you never dated anyone obese because you cant bring yourself dating some overweight fat boy that doesnt want to do the physical activities that maybe required to date you. I understand the compassion you may have for fat people, but you were never fat, so you dont know. You just feel sorry for them but you would never date them (according to your past). I was at 245 when i started hitting the gym, now im at 200. I am defintley getting a lot more attention now, then i was when i was fatter. I WONDER WHY THAT IS. I didnt get any richer, or have a bigger house or car. Telling this guy that its ok for him to be fat and that he shouldnt worry about what other people say is not why he came on here for. Im sure people tell him that all day and my hunch, the 2 females telling him not to worry about it, DO NOT DATE OBESE GUYS. That is what i find hypocritical and i will call you out on it.

i agree. I understood that when i was terribly overweight its because girls probably thought i didnt take care of myself and they do, so why are they going to want to hook up with me? So i took the initiative to read a few books on working out and paid a trainer to teach me the ropes and now working out is great. (before i didnt know how to workout) Once you know how to work out then the possibilities are endless it seems. Before as to where i was thinking "wow, this girl is talking to me" but now. Im like "this girl is lucky that shes talking to me", yes its a lil bit of a scumbag but you need that kind of confidence to deal with girls that get hit on all day.

True.

NOPE not thyroid.. PCOS For me tolose weight. I don't watch fat content or calories.. I have to watch sugar and carbs. My boyfriend went to university to learn about this. You can't just calorie count to lose weight

By watching your sugar and your carbs, you are essentially counting calories because no sugar and no carbs means less calories.

Using a disease as an excuse that you cant lose weight is a cop out. Its a sorry excuse. Thats like addicts saying that are addicted to pain medication because they are always in pain. Give ME A BREAK. Show me the disease that makes you gain weight. I will show you sources that can reduce it. Even CRipples can lose weight!

My boyfriend is over weight and he is great! He actually went to university and knows what he should be eating, but prefers what hes doing now. Yeah sure it adds some pounds, but hes really happy. We are very happy together. I don't think that how he has ever felt about himself reflects on how he feels about me. He treats me like a queen. So, I think they are different things. There is so much more to life then how much a person looks. What they eat etc. We have great life experiences together. We enjoy being in each others company and the extra 25 pounds he carries doesn't change a thing.

After reading all of this I really feel sorry for the OP to have his post drug through the mud in such a manner. This is not a debate forum. This should be locked with apologies to OP.

i respect that and im happy for you. But unfortunely that is not the world we live in, as you can see by the author of this post. I have gone out with really skinny and thick girls, not really fat, but enough to where they were self concience about it. I personally dont care about fat. I just like pretty faces, thats my thing. But a lot of these young girls watch mtv and read magazines that tell them whats hot and whats not. Sucks the world is this way but it is, and to tell this kid something else is irresponsible and a lie.

25 extra pounds is not much..

I am glad you are both happy. There certainly is more to life than what a person looks like, I agree. Like being healthy. I am coming from a healthy perspective, not a vanity based one.

I have a hard time respecting someone who does not take care of their physical well being no matter if they are thin or obese.