Relationship between obesity, weight, and attraction (Page 1)

Thank you!! See I don't like to sugar coat the thruth. I also think that damage is to not tell the guy what is wrong with them. It is better to say the thruth so that they can do something about it. For example stop eating those fatty foods and begin a DIET and EXERCISE routine. Fatness is something you CAN CHANGE at no cost so they only need to begin working on it. Being overweight not only makes you unattractive it also increases your chances of heart attack and strokes. It aint good any way you want to put it.

I met this guy from online one time and he was a regular not overweight guy. He confessed to me he used to weight over 200 pounds but that he did diet and excersice and lost all the weight inspired that he could date more women. He was very proud of himself for his achievement and I commended him. That is the way to go!

And that is very true lot of women love the chance to "fix" a guy! I am one.

yeah well some people cant help what they weigh
some people cant loose or gain weight

yuo dont know him so dont judge him. he may have a disorder or something?

i weighed 99lbs before i was pregnant and i couldnt gain weight for crap
no matter how much of what i ate i stayed small
dont judge someone like you did. that was wrong and not a very nice thing to do
if you have a negative comment keep it to your damn self because no one wants to hear it

I have not judged him. I only said I don't like fat guys and meant as for a love partner. No big deal.

I know. Were is he? YOU RUDE people probably scared him away! GOSH

He thinks it ok to hit WOMAN???!!!

I actually had that same problem when I was younger of not being able to gain weight no matter how much I eat. I used to weigh 106 at almost 5'7 tall. I learned that food wasn't going to do it alone so I joined a gym and did weight bearing routines and gained 25 pounds in lean muscle mass within a year. Then subsequently guys began to hit on me. The sure didn't looked at me when I looked anorexic skinny. And I felt great when I gained the weight. I don't have that problem anymore. Now if I eat a lot that much I will gain the weight too.

sean, d0nt listen to the words of this ignorant little girl. She knows nothing about life except that its better to be pregnant at 16 than at any other age. Shes too busy trying to become a mod at this site than to offer any real advice or solutions. Except that "everything is going to be ok" and then she tries to assisinate my character because i slapped some stupid girl who didnt need to run her mouth at my apartment. I just cant wait for her "babydaddy" to leave her high and dry because I dont understand what about her you can find attractive. Shes disgusting. Anyway, stay away from girls like her because they do nothing but spread legs and make babies.

no, i dont. She just likes to spin my words to make herself sound more credible.

Wow I can't believe you said that.. I hear all kinds of Christian things from you and you say that? I use to be shallow and thought a certain type of person is what I would only be with, and then I grew up. I started looking and thinking and realized that people no matter what size body, nose, feet, ears, had a lot of special things to offer.. Like Hearts, caring, honesty, and I did a 100% turn around and I wish some of those people I snubbed when I was young where in my life now. Do I want to have sex with a fat man.. Yep, if his heart was right his size would not matter..

UHHH HELLO?!? Have YOU seen the things you are writing. SLAPPING a girl is not ok no matter what!!! Another thing is how could you talk so rudely about Suzy. Suzy for one gives GREAT advice, and has comforted me becuase I to am 16 and pregnant. Dont hate on her becuase she's rite and you are clearly WRONG! Suzy is not ugly, shes very pretty, you saying that just proves more so that you are shallow! An only paying attention to looks, her babys daddy loves her, so dont talk about them like that. YOU dont know her.
Ps. Just because we are pregnant at 16 doesnt meen we are sluts, or spread our legs for everyone. I have only had sex with one boy, and I have been with him for a year.

Exactly. Love with your heart not with your eyes.

im not talking about you, im talking about her. I havent seen you introduce yourself like "hi, im victoria, im 16 and pregnant. Shes pregnant like its some kind of badge of honor, she obviously gets paid no attention at home and got pregnant because she craves it. Her "great advice" is "dont worry everything would be ok" apparently its not. Thats why this kid came on here saying that because of the way he looks girls dont pay attention to him and all she says is "dont worry about it". Shes a fake, a liar and a phony. I dont like people like that and if i choose to talk to her rude is because i call her out on her BS because thats all she says is BS. and as far as you go, i dont get the feeling that being pregnant defines you as a person which it clearly does with her.

This kid is a young guy with young girls, they do not have your years of wisdom. You cant tell me all young girls think the way you do, they should, but just like you when you was younger, they dont. This is not a perfect world and the same hangups that you had as a kid a lot of these youung girls have, but its not just girls too its boys. Thats why you have these girls no matter how disgustingly ugly they are. they put tons of make up on, use different camera angles to make themselves appear prettier. This is the way the world works. you can love it or hate it.

I don't think he like skinny little !**@! like you. That was so self centered and rude. Why would you even make a comment

OMG! Do you really live your life by a SEX IN THE CITY BOOK? COME ON! My boyfriend is over weight. I love his chubby spots.. He is sweet kind and loving. I find you VERY egotistical and rude. making comments like that. Each person is there own person and you are probably missing out on someone really special.. LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING THERE ARE MORE TO LIFE THAN LOOKS!

Good call! I was fat too, but have lost all of the weight. It hurts being fat, but it doesn't (shouldn't ) change who you are as a person

Sean..

How old are you? How long have you been dating? What do you mean you have bad luck? is it just your weight that you're worried about? I am sorry to hear that you're concerned.. I hope that it all smooths out for you. Which I am sure it will I am sure that you will be fine and you will meet someone very special.

I used to be big too. I am telling you that I was HUGE and no one at the school dances would dance with me. No one wanted to be friends with me (except for a few other chubby girls) Well.. I am 24 now. I have worked out and became rather fit. I went to college and uni. I have also been a model.. ( which was a LONG shot) However, I did good with it.

NOW, just a month ago.. I joined the site face book and some of the guys who used to like me are wanting to date me. Funny, because I actually looked them up and added them. Same with the girls. I added everyone who treated me like !**@!.. Just to see what would happen? Maybe they grew up? I don't know maybe they're just interested cause I look good.. Who really knows..

I knew all along that I had a good heart and that I am a loving person and someday someone who didn't know my "ugly' past would come along.. He did. You know that can happen for you too. So, if these ladies aren't interested because of what youlook like.. Forget them (also remember them) Because someday when you are a success.. THEN you wont want to date them.

Just be patient. Sorry you're having a hard time

Actually, Suzy, basic science will tell you that weight gain and/or weight loss is simply calories in versus calories out. The more you eat, the more you weigh. The less you eat, the less you weigh.

An opinion was asked for in this thread and nightangel gave an opinion. It may not be what YOU would choose (by the way, how many boyfriends and successful relationships have you had?) but it wasn't unsolicited.

I found that your insulting her was a bit much though. You outright called her names

And Victoria as well.

I'm curious how many overweight men either of you have dated that you are so knowledgable about the issues of dating obese people and not judging a book by its cover.